Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

In this episode, Karen explores a powerful and often misunderstood emotion: anger—and how to navigate it during divorce without shutting down or exploding. Anger is a natural and expected part of divorce, yet many people were never taught how to work with it in a healthy way. Instead, they may react impulsively, suppress their feelings to avoid conflict, or carry lingering resentment long after the divorce is final. Karen is joined by Michelle Farris, a psychotherapist, codependency expert, and anger management specialist, for a grounded and insightful conversation about the role anger plays during divorce. Together, they unpack why so many people feel ashamed of their anger, how people-pleasing and codependency complicate emotional expression, and the critical difference between feeling anger and acting from it. This episode reframes anger not as something to fear or avoid, but as a valuable source of information—one that, when understood and processed effectively, can lead to greater clarity, stronger boundaries, and meaningful healing. Listeners will gain practical tools to help process anger without escalating conflict, honor their emotions without losing themselves, and shift from reactive patterns into more intentional responses. Connect with Michelle Farris: Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@MichelleFarrismft Instagram: https://instagram.com/counseling_recovery/ Website: www.counselingrecovery.com Free Gift: Blueprint for Taming Relationship Triggers - https://counselingrecovery.lpages.co/relationship-triggers-guide Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Free Hot Seat Coaching - May 11th @1pm EST: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/free-live-divorce-coaching Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod Boundary Bootcamp: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/boundarybootcamp

If you've been going back and forth on the "should I stay or should I go" question, you already know how exhausting it is. You try to think your way to an answer. You second-guess yourself. And still — you feel stuck. In this episode, Karen McMahon is going to help you begin to find real clarity — not just talk you through the feelings, but give you a different way of looking at what's actually happening in your marriage and inside yourself. Because spinning in your head isn't working. And you're tired. After years of guiding men and women through this exact place, Karen has seen what keeps people stuck — and what finally helps them move forward with confidence. She walks you through why patterns over time, not isolated moments, are what tell the real story of your relationship, and the signals worth paying attention to: the exhaustion, the emotional depletion, the feeling of being unseen or unheard, of living in survival mode rather than real partnership. Karen also challenges something that might be hard to hear — that what feels like confusion is often fear in disguise. Fear about finances, your kids, being alone, or living with regret someday. She'll help you name those fears, look at the patterns honestly, and start weighing actions against promises rather than hopes against history. This episode includes some powerful reflective questions too — including what your children are really learning from watching your relationship, and how love has actually felt over the last two years. And if you're waiting to feel completely certain before you take a step forward, Karen offers you this: certainty may never come, but your next right step absolutely can. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Mend or End Curated Podcast Playlist: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/mend-or-end-your-divorce-free-gift Free Just Started Curated Podcast Playlist: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/juststartedfreegift

In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, I'm joined by Wendy Valentine for a really honest and uplifting conversation about something I see so often: how easy it is to get stuck after divorce and begin living smaller than you're meant to. Wendy shares what it looked like when her life unraveled all at once. At 45, she was navigating divorce, unemployment, $150,000 in debt, chronic illness, menopause, and multiple losses. It was one of those moments where nothing looks the way you thought it would… and you're left wondering what now? But what's so powerful about Wendy's story is what she chose to do next. Instead of staying stuck in that place, she began to imagine a different version of her life, a version where she felt happy, healthy, and financially free. And step by step, she started moving toward it. Not perfectly, not all at once, but intentionally. Over time, she rebuilt her confidence, paid off her debt, healed, bought an RV, and created a life that truly reflects who she is today. She now hosts The Midlife Makeover Show and supports women around the world in doing the same through her FREEDOM Framework. In our conversation, we talk about how easy it is to stay trapped in old patterns and limiting beliefs, especially during and after divorce, and how bringing awareness to those patterns is often the first real step toward change. Wendy shares how practices like journaling, meditation, and even "acting as if" can begin to shift the way you see yourself and what's possible. We also talk about the importance of clearing space—emotionally and physically—so you can reconnect with your own voice and begin to envision what you truly want next. And we explore how learning to trust yourself and set boundaries becomes the foundation for creating a life that feels more peaceful, aligned, and fully yours. This conversation is such a beautiful reminder that divorce isn't just an ending—it can be a turning point. A moment where you begin to choose yourself in a deeper way and step into a new chapter with more clarity, intention, and self-trust. If you've been feeling stuck or unsure about what comes next, this episode will meet you right where you are, and gently invite you to see what's possible from here. Connect with Wendy: Website: https://wendyvalentine.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendy_valentine_/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hellowendyvalentine/ Substack: https://wendyvalentine.substack.com Free Gift: Ready to thrive through divorce? These freebies are my gift to help you boost your joy, master your emotions, set bold boundaries, design the new you, and awaken your inner superhero. Grab one or grab 'em all! Gift Link: https://wendyvalentine.com/freebies Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

