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Divorce Cyberstalking: What to Do If You Think Your Ex Is Watching You OnlineDivorce Crash Course: Don’t make expensive divorce mistakes.Our Divorce Crash Course walks you through the biggest legal, financial, emotional, and co-parenting mistakes people make during divorce — and how to avoid them.Typically priced at $150, available now for just $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.Start the course here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseCyberstalking during divorce can make you feel unsafe, paranoid, unsteady, and completely overwhelmed.But here’s the thing: sometimes what feels “crazy” is actually a real digital safety issue.In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and Morgan L. Stogsdill are joined by Steven Bradley, a former FBI task force leader, cybersecurity expert, domestic violence specialist, and cyberstalking educator, to talk about what to do if you think your ex is watching, tracking, monitoring, or digitally harassing you during divorce.And yes — this episode is scary.But more importantly, it is actionable.Steven explains that cyberstalking is often easier than people realize because many exes already know your passwords, security question answers, shared devices, family routines, Wi-Fi setup, smart home devices, and personal information. Cyberstalking is not always some dramatic hacker-in-a-hoodie situation. Sometimes it is access to your Amazon Alexa, Ring doorbell, Nest thermostat, pet camera, cloud account, location sharing, shared passwords, or old devices.In other words: your ex may not need to “hack” you if they already have access.Terrifying? Yes. Useful to know? Also yes.In this episode, we cover:How cyberstalking can show up during divorceWhy many people dismiss early warning signs as “coincidences”How smart home devices can be used to monitor or harass someoneWhy shared passwords and security questions are a major riskWhat to do if you think your ex has access to your phone, email, cloud, or devicesWhy you should not delete suspicious messages or evidenceHow to create a timeline of cyberstalking concernsWhen to tell your divorce attorneyWhy co-parenting apps can help protect communicationHow VPNs, multi-factor authentication, and anti-malware tools can helpWhy public Wi-Fi can be riskyWhat parents should know about children’s apps, gaming, and DiscordWhy taking action can lower paranoia and help you feel saferFirst signs of cyberstalking during divorceCyberstalking can start small.You may notice:strange text messagesanonymous calls or emailsyour ex showing up where you aresmart home devices acting strangelylights, thermostats, or cameras changing unexpectedlyunfamiliar apps on your phonelogin alertsodd account activitysomeone seeming to know things they should not knowSteven explains that many offenders start with small behaviors and escalate when they feel they can get away with it. That is why it is important not to dismiss everything as coincidence, especially during a high-conflict divorce or custody battle.What to do if you think you are being cyberstalkedSteven’s first action step is simple:Do not delete anything.Preserve texts, emails, screenshots, suspicious messages, device alerts, app changes, login warnings, and anything that feels off. Create a timeline. Write down what happened, when it happened, where you were, and what evidence you have.Digital evidence can be time-sensitive, and some data may disappear or overwrite itself. The sooner you document, the better.Tell your divorce attorney earlyIf you believe you may be dealing with cyberstalking, do not wait until it becomes unbearable.Tell your attorney.Morgan explains that divorce lawyers may need outside experts to help connect the dots, preserve evidence, and explain what is happening in a way the court can understand. Cyberstalking can be technical, and many attorneys and judges are not cybersecurity experts.This is not about panicking.It is about protecting yourself, documenting what is happening, and getting the right people involved early.Secure your digital lifeSteven recommends assuming your passwords may be compromised and taking steps to secure your digital life.That may include:changing passwordschanging security questionsturning on multi-factor authenticationreviewing location sharingchecking Life360, Find My, Snap Maps, and similar appsauditing old accountsclosing accounts you no longer useusing anti-malware tools on phones and computersavoiding public Wi-Fi when possibleusing a reputable VPNchecking shared smart home devicesreviewing cloud accessremoving your ex from shared accounts and devicesAnd yes, this includes the things people forget about: Alexa, pet cameras, thermostats, doorbells, old apps, children’s devices, shared family accounts, and even old platforms you forgot existed.Friendster, we are looking at you.Why co-parenting apps matterIf communication with your ex feels