Whose Shame Are You Carrying?

About this episode

In this episode, Tash Doherty explores the pervasive feelings of inadequacy and shame that can stem from childhood experiences and societal expectations.

“I’m not enough,” I think to myself, as I pass a couple in love on the street. “I could never have a relationship like that. I’m not worthy. Even if someone liked me, they’d just get bored eventually and move on.” “I’m not enough,” I think to myself as I hit publish after writing an article all day. “I should have 5,000 subscribers by now. Then maybe my voice would matter.” Discover a more shamelessly sexy world 🌎 ✨ “I’m not enough,” I think to myself when I am mentioned in The New York Times. “That’s not a real feature. It’ll only count when I get a full-spread in The New Yorker .” “I’m not enough,” I say to my therapist, trembling and crying in front of my computer screen. It is right on the surface of my psyche, and in many ways, it is fundamental to who I am. Each time I achieve something, the goal post is suddenly flung out further in front of me, unreachable again. I do my best to achieve, achieve, achieve. Yet I metabolize my accolades and awards before I even get a second to enjoy them. My therapist tells me to work on my anger towards the adults who failed me in my childhood (who will remain anonymous). I know I feel angry, but I don’t know how that relates to this core…

Topics covered

• shame
• self-worth
• mental health
• childhood trauma

Keywords

• self-acceptance
• therapy
• achievement
• anger

Mentioned in this episode

Places: Mexico City, Mexico

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