25. Why Blaming Your Parents Keeps You Stuck

About this episode

In this episode, Robyn Homer discusses how blaming your parents can hinder healing and offers insights on shifting from blame to personal agency.

Forgiving your parents can feel like the one thing you just can’t do, especially when the pain is real and justified. In this episode, I’m sharing the shift that changed everything for me. For years, I stayed stuck in blame. It helped me make sense of my past… but it also kept me tied to it. And that’s the part we don’t talk about enough. This conversation isn’t about excusing what happened or dismissing your anger. It’s about understanding why blame—no matter how valid it feels—can quietly keep you from actually healing. I break down: The difference between blame and responsibility (and why it matters) How blame keeps you psychologically tied to your parents Why anger is necessary, but blame is optional The role of generational patterns and inherited trauma How to shift into a place of agency without invalidating your experience This is the work that allows you to stop living in reaction to your past—and start creating something different moving forward. If you’ve done a lot of healing work but still feel stuck here, this episode will give you a new way to look at it. Next step: If this resonated and you’re ready to go deeper, I invite you to book a Discovery Call . This is the…

Topics covered

• forgiveness
• blame
• responsibility
• anger
• generational patterns
• inherited trauma
• healing

Keywords

• past abuse
• intimacy
• relationships
• psychological ties
• agency

Mentioned in this episode

Products: Discovery Call

Books & works: a Discovery Call

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