Divorce isn't just something you go through—it's something you grow through. It's an emotional reorganization of your family, and how you navigate that transition matters more than most people realize. In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Sarah Bren, clinical psychologist and attachment expert, for a powerful conversation about what our kids really need from us during divorce—and how we can show up in a way that helps them feel safe, secure, and deeply supported. Because here's the truth: when a marriage ends, the emotional bonds in a family can feel shaken… but they don't have to be broken. Through the lens of attachment theory, we talk about how to stay connected to your children—even in the middle of conflict or uncertainty—and how to lead your family with intention, compassion, and clarity. We also explore the importance of building your emotional support team during divorce. Not just lawyers—but therapists, coaches, and professionals who help you stay grounded, regulated, and resourced so you can parent at your best. In this episode, we cover: – How attachment theory becomes your roadmap for parenting through divorce – Ways to have emotionally safe, trust-building conversations with your kids – Why your child's unique emotional needs should shape your parenting approach – The difference between co-parent coaching and parallel parenting—and when each is helpful – How to know when you or your child might need additional emotional support – And how to create an "emotional ecosystem" that supports you, so you can show up fully for your children Dr. Bren reminds us that secure attachment isn't about getting it perfect—it's about being present. And when you have the right tools and support, you can guide your children through this chapter in a way that builds resilience, trust, and emotional strength. If you're navigating divorce and wondering how to protect your children while also taking care of yourself—this episode is for you. Connect with Dr. Bren: https://upshurbren.com/ https://drsarahbren.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drsarahbren/?hl=en Podcast: https://drsarahbren.com/securely-attached-podcast Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, Karen McMahon sits down with relationship expert Alison Armstrong to explore how fundamental differences between men and women often fuel misunderstanding, conflict, and disconnection—both in marriage and during divorce. Alison shares powerful insights into how men and women process the world differently, including the concept of single-focus versus diffuse awareness. She explains how testosterone supports a focused, task-oriented state of mind and why many men need transition time after work to shift from problem-solving mode into connection at home—a dynamic that is often misunderstood as distance or indifference. The conversation also dives into how emotional dynamics affect men biologically, why many men need safety and time to access their feelings, and how both men and women frequently misinterpret each other's intentions—confusing hurt with disrespect. Together, Karen and Alison discuss how shifting the questions we ask, assuming positive intent, and stepping out of punishment-based dynamics can dramatically change communication during and after divorce. They also highlight the importance of prioritizing children's wellbeing and creating healthier patterns moving forward. Alison also shares resources from her work, including Lux and The Queen's Code, offering listeners practical tools for building greater understanding and connection. If you've ever wondered why communication between men and women can feel so frustrating—and how to change that dynamic—this episode offers insight, compassion, and a new lens for navigating relationships with greater clarity. Connect with Alison: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/PAXPrograms Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/UnderstandMen Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/TheAlisonArmstrong/ Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, host Karen McMahon and guest Shana James explore the complex dynamics of masculine and feminine energies during the divorce process. They discuss how imbalances in these energies can sabotage divorce decisions and offer frameworks to help listeners reclaim their power. Shana shares her expertise from 20 years of studying trust, connection, and emotional safety between men and women, diving deep into how these energies manifest in everyday situations. This discussion offers insightful guidance on how to identify and balance these energies to improve confidence, boundaries, parenting, and future relationships. Whether you're currently navigating a divorce or seeking ways to enhance future relationships, this episode provides valuable insights and practical advice. Connect with Shana: https://www.instagram.com/shanajames/ https://shanajamescoaching.com/podcasts/ Email: shana@shanajamescoaching.com Free Gift: Book - Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Relationships Alive - https://honestsexbook.scoreapp.com/ Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

