NAUGHTY GYM SHOW - Building Stronger Non-Monogamous Relationships

Fear, jealousy, and insecurity are some of the most common struggles couples face in the lifestyle, swinging, open relationships, and ethical non-monogamy. But what should you actually do when those feelings show up?In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show, April and Scott talk about the normal fears that come up in the lifestyle, including body comparison, fear of being replaced, anxiety around texting, repeat partners, kissing, solo dates, separate-room play, and the stories our brains create when we feel triggered.Most couples respond to fear by creating a new rule. Sometimes that can be helpful. Temporary agreements can act as scaffolding while trust and emotional capacity are being built. But when rules become the permanent solution, they can quietly turn into a cage.Scott and April introduce two practical frameworks from their upcoming Wild Love Theory workbook:The R.U.L.E. Pattern React to the TriggerUnpack the PainLimit the BehaviorEnforce the RuleThis is the common path couples take when fear shows up.The F.R.E.E. Framework Find the Real FearReexamine the StoryExpress the Need Without ControlExpand CapacityThis is a healthier way to process jealousy and insecurity without immediately turning fear into restriction.They also share personal examples from their own non-monogamous journey, including how insecurity can be connected to body image, relationship load, disconnection, old wounds, overwhelm, and feeling undesirable or unchosen.This episode is for anyone in the lifestyle, curious about ethical non-monogamy, or trying to understand how to deal with jealousy, rules, boundaries, insecurity, and fear without making each other smaller.The goal is not to build enough rules that nobody ever gets scared. The goal is to build enough capacity that fear no longer has to run the relationship.Learn more about our events, community, retreats, podcast, and upcoming book at NaughtyGym.com.Investor Info:scott@wandervest.worldNaughty Gym Info:Naughty Gym Website- www.naughtygym.comNaughty Gym Patreon- https://www.patreon.com/cw/NaughtyGymOur Upcoming Events:1. X Club Toronto Invasion - June 25-28th, 2026- https://www.tickettailor.com/events/naughtygym/21095782. Barcelona Adventure Trip - August 14-21st, 2026- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-20263. El Salvador Retreat - October 12-17th, 2026- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador4. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026- https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise5. Mancation Men's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026- https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain6. Naughty Gym's Holidaze - November 15-20th, 2026- https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze7. Be Better At Being Bad - January 2-9th, 2027- https://hedonism.com/bbbb#LifestylePodcast #EthicalNonMonogamy #SwingersLifestyle #OpenRelationships #Jealousy #RelationshipAdvice #NonMonogamy #LifestyleCouples #NaughtyGym #WildLoveTheory

Yes, we’re part of a new lifestyle resort project in Florida, and in this episode we bring on Jimmy Thorpe to talk about the vision, the opportunity, and what could become one of the most exciting lifestyle destinations in the United States.But the real story is bigger than the property.This conversation is about where non monogamy is headed. For a long time, a lot of lifestyle spaces have been built around the same basic formula: drinks, DJs, sex, and weekend parties. And while there is absolutely a place for that, we believe the community is ready for something more.We talk about creating spaces where non monogamy is not just about who you play with, but how deeply you connect, how freely you show up, and how much room there is for people to grow. That means better events, more thoughtful programming, wellness, education, community, inclusivity, and a culture where people can enjoy the atmosphere without pressure.In the second half of the episode, we dig into a question every non monogamous person and couple should ask:Why are we actually doing this?Our answer has changed a lot over the years. What started as something much more sex focused has become about connection, authenticity, freedom, and building a life where we do not have to edit ourselves down to stay accepted.So yes, this episode is about a resort.But it is really about the future of non monogamy, and what it might look like to build spaces that are strong enough to hold more freedom, more honesty, and more human connection.Investor Info:scott@wandervest.worldLink to Investor Webinar:https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/T7g1aIDNR2iSpykqZV8kLQNaughty Gym Info:Naughty Gym Website- www.naughtygym.comNaughty Gym Patreon- https://www.patreon.com/cw/NaughtyGymOur Upcoming Events:1. X Club Toronto Invasion - June 25-28th, 2026- https://www.tickettailor.com/events/naughtygym/21095782. Barcelona Adventure Trip - August 14-21st, 2026- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-20263. El Salvador Retreat - October 12-17th, 2026- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador4. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026- https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise5. Mancation Men's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026- https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain6. Naughty Gym's Holidaze - November 15-20th, 2026- https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze7. Be Better At Being Bad - January 2-9th, 2027- https://hedonism.com/bbbb