unsafe, chaotic, manipulative, or digitally risky, this may be a time to talk to your attorney about using a court-monitored co-parenting app.In this episode, Steven and Morgan discuss how a co-parenting app like Our Family Wizard can help keep communication contained, documented, and harder to manipulate.If you are concerned about cyberstalking or digital harassment, talk to your attorney about whether requesting a co-parenting app makes sense in your case.Our Family Wizard:www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck20How Not to Suck at Divorce listeners can save 20% off the Essentials package for the first year through our relationship with Our Family Wizard.The biggest takeawayTechnology is not the problem.Stalking, control, and harassment have existed forever. Technology just makes it easier.The goal is not to become paranoid. The goal is to become aware, document what is happening, and take action early.As Andrea says in this episode, doing nothing is often the part that makes you feel crazier. Taking action — documenting, telling your attorney, changing passwords, securing accounts, using a co-parenting app, and asking for help — can help you feel safer and more grounded.If something feels off, do not ignore it.Document it. Tell your attorney. Secure your devices. Get help early.You’ve got this. And we’ve got you.Connect with Steven BradleySteven Bradley is a former FBI task force leader, cybersecurity expert, domestic violence specialist, and cyberstalking educator.sbradley@ourfamilywizard.comJoin The How Not to Suck at Divorce CommunityNeed more support during divorce?Join our free private Facebook community for real conversations, support, and guidance from people who understand what you are going through.How Not to Suck at Divorce Community Listen to How Not to Suck at DivorceWebsite: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/Podcast: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/podcastDivorce Crash Course: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseSEO Keywordsdivorce cyberstalking, cyberstalking during divorce, cyberstalking ex, online stalking during divorce, digital safety during divorce, divorce cybersecurity, ex tracking me during divorce, smart home devices divorce, co-parenting app, Our Family Wizard, divorce safety, high conflict divorce, divorce attorney advice, digital harassment divorce, cyber abuse divorce, online harassment divorce, divorce podcast, How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport, Morgan Stogsdill, Steven BradleyMentioned in this episode:Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. 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Divorce issue:When you don't agree with your attorney and Why Going Rogue Can Cost You Thousands🎧 Before You Listen...Don't make expensive divorce mistakes.Our FREE guide, The 5 Divorce Mistakes That Cost People Thousands, will help you avoid some of the biggest legal, financial, and emotional mistakes people make before, during, and after divorce.👉 Download it FREE here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.comIf you're ready for a deeper roadmap, our Divorce Crash Course walks you through the entire divorce process—from choosing the right attorney to protecting your finances and avoiding costly mistakes.Typically priced at $150, available now for just $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseEpisode DescriptionEvery person going through divorce eventually reaches the same breaking point.You become convinced your attorney is wrong.The judge doesn't get it.The legal system is broken.And your brain starts whispering..."Forget it. I'll just handle this myself."Unfortunately, that's often the exact moment people make the most expensive mistake of their entire divorce.In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill are joined by Atlanta family law attorney Daniel Bloom to discuss why otherwise smart people make impulsive decisions during divorce, what "going rogue" really looks like, and how one emotional decision can cost you tens of thousands of dollars.From firing off an angry email to texting your ex after one too many drinks, this episode explains why patience, strategy, and emotional regulation can ultimately save your case—and your wallet.In This Episode You'll Learn:✔ Why divorce makes even intelligent people act impulsively✔ What "going rogue" actually means in a divorce case✔ The hidden financial cost of ignoring your attorney's advice✔ Why waiting during divorce feels unbearable—and what's really happening behind the scenes✔ What your attorney is doing while you think "nothing is happening"✔ When it makes sense to seek a second legal opinion✔ Why therapy can be one of the smartest investments during divorce✔ Three simple steps to stop yourself before making an emotional decision you'll regret✔ Why divorce is a marathon—not a sprintOne Email Can Change EverythingDaniel shares real-life examples of clients who