S5E17: WAS I TOO MUCH — OR WAS HE NOT ENOUGH?

About this episode

The episode explores the dynamics of intimacy and misinterpretation of needs in relationships through a case study of Maureen and Mark's breakup.

S5E17: WAS I TOO MUCH — OR WAS HE NOT ENOUGH? Coach Paula Grooms Download 31-year-old Maureen and 37-year-old Mark ended their 8-year relationship after Maureen began to believe her need for intimacy was “too much” for Mark. In this episode of Make Him Wonder , we listen in as iconic therapist Esther Perel explores whether reconnection is possible after a breakup—and I share my perspective. Through the lens of the Mechanics of Men and a critical mindset shift, I unpack how Maureen’s needs became misinterpreted, and what she can do, going forward, to have the best chance of getting her needs met should the couple get back together. 

People in this episode

Guest: Esther Perel

Topics covered

• intimacy
• relationships
• breakup
• self-awareness

Keywords

• reconnection
• needs
• mechanics of men
• mindset shift

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Make Him Wonder, the Mechanics of Men

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