Homework: Building Persistence, Resilience & Independence

Homework: Building Persistence, Resilience & Independence

From How Not to Screw Up Your Kids by Dr Maryhan

May 6, 2026 · 23 min

About this episode

This episode discusses how to transform homework into a tool for building persistence, resilience, and independence in children.

Hands up if you like homework… Me neither. But homework isn’t just a task to be completed. It’s a powerful opportunity to build persistence, resilience and independence in your children. Homework can so easily become a battleground filled with tears, avoidance and frustration, yet when we shift our focus from performance to process, everything changes. In today’s episode, I explore why the “how” of our support matters far more than the worksheets themselves, and why our job isn’t to rescue our children from discomfort but to create the conditions that help them start, stick with it and feel capable. You are going to learn how to tailor homework routines to your child’s needs, how to spot when avoidance is really anxiety or perfectionism, and how to use five practical strategies to transform homework from a nightly fight into a long‑term skill‑building habit. If homework has become a source of stress in your home, this episode will help you reset the dynamic with clarity and confidence. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 00:33 - Not just about the work 03:52 - Focus on the how 05:17 - Who’s homework is it? 09:50…

People in this episode

Host: Dr Maryhan

Topics covered

  • homework
  • persistence
  • resilience
  • independence
  • parenting strategies
  • child development

Keywords

  • homework
  • parenting
  • resilience
  • independence
  • child anxiety
  • homework strategies
  • skill-building

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