Secure Attachment & The Good Life: Surprising Insights | Amir Levine, M.D.

About this episode

Amir Levine, M.D. discusses the importance of small interactions in relationships and their impact on self-esteem and security.

The tiny moments you ignore may hold the key to it all. New research in neuroscience and attachment science reveals that your brain is constantly monitoring your relationships through small, everyday interactions, and the signals it picks up quietly shape everything from your self-esteem to your sense that life has meaning. Most of us pour energy into the big relationship gestures, the long conversations, the grand repairs. But the seemingly insignificant exchanges, a returned text, a warm nod, a moment of simply being seen, may matter far more to your brain and your sense of security than you ever realized. Amir Levine, M.D. is a psychiatrist, neuroscientist, and Associate Professor of Clinical Psychiatry at Columbia University who trained in molecular neuroscience under Nobel Laureate Eric Kandel. He is the coauthor of the international bestseller Attached, which has sold over two million copies in more than 30 languages, and his newest book is Secure, The Revolutionary Guide to Creating a Secure Life . In this episode, you'll discover: The brain science behind why even brief moments of exclusion can erode your self-esteem, sense of control, and feeling that life is meaningful…

People in this episode

Host: Jonathan Fields

Guest: Amir Levine, M.D.

Topics covered

• attachment science
• neuroscience
• self-esteem
• relationships
• personal development

Keywords

• attachment style
• neuroscience
• self-esteem
• relationships
• communication

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Columbia University

Books & works: Attached, Secure, The Revolutionary Guide to Creating a Secure Life

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