ignored legal advice, sent one emotional email, and watched their entire case unravel.Sometimes the cost isn't just financial.It's your credibility.Your settlement.Your co-parenting relationship.Or even your relationship with your children.Feeling Like Your Attorney Isn't Listening?Many people mistake silence for inaction.In reality, experienced divorce attorneys are often developing strategy, gathering information, and protecting your long-term interests—even when it feels like nothing is happening.Learn why the waiting process is often one of the hardest—and most important—parts of divorce.Thinking About Going Rogue?Before you send the email...Before you post on social media...Before you text your ex...Ask yourself one question:"How will this affect my case six months from now?"That one pause could save you thousands of dollars.Resources Mentioned📘 FREE Divorce GuideThe 5 Divorce Mistakes That Cost People Thousands👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com💛 Divorce Crash CourseAvoid expensive legal mistakes before they happen.👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course👥 Join Our Free Private CommunityConnect with thousands of people navigating divorce who truly understand what you're going through.👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.comReach out to Daniel Bloom (Atlanta Family Law Attorney and Guardian ad Lietum)https://bloomlineslaw.com/our-team/daniel-bloom/Subscribe & ConnectIf this episode helped you:⭐ Follow How Not to Suck at Divorce @hownottosuckatdivorce⭐ Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotifywww.ratethispodcast.com/notsuck⭐ Share this episode with someone who needs to hear itEvery review helps us reach more people before they make expensive divorce mistakes.SEO Keywordsdivorce advice, divorce mistakes, divorce attorney, family law attorney, divorce podcast, custody case, Guardian ad Litem, divorce strategy, co-parenting, divorce lawyer advice, divorce communication, texting your ex during divorce, divorce settlement, high-conflict divorce, divorce emotions, divorce legal advice, Daniel Bloom, How Not to Suck at DivorceMentioned in this episode:Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Divorce and Children: The Parenting Mistakes That Can Increase Your Child's Anxiety | Featuring Retired Judge Michele Lowrance🎧 Divorce Crash Course – Save Thousands Before You Make a Costly MistakeBefore you spend thousands on attorney's fees or make decisions you'll regret, check out our Divorce Crash Course.Learn how to:Avoid the biggest divorce mistakesSave money on attorney's feesUnderstand the divorce processProtect your childrenMake smarter legal and financial decisionsTypically priced at $150, available now for just $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.👉 Get instant access: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseEpisode DescriptionCan one decision during your divorce impact your child's anxiety for years?According to retired Cook County Judge, mediator, and family law pioneer Michele Lowrance, the answer is yes.In this powerful episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and Morgan Stogsdill sit down with Judge Lowrance to discuss the divorce behaviors that can unintentionally hurt children, why high-conflict litigation can have lasting emotional consequences, and how parents can begin making more child-centered decisions—even when divorce feels impossible.Andrea also shares something deeply personal: the parenting mistakes she made during her own divorce, what she wishes she had done differently, and why perfection isn't the goal—awareness is.Whether you're in the middle of a custody dispute, considering mediation, or simply trying to protect your children through divorce, this episode offers practical perspective and hope.In This Episode You'll Learn:The biggest divorce behaviors that increase children's anxietyWhy fighting over parenting time isn't always about the scheduleWhat "Heroic Parenting" actually meansHow parental conflict affects children long after the divorce is finalizedWhy mediation can protect your children in ways court often cannotThe difference between putting your children first and protecting your own egoWhy learning to let go benefits both you and your childrenHow one parent can begin changing the family dynamic—even if the other parent won'tAbout Michele LowranceMichele Lowrance is a retired Cook County Domestic Relations Judge, mediator, author of The Good Karma Divorce, and one of the nation's leading voices on family-centered divorce and mediation. After decades practicing family law and serving on the bench, she continues helping families navigate divorce with less conflict and more compassion.Resources MentionedThe Good Karma Divorce by Michele LowranceDivorce Crash CourseOur Family Wizard- Click here to save 20%!Connect With Us🌐 Website: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com📱 Follow us on social media for daily divorce support, legal tips, and encouragement. @hownottosuckatdivorce 💬 Join our free private divorce community for support from thousands of people navigating divorce. join here!