82. Learning to Lead Our Selves: Becoming the Mother We Need

About this episode

This episode discusses the concept of selves leadership and its importance in personal development and emotional health.

In this episode, I talk about one of the most foundational concepts in the work we do here at The School of Mom: selves leadership . This is the thread that runs through everything — through the Mothering Ourselves Mindfully framework, through what it really means to want to "be a better mom," and through how we show up in a world that is desperately hungry for grounded, mature, emotionally attuned adults. If you've ever looked around and wondered where are the adults in the room? — this one is for you. Key Points What "selves leadership" actually means — We are not just one self. We are a compilation of younger selves, reactive selves, and wiser selves. The inner work here is about tending to the contracted parts while awakening and amplifying the more grounded, steady parts that are ready to lead. The connection to attachment theory — Many of us grew up without a securely attached caregiver — without someone who was emotionally healthy, attuned, and present. Selves leadership is about becoming that secure attachment figure for yourself , inside the ecosystem of your own inner world. It's not too late. Awakening vs. creating — This is a crucial distinction. We are not building…

People in this episode

Host: Sarah Harmon

Topics covered

• selves leadership
• attachment theory
• inner work
• emotional health
• personal growth

Keywords

• selves leadership
• attachment theory
• inner work
• emotional attunement
• personal growth

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