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You both want to get married. But have you talked about what life together will actually look like?Who handles the money? How involved are your families? What happens when one of you is struggling with your faith? And are you quietly hoping something about the person you’re dating will change after the wedding?In this episode, we’re walking through 16 questions every couple should ask before saying “I do,” covering faith, family, finances, everyday life, and sex. These are practical conversations that can help you understand what you’re each expecting before you build a life together.We’ll talk about:What a Christ-centered marriage looks like in everyday lifeHow to talk through differences in beliefs and convictionsSupporting each other through seasons of doubtFamily patterns you want to keep or changeSetting expectations around in-laws, holidays, and parentingGetting honest about debt, spending, and sharing moneyWhat you expect your lifestyle to look like after the weddingDividing household responsibilities and the mental loadMaking room for time together, friendships, and alone timeTalking honestly about sex, pornography, and sexual historyWhether you’re secretly expecting your partner to change after marriageIf you’re seriously dating or engaged, watch this together. Pause after each section, ask the questions, and give each other room to answer honestly. The more you understand about each other now, the more intentionally you can prepare for marriage.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution=============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wETmXcL64r8God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

Everyone gives marriage advice. Very few people tell you what they wish they would’ve known before they got married. What surprised them? What got harder than they expected? What got better? What do decades of marriage teach you that dating never could?In this episode, three married Christian men answer the questions they wish someone had answered before they said, “I do.”We’ll talk about:The biggest lies men believe about marriage before they get marriedWhether the first year of marriage is actually the hardestWhat every husband loses when he gets married and why it’s worth itThe seasons of marriage no one posts about onlineWhether attraction fades or changes over the yearsWhat loving one woman for decades teaches you about commitmentWhy so many married men struggle aloneWhat they wish someone had told them about sex before marriageHow kids completely change your marriagePractical ways to keep your marriage strong after becoming parentsWhat they’d tell the guy who’s been dating for years but won’t proposeThe qualities every woman should look for in a future husbandMarriage isn’t about finding the perfect person. It’s about becoming the kind of person who knows how to love, sacrifice, communicate, and stay committed through every season.Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, newly married, or years into marriage, we think this conversation will leave you with a healthier picture of what marriage is really like.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution =============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/t6zHW7kS000 God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

Pursuit isn’t a personality trait, it’s a skill. And so is being pursued.Too many Christian singles think one person should do all the work while the other just waits to be chosen, but healthy relationships aren’t built on passivity. They’re built on intentionality from both people.In this episode, we’re breaking down what it actually looks like to pursue someone well and what it means to receive pursuit without playing games, sending mixed signals, or disappearing into passivity.Whether you’re the one asking someone out or the one deciding whether to say yes, this conversation is packed with practical advice to help you date with clarity and confidence.We’ll talk about:The five biggest mistakes men make when pursuing a womanHow women can encourage pursuit without chasingWhy “playing hard to get” usually backfiresWhat healthy leadership actually looks like in datingHow to show interest without sacrificing your dignityWhen it’s time to define the relationshipWhether women should ever make the first moveIf the guy should always pay for the dateHow to know when pursuit becomes pressureWhat to do when someone pursues you well… but there’s no sparkWhether you owe someone an honest “no” instead of fading awayThis episode isn’t about dating games, it’s about learning the practical skills that lead to healthy relationships, strong marriages, and dating with intention.Because how you date is often how you’ll marry.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution =============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/h4e9jj_scYE God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

When you hear the word submission, what comes to mind? For a lot of people, it’s control. Silence. Inequality. A woman losing her voice. But what if that’s not what the Bible is describing at all? In this episode, we sit down with three Christian women who have lived out biblical submission in marriage and ask the questions people are actually wrestling with.No clichés or stereotypes, just an honest conversation about what Scripture teaches and what it looks like in real life.We talk about why submission has become one of the most misunderstood ideas in Christianity and why God’s design is far more beautiful than most people realize.We’ll talk about:- What biblical submission actually is and what it isn’t- Why Ephesians 5 begins with “submit to one another”- Whether submission means a woman loses her voice or identity- What submission looks like during real disagreements- How to respond when your husband isn’t leading well- Where the line is between honoring your husband and saying “no”- Whether the trad wife movement is biblical or just an aesthetic- What submission looks like when the wife earns more, leads more, or is more spiritually mature- How to know if a man is actually worthy of your trust before marriage- Whether submission has any place in dating and engagement- Why God’s design for marriage is meant to help both husband and wife flourishThis isn’t a conversation about making women smaller. It’s about understanding God’s design well enough to discover the freedom that’s actually inside it.Whether you’re married, dating, engaged, or simply trying to understand what the Bible teaches, we hope this conversation brings clarity to one of the most debated topics in Christian relationships.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links: Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution=============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comGod's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