⭐ If this episode helped you, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your review helps other people find support during one of the hardest seasons of their lives. Rate us here!Keywordsdivorce podcast, divorce and children, child custody, co-parenting, divorce mediation, parenting after divorce, protecting children during divorce, high conflict divorce, family law, child anxiety after divorce, divorce advice, custody disputes, Michele Lowrance, divorce help, divorce support, parenting through divorceMentioned in this episode:Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Stay-at-Home Parent and Divorce: How to Leave an Unhappy Marriage When You Don't Have Your Own IncomeThinking about divorce is hard.Thinking about divorce when you're a stay-at-home parent can feel impossible.How do you afford an attorney? What happens if your spouse controls the finances? Will you have to go back to work immediately? What if you've been out of the workforce for years?First, get your hands on the $50 Divorce Crash Course to save money on your divorce process. In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and top family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill tackle one of the most common concerns we hear in our community: how stay-at-home parents can prepare for divorce without letting fear take over.Whether you're a stay-at-home mom, stay-at-home dad, or the primary parent managing the household, this episode will help you understand your options, your value, and the practical steps you can take right now to prepare for your next chapter.In This EpisodeWhy stay-at-home parents often feel trapped in unhappy marriagesThe biggest misconceptions about divorce and stay-at-home parentingHow to afford a divorce attorney when you don't have your own incomeWhy gathering financial documents is one of the most important first stepsWhat attorneys look at when evaluating maintenance and alimonyHow education, training, and work history impact divorce outcomesWhether you should go back to work before filing for divorceWhat to do if your spouse controls the financesHow fear causes stay-at-home parents to underestimate their valueWhy information is the key to making better divorce decisionsWays to start generating income before and during divorceHow OurFamilyWizard can help co-parents stay organizedKey Takeaways✔️ Being a stay-at-home parent does not make you less valuable in a divorce.✔️ The work you do inside the home has real value, even if it doesn't come with a paycheck.✔️ Every divorce case is different, which is why getting legal advice early is critical.✔️ Gathering financial documents now can save you time, money, and stress later.✔️ Fear often makes stay-at-home parents feel powerless—but information creates confidence.✔️ There are often more options available than you realize.✔️ Divorce is a marathon, not a sprint.✔️ You do not have to have everything figured out before taking the next step.If You're Thinking About DivorceOne of the biggest mistakes people make is assuming they need to have a complete plan before speaking with an attorney.You don't.You simply need enough information to understand your options.The sooner you start learning about the divorce process, your finances, and your legal rights, the sooner you'll be able to make decisions from a place of confidence instead of fear.Our Family WizardCheck them out- they are a resource that is here to help you make coparenting easier. You can save 20% on your essentials package here: www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck20Divorce Crash CourseIf you're considering divorce—or you're already in the middle of one—the Divorce Crash Course was created for you.Learn how divorce works, what mistakes to avoid, how to save money on attorney fees, how to protect your finances, and how to make smarter decisions throughout the process.Typically priced at $150, available now for just $50 thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and SoberLink.👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseConnect With UsWebsite:https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.comJoin Our Private Facebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hownottosuckatdivorceInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorceSubscribe for new episodes every week covering divorce, co-parenting, child custody, mediation, family law, emotional healing, high-conflict relationships, and practical strategies to help you get through divorce with less stress, less fear, and more confidence.#DivorcePodcast #StayAtHomeMomDivorce #StayAtHomeDadDivorce #DivorceAdvice #ChildCustody #Alimony #Maintenance #DivorceSupport #CoParenting #HowNotToSuckAtDivorceMentioned in this episode:Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.