What Your Child Is Really Triggering In You with Gabor Maté

About this episode

Zoe Blaskey discusses with Gabor Maté how understanding our children's behavior can reveal deeper insights into our own childhood experiences and emotional triggers.

What if your child’s behaviour isn’t something to control… but something to understand? In this powerful conversation, Zoe sits down with one of the world’s leading voices on trauma, attachment and child development to explore the invisible patterns many of us carry into motherhood.Why do our children’s big emotions feel so triggering? Why do we instinctively want to shut down tears, tantrums or "difficult" behaviour? And what if so much of what we’re reacting to has very little to do with our children at all?This episode is a compassionate invitation to look beneath behaviour - theirs and ours - and understand how our own childhood experiences shape the mothers we become. 💡 In this moment, you’ll learn: Why your child's "acting out" may actually be communication The difference between behaviour that needs controlling and needs that need understanding Why motherhood can bring unresolved parts of our own childhood to the surface What it really means to be "triggered" by our children Why caring for ourselves is one of the most important things we can do for our childrenThis conversation may completely change the way you think about tantrums, emotions and your own reactions. Watch…

People in this episode

Host: Zoe Blaskey

Guest: Gabor Maté

Topics covered

• child behavior
• trauma
• attachment
• parenting
• emotional reactions
• self-care

Keywords

• child development
• tantrums
• emotions
• motherhood
• triggered
• communication
• understanding behavior

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