242. Stop controlling your partner and get what you want
From Lit AF Relationships by Sarah Cohan
April 8, 2026 · 27 min · Episode 242
About this episode
This episode discusses how to stop using control in romantic relationships and emphasizes the importance of understanding attachment styles to foster unconditional love.
In this episode, I talk about how to stop using control in romantic relationships. Two insecure attachment types have a high need for control and I break down why so you can understand where this pattern comes from. I also share what to do instead in order to get what you want from your partner.And I also share what to do if your partner can’t meet your need. It is possible to drop control and still get your needs met. Tune in to start using unconditional love in your relationship. Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043 Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/ If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
People in this episode
Host: Sarah Cohan
Topics covered
- control in relationships
- attachment styles
- unconditional love
- healthy relationships
- relationship coaching
Keywords
- control
- attachment types
- unconditional love
- relationship needs
- coaching
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: Lit AF Relationships, Instagram, Google
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