What is it truly like for children growing up in divorced families? In this episode, I sit down with Bella Duncan, creator of A Kid With Two Homes, who gives us a rare and honest perspective on divorce from the child's point of view. Now an adult, Bella reflects on her own experiences and sheds light on the challenges kids often navigate silently when moving between two households. We dive into the real, everyday experiences children face, including why birthdays and holidays can feel complicated, the pressure of loyalty conflicts, adjusting to different rules and routines, and how assumptions and resentment can quietly shape their feelings. Bella also shares the unexpected skills kids develop—like organization and decision-making—and how self-awareness and resilience can help them feel seen and supported. Whether you're a parent, co-parent, or professional working with children of divorce, this episode offers insight into what kids really wish adults understood and practical ways we can do better. Bella's reflections are honest, relatable, and ultimately hopeful—reminding us that even in the middle of family transitions, children's voices matter. Connect with Bella: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/akidwithtwohomes Website:www.akidwithtwohomes.com Email: bella@akidwithtwohomes.com Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

🔥 Our Most-Viewed Episode of the Year! Lundy Bancroft Exposes Abuse in Family Court ⚖️🧨 As we close out this year, we're bringing back the conversation that struck the deepest chord with our audience — the episode that sparked hundreds of messages from listeners who finally felt seen. In this powerful, eye-opening discussion, Lundy Bancroft — internationally recognized authority on narcissism, coercive control, and the family court system — reveals how abusive partners continue their dominance long after the relationship ends. With three decades of working directly with abusers and training legal/mental health professionals, Lundy breaks down the subtle psychological tactics and overt legal maneuvers designed to maintain power at all costs. 🎯 He pulls the curtain back on: How many family courts misread abuse as "high conflict" Why mothers trying to protect their children face an uphill legal battle The emotional trauma that comes from court-sanctioned access to dangerous parents The system's alarming bias toward the status quo — even when children are at risk 💡 Lundy also equips survivors with strategic steps to stay safe, documented, and confident as they fight for their children's wellbeing. His insights are raw, honest, and absolutely critical for anyone facing a manipulative ex and a system that doesn't always listen. If you or someone you love is navigating a high-conflict divorce with a narcissistic or abusive co-parent… 🎙️ This is the episode you cannot afford to miss. 🌟 Connect with Lundy: Book - Not To People Like Us: https://www.amazon.com/People-Hidden-Abuse-Upscale-Marriages/dp/B0009K75UO Book - When Dad Hurts Mom: https://www.amazon.com/When-Dad-Hurts-Mom-Witnessing/dp/0425200310 Book - The Batterer as Parent: https://www.amazon.com/Batterer-Parent-Addressing-Domestic-Violence/dp/1412972051 Book - Should I Stay or Should I Go?: https://www.amazon.com/Should-Stay-Relationship-Can-Should-be/dp/042523889X Book - Daily Wisdom: https://www.amazon.com/Daily-Wisdom-Does-That-Encouragement/dp/0425265102#:~:text=Book%20details&text=Lundy%20Bancroft%20expands%20on%20his,what%20is%20happening%20to%20you. Book - The Joyous Recovery: https://www.amazon.com/Joyous-Recovery-Approach-Emotional-Wellness/dp/0578464691 Book - In Custody: https://www.amazon.com/Custody-Carrie-Green-Novel/dp/B09BGLY3P8 Website: https://lundybancroft.com/ Listen to Lundy's BorderlinerNotes YT episode: https://youtu.be/ywsTdzkiPF0?si=TUOmWrBy1pH8u7n1 Journey Beyond Divorce Resources: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg

