136: Don't Take Anything Personally

About this episode

Debbie Harbec discusses the importance of not taking things personally and how it can transform your life.

Have you ever replayed something someone said to you, over and over again? Maybe something your partner said, or your child, or a client. And suddenly you're making it mean something about you ? I've been there too. This week on the podcast, I’m talking about one simple idea that has honestly changed the way I experience - well, everything: 👉 Don’t take anything personally. I didn't come up with this idea. I actually got it from a book I read decades ago called, "The Four Agreements", by Don Miguel Ruiz. And I know that this idea is easier said than done. But when you really start to get this, things begin to shift in a big way. In this episode, I share: ✨ Why what people say (good or bad) is almost never about you ✨ How taking things personally fuels negativity and drama ✨ A simple mindset shift that can instantly reduce drama in your life ✨ Why this matters so much in midlife - in particular in motherhood and business ✨ A real story from my daughter that brought this lesson to life in the most powerful way And yes, I also talk about self-love. (And yes… I still cringe a little saying that 😅) I promise that when you stop making other people’s words mean something about you…

People in this episode

Host: Debbie Harbec

Topics covered

• personal growth
• mindset shift
• self-love
• midlife challenges
• communication
• negativity

Keywords

• midlife
• self-improvement
• negativity
• mindset
• communication
• self-love
• personal growth

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: The Four Agreements

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