What if freedom from porn is actually possible? Not behavior management. Not white-knuckling. Not “doing better this time.” Real freedom.In this episode, we sit down with three Christian men who used to struggle deeply with pornography and are now walking in freedom. Three stories. Three different seasons of life. One honest conversation about what actually works.Aaron leads the Whole Man Project and disciples men fighting for sexual integrity every week. Aiden is 22, newly married, and got free before dating his now wife. Judah is 22, single, and learning how to pursue purity while waiting for marriage.We talk about what porn took from them, what finally changed, and what they wish every struggling guy knew.We’ll talk about:The moment porn stopped being accidental and became a secret battleWhy “marriage will fix it” is one of the biggest lies Christian men believeThe difference between sobriety and actual freedomWhat finally broke the cycle after countless “I’m done for good” momentsThe one thing that consistently helps men get freeHow to fight porn when the struggle started before pubertyWhat to do if you only watch “once in a while” but still feel stuckHow to talk to a future spouse about porn without destroying trustHow freedom changes dating, intimacy, and marriageAI porn, fantasy chats, deepfakes, and what Gen Z is up against nowWhether total freedom is actually possibleThis episode is not about shame. It is about truth, freedom, and what to do when you are tired of starting over.If you spiraled this week, feel hopeless, or secretly think this is just who you are now, this conversation is for you.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on Date Well Women ⁠⁠here: https://shop.moralrevolution.com/collections/date-well/products/1082791?variant=39874577662144 Find more info on Date Well Men ⁠⁠here: https://shop.moralrevolution.com/collections/date-well/products/date-well-men?variant=40043652448448 =============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comGod's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

Is modesty about honoring God… or controlling women?Can you be fashionable, feminine, confident, and still modest? Does what you wear actually matter? And what do we do with all the church baggage around “causing your brother to stumble”?In this episode, we sit down with three Christian women for an honest, nuanced, and probably overdue conversation about modesty.We’re talking about beauty, conviction, femininity, social media, lust, validation, and what modesty actually means from a biblical perspective.We’ll talk about:Whether women are responsible for men’s lustWhat modesty is actually about if it is not just “covering up”What “don’t cause your brother to stumble” actually means in contextThe difference between dressing confidently and dressing for validationWhether modesty standards should change when you’re marriedHow Christian women practically think through what they wearIf Christian women should dress differently online versus real lifeWhy modesty conversations almost always target women and not menThis conversation is not about hiding your body or being ashamed of beauty. It is about conviction, identity, wisdom, and honoring God without fear, shame, or performance.If modesty has ever felt confusing, controlling, legalistic, or honestly just exhausting, this episode is for you.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on Date Well Women ⁠⁠here: https://shop.moralrevolution.com/collections/date-well/products/1082791?variant=39874577662144 Find more info on Date Well Men ⁠⁠here: https://shop.moralrevolution.com/collections/date-well/products/date-well-men?variant=40043652448448 =============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/f4nGckoVef0 God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

What do men in their 50s, 60s, and 70s see about dating today that we don’t?After hearing from single men and married men, the most requested follow-up was this: bring in men who have actually lived it. Decades of marriage. Decades of mistakes, growth, and faith.So we did.We sat down with three older Christian men who have 30 to 50 years of marriage, ministry, and life behind them and asked them the same questions our generation is asking about dating, love, sex, and commitment.This conversation is less about trends and more about truth that will endure through time.We’ll talk about:How their view of attraction and what really matters has changed over timeWhat romance actually looks like after decades of marriageThe biggest mistakes they made that younger people should avoidWhat they see in today’s dating culture that is harmful or foolishWhat actually keeps a marriage alive for 30, 40, 50 yearsHow to keep pursuing your spouse long after the honeymoon phaseWhat they would tell their 25 year old selves about relationshipsWhat they think about porn, hookup culture, and sexual temptation todayHow to build a marriage that lasts through hard seasonsThe most important qualities to look for in a spouseWhat they are most proud of when they look at their lives nowThis episode is not fast advice. It is long-view wisdom.If you want a marriage that actually lasts, you need to listen to people who have already done it.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on Date Well Women ⁠⁠here: https://shop.moralrevolution.com/collections/date-well/products/1082791?variant=39874577662144 Find more info on Date Well Men ⁠⁠here: https://shop.moralrevolution.com/collections/date-well/products/date-well-men?variant=40043652448448 =============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/if0jJ_KDEsw God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