In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, I'm speaking directly to the men who are walking through the intensity of high conflict divorce — the pressure, the triggers, the confusion, and the deep internal unraveling that often comes with it. Men in high conflict divorce are asked to hold an extraordinary amount: to respond instead of react, to stay grounded when provoked, and to lead even when everything around them feels uncertain. And while I coach men through these challenges every single day, I also know that some truths land more powerfully when they come from another man who embodies the discipline, steadiness, and intentional leadership required to rise during divorce. That's why I invited Michael Holt, founder of the international Savage & Saint Collective, to join me for this conversation. Michael has dedicated his life to helping men reclaim emotional sovereignty, cultivate presence, and embody a form of masculine leadership that is rooted in clarity rather than chaos. His work blends meditation, martial arts, psychology, holistic health, and serious inner discipline — and it aligns deeply with what I teach men navigating high conflict divorce: that the real power lies not in controlling others, but in mastering yourself. Michael and I explore the patterns that keep men stuck in reactivity during divorce and the internal shifts required to break those cycles. We talk about the cost of abandoning your center, how quickly men give away their power when triggered, and what it takes to stay grounded when you feel attacked, misunderstood, or overwhelmed. Michael offers a male perspective on strength that doesn't rely on force, suppression, or avoidance, but instead comes from presence, vitality, and self-awareness — qualities that become essential when the stakes are high and the conflict feels relentless. Together, we dig into the difference between reactive masculinity and embodied leadership, and why men who learn to regulate their nervous system and stay anchored in who they are gain far more influence — not just in their divorce, but in their lives, relationships, and fatherhood. We discuss how men can cultivate discipline, stability, and clarity even in the middle of legal battles, emotional turmoil, and the dismantling of a marriage. This is the kind of conversation that gives men direction, grounding, and a roadmap for showing up as the man they want to be, not the man the conflict tries to turn them into. Michael Holt is a powerful example of what it looks like to live the work rather than talk about it. His Savage & Saint Collective supports men around the world in strengthening their inner foundation so they can show up with integrity, courage, and calm — exactly what is needed in high conflict divorce. If you're a man navigating divorce and you've been searching for guidance from someone who truly understands the internal journey you're on, this episode will offer the clarity and steadiness you've been craving. This is about reclaiming yourself, rebuilding your center, and stepping into the kind of leadership that can change the trajectory of your life. Connect with Michael: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/savageandsaint/ Free Gift: E-Book re: Savage & Saint Philosophy: https://ebook.savageandsaint.com/savageandsaintphilosophy Masculine Vitality Program: https://savageandsaint.com/mens-courses/ Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

In this episode, I'm inviting you into one of the most tender and complicated questions you may ever face: How Do I Know If It's Time to Divorce? If you've been living in a cycle of uncertainty, replaying conversations, second-guessing yourself, or worrying about the impact on your children, this conversation is designed to bring you clarity, calm, and a grounded sense of direction. I explore the fears and confusion that naturally arise when you're considering divorce, and I help you distinguish between conflict that can be healed and patterns that may be too damaging or entrenched to repair. We'll look at the red flags that often signal deeper dysfunction, the emotional and relational dynamics that affect your wellbeing, and an essential question I encourage every parent to ask: Would I want my children to grow up and repeat this relationship? My intention in this episode is not to push you toward a decision, but to help you see your situation more clearly, understand what healthy partnership requires, and begin to trust your own inner wisdom. Whether you ultimately choose to mend or end, you deserve clarity, dignity, and peace as you move forward. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

