User Error of Hope- if "have hope" feels like a chore

About this episode

The episode discusses the challenges of maintaining hope in relationships amidst repeated painful patterns.

What do you do when you’re losing hope in your marriage/a relationship? Not because you don’t love your spouse. Not because you’re giving up. But because the same painful patterns keep repeating, and you’re exhausted waiting for change. In this episode, we talk about why many of us misunderstand biblical hope, especially in relationships. We often treat hope like optimism, instant relief, or confidence our spouse will finally change. But what if hope was never meant to work that w...

People in this episode

Hosts: Aaron Zint, Jenna Zint

Topics covered

• hope
• marriage
• relationships
• biblical hope
• painful patterns
• change

Keywords

• hope
• marriage
• relationships
• biblical hope
• optimism
• change
• exhaustion

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Books & works: User Error of Hope

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