On The WetCoast Podcast

On this episode of On The Wet Coast Kat Stark & Flick Morrison talk to Mike Joseph, a radio personality, sex educator, and host of the podcast "Detoxicity: By Men, About Men, For Everyone" It's a podcast that looks at the question, "What does it mean to be a man in the 21st century?’ Mike is an advocate for mental health and has spoken at schools and on panels about his own experiences with depression and anxiety. He created the initiative Mindful Vinyl, which releases limited edition versions of albums on green vinyl, with a portion of the proceeds benefiting the mental health charity the JED Foundation. Mike is also on the Billboard 2020 Pride List of Industry-Shaping LGBTQ Executives ----- Kat's novel, Waking Up Polyamorous - is now out in Audiobook, paperback or ebook at Audible, amazon and other online retailers. Hear more of narrator Jacqueline Rendell Kat's saucy memoir Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is available at your favourite online book source in paperback, ebook, and audiobook - Amazon, Audible , Itunes Follow us on twitter @OnTheWetCoast @WetcoastKat @seriousFLICK We've got Swag! Check out our line of Wampa Wand merch--er, non-infringing Space Yeti merch--at OnTheWetCoast.redbubble.com Check out www.OnTheWetCoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more Contribute to our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/OnTheWetCoast Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/ Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

The most common question I get when talking about expressing needs during sex is, "Doesn't it wreck the mood?" As infuriating as I find it, I know it's not the fault of the person questioning since they can't help but have learned the lesson that any discussion is a mood-killer. From the first love scenes we ever see on screen our culture indoctrinates us with the idea that sexytimes should just 'flow'. There's no discussion of who might want what or how but somehow if we're doing it right, there's a telepathic link between the couple that means everyone just 'knows'. Expressing our needs and wants, as well as negotiating and communicating ongoing consent, don't fit into 'the flow' narrative, and while many of us have decided to re-write the rules of what constitutes a committed relationship, we're still resistant to throwing out the myth of 'The Flow'. On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick Morrison and Kat Stark discuss the toxic myth of "The Flow" and how more talking can mean better sex. We've got Swag! Check out our line of Wampa Wand merch--er, non-infringing Space Yeti merch--at OnTheWetCoast.redbubble.com Buy Kat Stark's novel, Waking Up Polyamorous, in paperback or ebook at amazon and other online retailers. Kat's saucy memoir Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is available at your favourite online book source in paperback, ebook, and audiobook - Amazon, Audible , Itunes Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK  Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more Contribute to our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/OnTheWetCoast Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/ Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com   Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere Waking Up Polyamorous music - Now Son by Poddington Bear

One of the most exciting things about non-monogamy can be the novelty of new adventures and new people in our lives. At the same time, one of the many sources of stress in our world is an excess of choice. How can we make the right decisions with so many options as we try to decide who to date, who to make advance plans with, and/or who to hook up with at play parties or the swinger club? Due to that excess of choice we're often looking over our shoulder to see if there's anything else/better coming along rather than focusing on being where we are and who we're with. The FOMO - Fear Of Missing Out - can make it that we're not able to be present in the moment and we don't ever truly enjoy the experience we're currently having. We can also get so caught up in comparing what we have with what others have that we never really appreciate the experiences we have and the people we have them with. On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick Morrison and Kat Stark are discussing Novelty, Being in the Moment, and Gangbangs. Buy Kat Stark's novel, Waking Up Polyamorous, in paperback or ebook at amazon and other online retailers. Happiness Lab Podcast available here Kat's saucy memoir Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is available at your favourite online book source in paperback, ebook, and audiobook - Amazon, Audible , Itunes Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more Contribute to our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/OnTheWetCoast Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/ Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere Waking Up Polyamorous music - AcidJazz by Kevin_MacLeod

Accountability and Consent can feel like the least fun topics to discuss when it comes to sexy lifestyles but when we really focus on building these factors in a way that lets go of the definitions used by the justice system and focuses on the subjective experiences of the parties, our kink and sexytimes can be much more fun. In an era of social media call-outs, it might feel risky to take part in activities where consent factors strongly, which means quality negotiations and being accountable to the consent rules of others (as well as our own) are more important than ever. Today Kat Stark & Flick Morrison talk to Victor Salmon, an educator and host of Intimate Interactions Podcast who has created the VOICES framework for Best Practices of Consent. Victor will help guide us through some of the ways we can make our consent negotiations lead to "high quality" consent so our playtimes can be great for everyone involved. @intimateVictor on Twitter and Instagram and Facebook Buy Kat Stark's new novel, Waking Up Polyamorous, in paperback or ebook at amazon and other online retailers. Kat's saucy memoir Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is available at your favourite online book source in paperback, ebook, and audiobook - Amazon, Audible , Itunes Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more Contribute to our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/OnTheWetCoast Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/ Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere Waking Up Polyamorous music - AcidJazz by Kevin_MacLeod

It's no secret that On The Wet Coast, we love our sex toys. Using those toys for strap-on sex is one of our favourite ways to engage with partners, or watch our partners engage with others. Though in some ways it is as simple as popping a dildo in a harness and getting to work, strap-on sex tends to be a bit more nuanced than we expect when starting out. Finding the right equipment, the right harness and dildo combinations can be more challenging than we expect, especially since what is right for one partner or act isn't so right for another. And positioning yourself as the thruster as well as finding the right position for your receiver can be incredibly awkward, especially at first. I'm Kat Stark, and on this Episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick Morrison and I are discussing Strapping It On. We've got lots of tips and suggestions to help you get up and thrusting and feeling like the sexual rock stars you are. Find out more about the gear we mention (and links to purchase) in this episode on our website - onthewetcoast.com. Buy Kat Stark's brand new novel, Waking Up Polyamorous, in paperback or ebook at amazon and other online retailers. Kat's saucy memoir Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is available at your favourite online book source in paperback, ebook, and audiobook - Amazon, Audible , Itunes Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more Contribute to our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/OnTheWetCoast Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/ Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere Waking Up Polyamorous music - AcidJazz by Kevin_MacLeod

Finding your people can be one of the most important things you do as you make your way in the world, and when you find them, it feels like coming home. Feels like family. Many of us have found a group or groups of people we consider to be family. Chosen family as opposed to biological or family of origin can be essential especially for those of us in alternate lifestyles. The people we end up sharing our lives and experiences with can be extensive--not just our partners and close friends, but their partners, our former loves, casual sex friends, and fellow pervs and kinksters can make up our chosen family. They’re the people we can truly be ourselves with, maybe for the first time ever. Much like our families of origin, however, there can be issues within our chosen family. We’re not always going to love the people our people love and may end up spending time with those we wouldn’t choose to on our own. And when relationships end, the devastation and loss can be amplified since we sometimes lose an extended network of people because we’re no longer connected with the partner that was the nexus between us. On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick Morrison and Kat Stark are discussing chosen family. The audiobook version of Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is now available on Audible and Itunes. Buy Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more Contribute to our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/OnTheWetCoast Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/ Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Since the passage of FOSTA/SESTA in the US, sexual content on the internet has been progressively quashed, starting with shutting down places sex workers could advertise but flowing forward until Tumblr was all but shuttered when they were no longer allowed to have sexual content. Various agencies drop the scare words ‘sex trafficking’ and the changes are made under the guise of protecting the vulnerable but has had the opposite effect by forcing many sex workers onto the streets and taking away the resources they used to have to vett and screen clients. On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick Morrison and Kat Stark chat with Carrie Hill, a sex worker activist and professional dominant (among many other things) who is here to talk to us about Why Sex Work Matters and how the rules and restrictions around sex work will affect your life more and more. Find Carrie on Twitter @empoweringsex & their website https://empoweringsexuality.ch/ Dominatrix on Trial: Bedford vs Canada - Terri Jean Bedford - Buy on Amazon.ca Peg The Patriarchy - Luna Matatas - Etsy Shop The audiobook version of Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is now available on Audible and Itunes. Buy Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/ Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

If you're lucky, the place where you're living has a thriving sex -positive community and it takes little effort to find and take part in events such as meet-ups, workshops, and conventions. Most likely, that's not the case and either there isn't much of a community or the community that is there doesn't align with your interests, ethics, or outlook. Sometimes, you've got to step forward and spearhead building that community yourself. It's a bit of a terrifying concept, but it can be done. Today On The Wet Coast, we talk with two people who are doing just that. They've founded the Vancouver Sex Positive Society and are ramping up for the 3rd Annual Converge Con, a conference originated with a desire to build sex positive communities, and start a dialogue around sexuality, relationships, and activism. Find more on Twitter @VancouverSPS and @ConvergeTweets Find the bursary application here The audiobook version of Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is now available on Audible and Itunes. Buy Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/ Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

We're doing something a little different on this episode. Many of you know a whole lot about Kat Stark thanks to their blog posts and book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut. Their co-host, co-conspirator, and true love is more of a mystery since he doesn't blurt his shit all over the internet the same way Kat does. On this episode of On The Wet Coast, you get a chance to peek behind the curtain and learn more about self-described Super Villain, Gamer, geek, and resident know-it-all Flick Morrison. Sit back and enjoy while Kat makes him uncomfortable with a ton of personal questions. Buy Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/ Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Geekery & non-monogamy crossover in so many ways. So many of the people we've met, connected with, and sexed up have been fellow geeks that enjoy much of the same pop culture that we do, whether it's movies, tv shows, books, musical theatre, roleplaying games, or video games. You need to have something to talk about when the sexin's done, after all. Despite the chic that many geeky pastimes now enjoy, it wasn't always the case. Those of us who spent our youth with interests outside the norm of sportsball and Top 40 tunes have always tended to seek others who are similar. Turns out, the outsiders also tend to find their way into kink and non-monogamous realms. Joining Flick Morrison and Kat Stark On The Wet Coast is Kevin Patterson. Kevin is the creator of the Poly Role Models project, author of “Love's Not Color Blind”, and self-professed geek, and here to talk Sex, Geeks, and Sexy Geekery. Follow Kevin on Twitter: @polyrolemodels Mentioned in episode: Prepare To Meet Thy Doom - David Kushner Buy Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/ Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere Record Scratch Audio - AudioSoundClips.com

Click-baity title aside, many people would like to figure out how to get more sex and better sex in their lives. It's not a priority for everyone, and isn't required to be, but for those who are looking to get more sex in their lives, it can be a struggle. We're here to tell you it doesn't have to be. Reinterpreting what sex is can be a big and helpful start down the path to more sex. As well, reinterpreting what you're looking for in a sexual encounter can help you figure out how to get your needs met beyond any specific set of acts. It isn't always 'insert tab A in slot B' that we want from sex (though sometimes it is and that is also legitimate). Sometimes what we want is a sense of connection or physical intimacy that can be met in more ways than we think. On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick Morrison and Kat Stark discuss How to Have More (and Better) Sex. Buy Kat's new book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/ Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Nearly everyone we know claims to be bad at flirting, the two of us included, but somehow many of us are scoring dates and getting laid. How do we get over our own brains to send that first message or turn a chat into something sexy and sassy? And once we're in a sexy space, how do we wrap our heads around talking dirty. There's an art to knowing when to push a conversation to a sexy place or leave an opening for someone else to do so and when to leave it respectfully platonic. And as it turns out, talking dirty can be a lot easier than you think. On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick and Kat, plus special guests Wes and Raina, discuss the whens, wheres, and hows of Flirting, Sexting, and Dirty Talk. *Please note that our Dirty Talk episode also contains some dirty audio. There's some audio distortion that crops up during episode that we were able to reduce but not fully remove. Buy Kat's new book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/ Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Attraction is a mysterious thing. There are physical and personality characteristics in people we're almost always attracted to: perhaps a certain body type or sense of humour. Other times it can be harder to nail down why a certain person hits all the yes buttons for you, or what makes us override our usual "dealbreakers". They could be completely different than what normally gets you going and if you lined up 5 similar people, you might not feel anything for any of the others. Attraction can even be situational. You can find yourself interested in someone in a certain time and place when they wouldn't have the same appeal in others. Whether it's biology and pheromones, cultural influence, or personality, there are myriad factors at play in who we find attractive. On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Kat Stark & Flick Morrison talk Attraction. Buy Kat's new book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/ Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere Yelling In Pasties music: Buddy Guy - Podington Bear