Are you worried your spouse is hiding money or manipulating finances during your divorce? In high-conflict divorces, it's all too common for funds to be moved, concealed, or dissipated, leaving one partner in the dark and anxious about their financial future. In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, I dive into the high-stakes world of divorce forensics and financial investigations, exploring what you need to know to protect yourself and your assets. I'm joined by seasoned forensic accounting expert Ilan Hirschfeld, who shares decades of experience uncovering hidden assets, analyzing complex financial records, and guiding clients through some of the most challenging divorce situations. We talk about the warning signs that finances may not be fully transparent, how to assess whether forensic accounting is a necessary investment, and the different levels of forensic investigation—from targeted reviews to full-scale audits. Ilan also explains what to look for in a forensic accountant: not just technical skill, but integrity, client care, and the ability to support you through what can feel like one of the most stressful chapters of your life. Whether you're concerned about post-complaint earnings, undisclosed income, or the subtle ways finances can be hidden, this conversation gives practical guidance to help you make informed decisions and move forward with clarity and confidence. If you've ever questioned whether following the money in your divorce is worth the cost, this episode will help you weigh the risks, understand your options, and take the steps necessary to protect your financial future. Connect with Ilan: Website: https://www.cbiz.com/about/people/ilan-hirschfeld Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cbizcareers/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/cbiz/ Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

Have you ever wondered why, even after divorce, your ex still feels energetically present in your life? Divorce isn't just the end of a relationship... it's a profound emotional, energetic, and spiritual transition. Long after the legal papers are signed and the physical separation is complete, many people remain unconsciously bonded to their former spouse, feeling stuck in emotional patterns, attachment, or resentment that blocks healing, peace, and future love. In this powerful episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, I sit down with Joanna Shakti, the Soul Love™ Mentor and founder of Ecstatic Intimacy™, to explore how to release energetic ties after divorce, reopen your heart, and rebuild your capacity for healthy, authentic connection. Joanna brings decades of expertise in masculine-feminine dynamics, conscious separation, emotional healing, and spiritual intimacy, offering compassionate guidance and practical tools for breaking free from lingering bonds and stepping into a life rooted in self-love, clarity, and empowered choice. If you're ready to reclaim your emotional autonomy, release the lingering energy of your past relationship, and open your heart to possibility — this conversation will support you every step of the way. Connect with Joanna: Free Gift: Ecstatic Intimacy Jumpstart Kit With your 4-part Ecstatic Intimacy Jumpstart kit you'll ignite confidence, connection and chemistry on the path of Soul Love. Your kit includes the "Soul Love Roadmap", Conscious Masculine and Feminine Assessments, tips for the bedroom and much more!: https://ecstaticintimacy.com/intimacy-jumpstart/ Facebook: facebook.com/EcstaticIntimacy Instagram: instagram.com/joanna.shakti YouTube: www.youtube.com/@DateCamp Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/joannashakti X: https://x.com/JoannaShakti Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/joannashakti/ Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

Co-parenting is never easy—but when your ex displays narcissistic or emotionally abusive behaviors, it can feel impossible. You're not just managing logistics—you're protecting your peace, supporting your children, and trying not to lose yourself in the chaos. In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. David Hawkins, founder of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute. With over four decades of experience and more than 40 books to his name, Dr. Hawkins brings deep insight into what it takes to stay grounded and emotionally safe while co-parenting with a narcissist. We explore how to shift from feeling powerless to powerful—not by changing the other parent, but by transforming how you show up. Dr. Hawkins and I talk about boundaries, emotional regulation, and how to support your children without getting pulled into manipulation or conflict. This conversation is about empowerment, not blame. If you've been walking on eggshells, exhausted by drama, and worried about your kids' well-being, this episode will bring clarity, courage, and practical tools to help you anchor yourself and protect what matters most. Connect with Dr. Hawkins: Free Resource: Free Ebook - Getting To the Core: https://marriagerecoverycenter.com/media/Getting-to-the-Core.pdf Website: www.marriagerecoverycenter.com Email: info@marriagerecoverycenter.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagerecoverycenter/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/drdavidbhawkins/videos Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-rehab-exposing-narcissistic-emotional-abuse/id1618828831 Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod