Living with Purpose

Are you feeling flat, unmotivated or like your old drive has simply disappeared? You're not alone and it's not laziness, weakness or a lack of discipline. In this episode, Simone shares the four real reasons so many people are quietly quitting right now - at work, in relationships and in life itself. Drawing on Polyvagal Theory and a decade of coaching people to find purpose, she explores what's actually happening beneath the surface when we check out, shut down, or just can't seem to care anymore. If you've been wondering why the old approaches - the mindset shifts, the motivation tactics, the pushing through - are no longer working, this episode will give you a completely different lens. Join the upcoming working here: www.simonedenny.me/realreason In this episode, Simone covers: • Why quiet quitting is not a motivation problem — it's a nervous system response • The three nervous system states and how they show up in your daily life • Why so many high-functioning people are flipping into shutdown without realising it • The four losses driving disengagement right now — regulation, capacity, meaning and certainty • What you can actually do to come back to yourself Resources mentioned: Free Live Workshop - The Real Reason You Feel Stuck, Reactive and At Capacity Join Simone for a free live online session exploring why so many people can't move forward right now and what actually helps. 📅 Tuesday 14 July | 8pm NZT | 6pm Sydney 🔗 www.simonedenny.me/realreason Connect With Simone: If you found this episode helpful, please like, subscribe, and share on Instagram! facebook.com/simonedennycoaching instagram.com/simonedennycoaching simone@simonedenny.me www.simonedenny.me

In this episode, we dive into the subtle ways self-abandonment shows up in our lives and how it can leave us feeling disconnected and unfulfilled. Self-abandonment occurs when we ignore our true needs in favour of pleasing others or meeting societal expectations, often leading to emotional exhaustion, burnout, and physical neglect. Key Patterns of Self-Abandonment: People-Pleasing: Prioritising others’ needs over your own. High Achievement: Masking deeper emotional needs with success. The "Strong One" Role: Avoiding vulnerability by appearing unshakable. Dissociation: Disconnecting from emotions as a survival mechanism. Suppressing Emotions: Avoiding feelings like anger or fear due to past conditioning. Neglecting Physical Needs: Ignoring rest, medical care, or body signals. Self-Criticism: Harsh internal dialogue rooted in past fear or rejection. These patterns can leave us feeling exhausted, unfulfilled, and disconnected from our authentic selves. Over time, this can lead to a loss of clarity and purpose. The Cost of Self-Abandonment: The emotional toll of ignoring our true needs is high—it leads to burnout, confusion, and a lack of fulfilment. Over time, we lose touch with our authentic selves. Solutions for Reclaiming Your Authentic Self: Set Boundaries: Learn to say “no” and protect your emotional health. Reclaim Vulnerability: Embrace your true emotions and show up authentically. Nurture Your Body: Listen to your body’s needs and prioritize self-care. Release Self-Criticism: Challenge the internal critic and practice self-compassion. Heal Childhood Wounds: Address limiting beliefs learned in childhood that fuel self-abandonment. Healing from self-abandonment starts with self-awareness and small, intentional steps to reconnect with your true self. If you’ve been feeling disconnected or stuck, this episode will help you understand the root causes of these patterns and provide tools to start your journey toward healing and purpose. Come and co-create your 2025 with my 3-part workshop series - you can find out more here: www.simonedenny.me/intention Connect with me: facebook.com/simonedennycoaching instagram.com/simonedennycoaching simone@simonedenny.me

In this episode, we dive into the challenges faced by those who feel too restless for traditional meditation practices. Inspired by a recent question from a workshop attendee, I explore how high-energy personalities and those who struggle with restlessness can still cultivate mindfulness and self-awareness without having to sit in stillness. We often think meditation is the only way to build resilience and manage stress, but that’s not true for everyone. I share personal insights from my own experience, including how I found it difficult to meditate and what alternative methods I used to stay connected and present. You'll learn about the deeper reasons for restlessness, such as avoiding uncomfortable emotions and childhood conditioning. We'll also touch on the role of dopamine and how overstimulation from social media and modern life can amplify feelings of discontentment. If you find sitting in meditation too difficult, don’t worry — I offer several other tools, including mindful movement, yoga, and even chanting, that can help you find balance without the pressure to "just sit still." Key Topics: Restlessness and Personality Types: - Why some of us are more prone to restlessness? - The impact of childhood experiences and emotional avoidance. - The link between restlessness, dopamine, and overstimulation from our fast-paced world. Restlessness and Emotions: - How restlessness can stem from avoiding deeper emotions like sadness, guilt, or shame. - The feeling of being pulled in many directions without fully being present. Alternative Mindfulness Practices: - Mindful movement like yoga, tai chi, and mindful walking. - The power of chanting and how it provides an active form of mindfulness. - How guided meditations can be a great starting point for those who struggle with stillness. Dopamine and Restlessness: - How dopamine fuels our restlessness and the role of modern technology in overstimulating our reward systems. - The addictive loop of seeking constant stimulation and why it depletes our sense of contentment. Practical Takeaways: Short meditations: Starting with bite-sized practices (just 3–5 minutes) can help ease you into mindfulness. Mindful movement: Engaging in activities like yoga or walking can be an entry point to presence without the pressure to sit still. Tuning into your senses: A simple walk in nature while focusing on the sounds, sights, and smells around you can be just as powerful as meditation. Be kind to yourself: If meditation feels challenging, know that there are other ways to cultivate mindfulness that align better with your energy. Join the Conversation: If this resonates with you, or if you have a restless part of yourself that you're working with, I’d love to hear from you. What’s been working for you? Are there practices that help you feel grounded when sitting in meditation feels like too much? Share your experience with me on social media or in the comments section. Here is the link for the Journaling Questions mentioned on the show. https://www.simonedenny.me/21-Day-Journalling-Challenge Connect with me: www.simonedenny.me facebook.com/simonedennycoaching instagram.com/simonedennycoaching simone@simonedenny.me Join the waitlist membership community, The Hatchery, for ongoing growth and support. https://www.simonedenny.me/the-hatchery-waitlist Join the waitlist for my Living with Purpose program for more tools to find alignment and fulfilment. https://www.simonedenny.me/living-with-purpose

In this episode, I dive deep into my personal journey through one of the most challenging periods of my life—navigating perimenopause while dealing with various stressors. This episode is raw, real, and a bit vulnerable as I share stories I've never spoken about publicly before. But I believe in the power of storytelling to heal, connect, and offer hope. So, join me as I take you through a transformative period in my life, with the hope that my story might bring a bit of light to yours. In this episode, I discuss: * The physical and emotional toll of perimenopause * Managing unexpected life stressors and how they compounded the experience * The importance of finding support and resilience during tough times * How these experiences shaped my approach to life and purpose today * What helped me move through this challenging yet transformative time As I recount the challenges of that time, from physical discomfort to emotional volatility, I want to offer reassurance to anyone going through something similar: this too shall pass. It’s a transition, not a permanent state. There is a rebalancing that happens, and I hope this episode serves as a reminder that you're not alone on this journey. Connect with me: www.simonedenny.me facebook.com/simonedennycoaching instagram.com/simonedennycoaching simone@simonedenny.me