In this episode of the Naughty Gym Show, April and Scott pull back the curtain on one of the biggest shifts in their relationship so far: removing boundaries, testing freedom in real life, and learning what trust actually looks like when it is no longer theoretical.They talk openly about a major miscommunication that turned into a powerful experiment in non-monogamy, what happened when April gave Scott full freedom for 30 days, and how two unexpected real-world experiences challenged both of them to regulate, trust, and grow.From there, Scott puts April in the hot seat with raw, unfiltered questions about attraction, jealousy, one-penis policies, no-kissing rules, sexual innuendo, confidence, gossip, privacy, and the biggest turn-offs in both men and women. The result is one of their most candid conversations yet about autonomy, desire, emotional safety, and what healthy freedom actually requires.They also share updates on the upcoming Wild Love Theory retreat, Toronto X Club, Barcelona, El Salvador, new November events, and the huge news that they are officially under contract to purchase a lifestyle resort in Florida.This episode is honest, funny, provocative, and full of the kinds of relationship conversations most people are too afraid to have out loud.💰Major Investment Information For Florida Resort (Accredited Investors Only):Email: scott@wandervest.worldNaughty Gym WebsiteNaughty Gym PatreonOur Upcoming Events:1. Wild Love Theory Retreat - April 15-19th, 20262. X Club Toronto Invasion - June 25-28th, 20263. Barcelona Adventure Trip - August 14-21st, 20264. El Salvador Retreat - October 12-17th, 20265. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - November 8-11th, 20266. Mancation Men's Retreat - November 8-11th, 20267. Naughty Gym's Holidaze - November 15-20th, 2026

Before we jump into today’s conversation, we share a major announcement: after months of quiet work behind the scenes, we reveal that we’ve been involved with a group that is under contract to acquire what many consider one of the premier lifestyle resorts in Florida. Because of SEC rules, we have to be careful about what we say publicly, but we’re excited to share the project, the vision, and the role we hope to play in helping shape its future.After that, we sit down with two very special guests, Clint and Danine, our first-ever Naughty Gym members and longtime friends, for a candid conversation about their journey into non-monogamy. They share how an unexpected early experience got put on the shelf for years, how their marriage nearly fell apart before deeper self-work changed everything, and what it looked like to move from survival mode into a more expansive, honest, and adventurous partnership.This is a fun, raw, and deeply personal episode about growth, sexuality, healing, and what can become possible when a couple stops settling for the default script.Naughty Gym Website:www.NaughtyGym.comNaughty Gym Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/cw/NaughtyGymOur Upcoming Events:1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-20263. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador4. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise5. Mancation Men's Retreat - https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain6. Holidaze - https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze

What if the goal is not to erase jealousy, but to stop letting it drive the car? Dr. Marie Thouin joins April and Scott to define compersion in clear, grounded terms, and to explain why it can show up as an emotion, an attitude, or even simple supportive neutrality. They talk about the spectrum from “I can handle this” to genuine joy, the “second arrow” of self-inflicted suffering, and the conditions that make compersion more likely: security in self, security in the relationship, supportive community, and more. The episode also explores how autonomy and trust intersect with boundaries, when “training wheels” help, and how to tell the difference between growth discomfort and self-abandonment.Dr Marie Thouin Websites:https://mariethouin.com/https://www.whatiscompersion.com/Naughty Gym Website:www.NaughtyGym.comOur Upcoming Events:1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-20263. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador

In this live event recording, sex educator Luna Matatas breaks down why kink can feel so electrifying by exploring the psychology of power, risk, and taboo and how “eroticism” is really the felt sense of being lit up in mind and body. She offers a practical way to translate fantasy into real life by focusing less on props and more on the feelings and “flavors” you want to create, building a clear container of consent, and asking the two questions that change everything: How do I want to feel? How do you want to feel?Then sexologist and coach Ashley Manta introduces Internal Family Systems (IFS) as a powerful tool for relationships and non-monogamy: learning to notice your “parts,” stop speaking from them, and start speaking for them. With vulnerable, funny stories and concrete steps, she shows how to work with jealousy, fear, and insecurity without outsourcing your safety to your partner, and how self-energy (calm, curiosity, compassion, clarity, courage) turns conflict into repair, intimacy, and better sex.Website:www.NaughtyGym.comUpcoming Events:1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-20263. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador

This week’s second special episode is Scott’s opening keynote from Be Better At Being Bad 2026 at Hedonism II Resort: The Freedom Mandate: The Ethical Case for Relational Freedom.Scott unpacks Wild Love Theory’s seven-word thesis, “Maximum relational happiness requires maximum relational freedom,” and asks the question that can feel both inspiring and terrifying: If your partner’s happiness matters to you… do you owe them freedom?From there, he draws a crucial line between true boundaries (inward-facing choices for self-protection) and what most couples call “boundaries” but are actually imposed limits designed to manage fear. He explains why rules can be necessary early on, but only as scaffolding: temporary supports meant to loosen as trust, regulation, and repair become load-bearing.The talk ends with a raw, personal story from Scott and April’s relationship: the moment Scott kissed April goodbye as she got ready for a date with no rules, and what that taught him about control, courage, and what it means to build a relational cathedral two free people can actually live inside.Next week we’ll release our full recap of BBBB 2026. If this keynote brings up questions or reflections, email Scott anytime at naughtygymonline@gmail.com.Website:www.NaughtyGym.comUpcoming Events:1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-20263. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador

2025 was a LOT… and we’re ending the year with one of the biggest growth moments in our relationship.In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show, we tell the full story of April’s first real autonomous solo date—the nerves, the ugly Christmas sweater plan, the chemistry, the decision-making in the moment, and what it was like for Scott to sit at home and feel the “flutter” (aka jealousy/activation)… without making it her responsibility.We also break down the real stuff people avoid talking about in ethical non-monogamy:What compersion actually feels like (not the internet version)How jealousy shows up even when you’re secureAutonomy vs. caretaking (and how to stop people-pleasing)Debriefing after a big night: what helped, what didn’t, and what we learnedAnd yes… Scott shares the sleep-aid + vodka + couch disaster that happened DAYS before the date. 😬Events & trips:🇯🇲 Be Better Being Bad (Jamaica) — Jan 3–10 (few rooms left)🏔️ Wild Love Theory Couples Retreat — Apr 15–19 (booking fast)🇪🇸 Barcelona — Aug 14–21 (limited spots)More info: naughtygym.com🎁 If you want to support the show: Like, Subscribe, and leave a comment (it helps more than you think).#ENM #NonMonogamy #OpenRelationship #Compersion #Marriage #RelationshipAdvice

Welcome back to The Naughty Gym Show! In this episode, April and Scott catch you up on everything that’s been happening behind the scenes — from finishing their Wild Love Theory book to launching a stacked calendar of retreats for 2025 and beyond.They start with updates on Be Better at Being Bad at Hedonism II and their new “Fuck Melissa” fundraiser shirt supporting the Hedo Cares Foundation after the hurricane. From there, they share exciting news about the upcoming Wild Love Theory Couples Retreat (a “relationship black belt” experience for already solid couples) and why WLT isn’t therapy to “fix” something broken, but a radical, freedom-based reframing of how we do love.Wild Love Theory Retreat Info: https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreatThen they dive into heartfelt recaps of their two November retreats: • Mancation Mountain – a men’s-only cabin retreat that was supposed to be steaks, bourbon, and bowling… and turned into one of the most emotional, transformative weekends of many guys’ lives. Scott talks about how connection circles, deep questions, and a non-judgmental container led to tears, breakthroughs, and 20 new friendships — plus a twist on their usual format that he’ll carry into future events. • Wild & Wise – April’s menopause-focused women’s retreat, where women from all over the country and all relationship structures gathered to learn, cry, laugh, and reconnect to their bodies. She shares stories of workshops on hormones, desire, and aging; sensual (not sexual) touch; late-night bunkroom bonding; and an impromptu boudoir shoot that helped women see themselves as sexy and powerful again.They also talk about what’s coming next: • A Religion & Non-Monogamy retreat with two tracks (for those keeping faith and those deconstructing it) • A future men + women split-then-merge couples retreat • Adventure trips to Barcelona and El Salvador • Local events like Sapphire Starlington’s sex-positive Christmas party where April and Scott will appear as a very spicy Mr. and Mrs. ClausFinally, they close with a reminder that NaughtyGym.com isn’t just about travel — it’s also their online fitness and coaching community, with weekly live calls, workouts, and 1:1 coaching spots available for people who want to thrive in their bodies and their relationships.If you’re curious about their retreats, coaching, or Wild Love Theory itself, this episode is a perfect snapshot of where the Naughty Gym universe is headed — more depth, more freedom, more community, and as always… never stop playing.Our Website:www.naughtygym.comWild Love Theory Retreat:https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreatNaughty Gym 1 on 1 Coaching: https://calendly.com/naughtygym/free-1-on-1-coaching-consultKevin Dean's article in Medium about our retreats: https://medium.com/under-the-umbrella/swinger-retreats-that-are-not-co-ed-by-kevin-and-rachel-dean-83ee58c7c980