What if calling off your wedding isn’t failure… but obedience?Broken engagements are one of the most painful and misunderstood experiences in Christian dating. There’s pressure to push through doubts. Pressure from timelines, money already spent, other people’s expectations. And underneath all of it, a quiet question most people are afraid to say out loud:What if this isn’t right?In this episode, we sit down with three Christians who love God, wanted marriage, and still made the decision to call off their engagements.We talk about the slow realization that something was off, the internal wrestle between fear and discernment, and what it actually looks like to walk away when everything in your life is moving toward a wedding.We’ll talk about:The moment they first sensed something wasn’t rightWhether they ignored red flags and whyThe pressure to stay when doubts started creeping inHow they knew it was time to call it off instead of “fight for it”The fear of disobeying God by walking awayWhat people said and how they handled the questionsThe lies they had to fight after everything endedHow to trust your ability to hear God againWhat healing actually looked like in the aftermathHow to move forward without fear, shame, or regretThis episode is not about shaming anyone. It’s not about creating fear around commitment.It’s for the person who feels uneasy but cannot explain why. The person who feels pressure to move forward but knows something is off. The person wondering if it’s too late to pause.A broken engagement is not a broken future.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================⏰ Timestamps ⏰(0:00) — Intro(1:36) — Why we're talking about broken engagements(3:54) — How did you meet the person you were engaged to?(4:55) — How long were you dating before the engagement?(5:10) — How sure were you when you said yes to the proposal?(6:22) — How long were you engaged before it ended?(7:31)— Who made the final call to end it?(7:59) — What was God teaching you in that season?(9:00) — How do you regain trust in your ability to hear God's voice?(14:00) — Did you ever feel like you were disobeying God in the relationship?(16:01) — What lies from the enemy did you have to fight?(18:23) — How to respond when people ask what happened(21:10) — Wisdom on keeping relationships off social media(24:10) — How long does it take to heal after a broken engagement?(27:54) — The role of therapy in healing(29:42) — Breaking inner vows and walking in repentance(31:24) — Overcoming trust issues and fear of vulnerability after heartbreak(35:01) — What to do when your ex moves on quickly39:15 — Stop feeding your pain on social media(40:10) — How to know if you should call it off or stick it out(43:03) — Breaking up vs. breaking an engagement vs. breaking a marriage(44:06) — Anxiety vs. a deep knowing that it's not right(46:28) — The difference between relationship anxiety and needing to end it(49:46) — A broken engagement is not a broken future=============================Links:Find more info on Date Well Women ⁠⁠here: https://shop.moralrevolution.com/collections/date-well/products/1082791?variant=39874577662144 Find more info on Date Well Men ⁠⁠here: https://shop.moralrevolution.com/collections/date-well/products/date-well-men?variant=40043652448448 =============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/1ij2Hl1nGOs God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

Before you get married, you think you know what matters. After you get married, you realize what actually does.We sat down with three married Christian women to answer the questions single men and women are quietly carrying about attraction, safety, purity, commitment, and what really makes a marriage last.This is not surface level dating advice. This is what shifts in a woman’s heart after covenant… what feels different, what deepens, what gets harder, and what becomes more beautiful than you expected.We’ll talk about:Whether a woman really “just knows” he’s the oneThe fears they had before marriage and what actually matteredHow their view of physical attraction changed over timeWhat truly makes a woman feel safe and secure long termThe difference between healthy pursuit and emotional pressureHow wives want husbands to communicate about past sexual strugglesWhether expecting sexual integrity is unrealisticWhat to say to a Christian woman anxious about the wedding nightWhat strengthens emotional safety inside marriageWhat quietly kills connectionWhen a wife needs empathy instead of solutionsWhat ended up being harder than expectedWhat ended up being far better than expectedIf you are single, this episode may help you prioritize differently. If you are married, it may help you articulate what your heart has needed all along.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on Date Well Women ⁠⁠here: https://shop.moralrevolution.com/collections/date-well/products/1082791?variant=39874577662144Find more info on Date Well Men ⁠⁠here: https://shop.moralrevolution.com/collections/date-well/products/date-well-men?variant=40043652448448=============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/ljYiSEmxSRIGod's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

What happens when you finally stop pretending you want freedom, and actually tell God the truth?In this deeply honest conversation, Ben Fitzgerald shares his story of struggling with pornography while walking in ministry, the moment God confronted what he was still keeping as an option, and how real freedom finally came when everything was brought into the light.Ben opens up about the tension of being anointed but still broken, the night he told God, “I want this, but I do not want to want it,” and why honesty from spiritual leadership played a crucial role in his deliverance. He also shares how Bethel leadership refused to let him step into pastoral leadership while he was secretly battling pornography and how that loving but firm boundary became part of his healing.We’ll talk about:What it actually looks like when God rescues someone from addictionWhy wanting freedom and being free are not the same thingThe moment Ben realized pornography was still an option in his heartHow honest accountability broke the power of secret sinWhy spiritual compromise dulls our sensitivity to GodWhat the fear of the Lord really looks like in a believer’s lifeWhat to say to someone who feels spiritually numb or stuckWhy fighting sexual sin alone never worksIf you feel trapped in a private battle, tired of starting over, or afraid that your sin disqualifies you from God’s calling, this episode is for you. Ben’s story is proof that freedom is possible, but it requires truth, surrender, and courage.🎧 Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on Date Well Women ⁠⁠here.⁠⁠Find more info on Date Well Men ⁠⁠here.=============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/JFGApLrRlk8God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

What do Christian men actually want when it comes to dating, attraction, and a future wife? We brought three single Christian guys into the studio and asked them the questions single Christian women really want answered.From red flags and first dates to lust, attraction, porn, ghosting, and why guys hesitate to make a move, this episode gives you a real look inside how Christian men think when it comes to dating and relationships.We’ll talk about:What Christian men actually look for in a future wifeThe biggest red flags that make guys lose interest fastHow men read interest and what hints actually workWhy some guys take forever to ask a girl outHow to tell if he is just friendly or actually interestedHow much physical appearance actually mattersThe difference between attraction and lust from a guy’s perspectiveWhy men ghost and what is really going on thereHow men think about porn, purity, and self controlWhat men are doing now to prepare for marriageThe most confusing things women do in the talking stageDating flops that were painful then but funny nowIf you have ever wondered what men are thinking but were too afraid to ask, this episode will clear up a lot of confusion and probably challenge a few assumptions.🎧 Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on Date Well Women ⁠⁠here.⁠⁠Find more info on Date Well Men ⁠⁠here.=============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comGod's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

What happens when Christians share their most unhinged dating stories? We’re back with 10 of the wildest, cringiest, and most unbelievable moments we’ve ever heard on the podcast.In this episode, we blind react to 10 new stories from our listeners. From a guy who said “you’re not that ugly,” to someone finding out they were being pursued by a distant cousin, to a stalker from a Christian dating app, these submissions took us on a rollercoaster.We’ll also dive into:How to tell the difference between red flags and straight-up chaosWhy “God told me we’re getting married” is not a green lightWhy some Christian environments accidentally create fear-based dating habitsWhen someone’s spirituality becomes manipulationWhat healthy pursuit actually looks likeIf you’ve ever walked away from a date thinking “no one will believe this story,” you’re in good company. These stories will make you laugh, gasp, and maybe even feel a little better about your own dating history.🎧 Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Have an insane Christian dating story that should be read on a future episode? Submit it ⁠⁠here.⁠⁠Find more info on Date Well Women ⁠⁠here.⁠⁠Find more info on Date Well Men ⁠⁠here.⁠=============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ ⁠https://youtu.be/Hyrc13gCzzE⁠God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

What happens when a husband realizes he’s been doing only 30% of his job? In this powerful conversation with author and pastor Danny Silk, we unpack what it really means for a man to protect, provide, and connect—and why so many marriages start to heal only when men stop acting like victims and start taking responsibility.In this episode, we sit down with Danny to talk through the hardest lessons he learned as a husband—from being told he and his wife were “clinically incompatible,” to discovering that love isn’t something you fall into or out of, it’s something you choose.We’ll talk about:What every husband gets wrong about “protecting” his wifeWhy love is a decision, not a feelingHow to break free from blame, fear, and self-protectionThe one mindset shift that can save a marriageWhat it means to be a powerful person in relationshipsIf you’ve ever felt stuck in your marriage, wondered if you picked the “wrong one,” or struggled to love when it’s hard, this conversation will change how you think about covenant, courage, and connection.Let's talk about it.=============================Links:Find more info about Danny’s ministry here. =============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.com=============================Miss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/V6k6jqoO3esGod's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.