Episode Highlights: Welcome back to the podcast! Today is an exciting day because the doors to my Living with Purpose group coaching program are open. This program only opens once a year, so if you've been curious, now is the time to join. The doors close this weekend, and I can't wait to work with an intimate group of women on their journey to finding and living their purpose. In the Living with Purpose program, you'll have access to tried and tested methods that have helped hundreds of women like you feel more aligned with their true selves. We'll delve into emotions, beliefs, thoughts, and the stories you've been living out. It's all about finding more joy, excitement, enthusiasm, and meaning in life. The Cost of Staying Where You Are: Today, we're diving into a crucial question: "What is the cost of staying where you are?" This question is a powerful tool for self-reflection and motivation. We often overlook the true impact of our behaviours, whether it's not managing emotions, spending hours on social media, or feeling afraid to express our purpose. Key Discussion Points: * The hidden toll of unchecked emotions on relationships and self-esteem. * The long-term impact of seemingly small habits, like excessive social media use. * The deeper costs of not living in alignment with your purpose or letting fear hold you back. * How to recognise and understand the true cost of these behaviours to motivate change. Action: Reflect on behaviour in your life that might be holding you back. Consider the long-term costs and how it might be affecting your relationships, health, or personal growth. By being honest about these costs, you can find the motivation to change and move toward a more fulfilling life. Join the Program: If you're ready to take the next step, visit my website www.simonedenny.me/living-with-purpose and click on the link to learn more about the Living with Purpose program. Let's work together to overcome what's holding you back and step into your true potential. Connect with me: www.simonedenny.me facebook.com/simonedennycoaching instagram.com/simonedennycoaching simone@simonedenny.me Subscribe & Share: If you enjoyed this episode, please like and subscribe to the podcast. Share it with a friend, and don't forget to leave a comment or share your thoughts on Instagram. I'll be sure to repost and connect with you there!

Episode Summary: We’re just past the halfway point of the year. This is the perfect moment to decide: do we let our goals slide, or do we reset our energy and realign with what truly matters to us? Why a Mid-Year Review Matters: A mid-year review allows us to pause and reflect on the journey so far. It’s about recognizing both the hard parts and the successes, holding ourselves with the same compassion we’d offer a friend. This is not just about setting new goals; it’s about aligning with our deepest desires and being gentle with ourselves. Introducing the Compassionate Approach: In this episode, I dive into how to conduct a compassionate mid-year review that helps you realign and rise for the rest of the year. We’ll explore practical steps and reflective questions designed to guide you through this process with empathy and self-compassion. Key Topics: Reviewing your progress with a kind heart. Reflecting on your experiences and feelings to date. Realigning your goals and intentions to match your energetics. Strategies to reset and refocus for the second half of the year. How to lean into growth and rise to your potential. Listen Now: This is your chance to reset and rise with renewed energy and intention. Let’s make the rest of the year count. PS: Have you joined our upcoming FREE masterclass on uncovering the real reasons you're not claiming the life you desire? Come and join me to unlock your purpose and step into your potential. https://www.simonedenny.me/unlockyourpurpose Connect with me: www.simonedenny.me facebook.com/simonedennycoaching instagram.com/simonedennycoaching simone@simonedenny.me

Have you ever noticed how some weeks you’re in a flow state, effortlessly getting things done, while other weeks your mind is constantly task-switching like a clown with too many balls in the air? As a coach, I'm passionate about helping people be intentional about where they put their energy and attention each day, week, and beyond. Personally, I've noticed a big difference when I don’t do my planning! In my Hatchery membership—a program for learning, growth, and connection—we often hold weekly and monthly primer sessions to set ourselves up for success and to live with intention. Starting your day or week with momentum can set the tone for a productive and fulfilling time ahead. Here are some strategies to help you achieve that sense of flow and purpose: Identify Something Important but Not Urgent: Ask yourself, "What is something important but not urgent that I could do today?" Focus on Your Top 3 Priorities: "What are the top 3 things you want to achieve today?" Practice Daily Gratitude: Reflect on, "What am I grateful for today?" Create White Space: Consider, "How can I create white space in my day?" By identifying important but not urgent tasks, focusing on top priorities, practicing daily gratitude, and creating white space, you can start your day or week with a strong sense of momentum and flow. These practices help create a balanced, fulfilling life and keep you moving steadily toward your bigger goals. What are some of your daily or weekly habits that help you get into momentum and flow? Connect with me: www.simonedenny.me facebook.com/simonedennycoaching instagram.com/simonedennycoaching simone@simonedenny.me Join the waitlist for the Hatchery https://www.simonedenny.me/the-hatchery-waitlist