Today we go deep on throuples—what makes a three-person relationship (triad) work in real life. Our guest is Dr. Rachael Meir, a Stanford-trained psychologist, sex & relationship coach, author of 50 Questions to Ask Before Opening Your Relationship, and host of retreats designed specifically for throuples.In this episode (throuple-forward): • Shapes of throuples: V vs. closed triad, the “everyone dates everyone” myth, and why symmetry isn’t the only path to stability. • Avoiding triangles (the bad kind): How to reduce coalitions, secret alliances, and “two against one” dynamics with simple, predictable check-ins. • Jealousy in 3s: Why jealousy feels different in a triad, Dr. Meir’s “dashboard warning light” frame, and how to respond without spiraling. • Differentiation = less codependence: Staying three whole people (not one fused blob) actually strengthens the connection between all of you. • Logistics that keep love humane: Calendars, re-entry rituals, and short “state-of-us” huddles so no one becomes the project manager (or the parent). • Ethics & invitations: Power imbalances, “unicorn hunting,” and creating consent that’s real for all three partners—not just the original pair. • Retreat lessons: What Dr. Meir sees thriving throuples do differently (language, expectations, and how they handle NRE without breaking the triangle).Plus, we pull 5 key prompts from Dr. Meir’s book to ground any non-monogamy journey: • What desires/needs do I believe non-monogamy could fulfill (for me, not just my partner)? • Do I have enough self-esteem to stay out of comparison traps? • Are we differentiated—two/three whole people with overlap—rather than merged? • Are we opening to fill a void/fix a problem (and what would repair look like first)? • What small agreements would make us feel safer without turning into surveillance?Big takeaways you can use tonight • Trade control for clarity: one short weekly check-in beats constant play-by-play. • Re-entry rituals after solo or third-partner time keep connection warm and resentment low. • In triads, fairness ≠ sameness—aim for dignity for all three, not equal minutes.Find Dr. Meir: https://www.drrachaelmeir.com/Naughty Gym: https://www.naughtygym.com/

What happens when a longtime marriage says “yes” to curiosity? In this candid convo, Freddy and Andi share how a flirt turned into a slow, consent-first path to non-monogamy and how they “accidentally” became poly. We dig into the real stuff: jealousy and the fear of being replaced, what “check-ins” actually mean (hint: eye contact isn’t enough), and why emotional regulation beats willpower when the feelings get loud. They open up about past secrecy, rebuilding trust, discovering compersion, and why retreats (hello, Expansive Connection) gave them tools that parties never could. Expect practical takeaways on requests vs. mind-reading, setting pace without pressure, navigating separate dates, and creating love that expands, without losing “my person.”Featuring:Freddy & Andy’s 15-year journey from “big no” to sustainable polyThe exact check-in framework that stopped spiralsLessons from men’s/women’s circles, real-time coaching, and a regulation breakthroughHot-wife dynamics, long-term girlfriend logistics, and staying special while sharingIf you’re opening up, curious about poly, or healing after a breach, this episode is your field guide to honest rules, softer landings, and deeper love.Naughty Gym Info-Website: https://www.naughtygym.com/Events: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-eventsDevious Dragonfly:https://www.deviousdragonfly.com/Expansive Connection:https://www.expansiveconnection.com/

In this raw and hilarious episode, April and Scott sit down with their dear friend Roderick — filmmaker of Open: A Journey Through Love — to explore the intersections of neurodivergence and non-monogamy. From awkward flirting misfires to the surprising superpowers of direct communication, the three share personal stories about autism, sensory overwhelm, compersion, and why neurodivergent lovers might just be the best in bed. If you’ve ever wondered how differently-wired brains navigate open relationships, this one will open your eyes, your heart, and maybe even your bedroom.Learn about Roderick's documentary, Open: A Journey Through LoveLearn about Naughty Gym Come Party & Travel with us!

In this powerful episode, April and Scott open up about two months of unexpected personal chaos—and the tools that got them through it. From setting firm family boundaries to rebuilding self-trust after betrayal, they explore how to protect your peace without shutting down or giving up. April shares the story behind a life-changing letter she wrote to her brothers, the surprising fallout, and why pausing—even in non-monogamy—can be the healthiest move. They dive into the struggle of being the family fixer, the trap of overgiving, and the question at the heart of it all: Who do you think you aren’t… to deserve peace, trust, and space to be yourself? You’ll also hear: • How to nurture yourself when you’re always the nurturer • Why intuition matters (and how to listen without self-doubt) • The real impact of setting boundaries in open relationships • What to do when the people you love disappoint you Whether you’re juggling relationships, caregiving, or just trying to find your center again—this episode offers raw honesty, laughter, and some hard-earned wisdom. 📍 Join the community at naughtygym.com 📅 See upcoming events, meetups & retreats Men's & Women's Retreat Details: 📍 November 13–16 | Smoky Mountains: - 👯‍♀️ For women at any stage: peri, post, or somewhere in between 🙋🏻‍♂️ For men: Mancation Mountain JOIN NAUGHTY GYM'S COMMUNITYUPCOMING EVENTS