Loving Each of My Kids Well (When They All Need Something Different)

Loving Each of My Kids Well (When They All Need Something Different)

From Pardon the Mess with Scarlet Hiltibidal - Christian Motherhood, Biblical Parenting, Raising Christian Kids by Scarlet Hiltibidal and Christian Parenting

June 11, 2026 · 28 min

About this episode

Scarlet Hiltibidal discusses the challenges and joys of loving each child uniquely in a family with diverse needs.

How do you love your children well when every one of them seems to need something completely different from you? In this week's episode of Pardon the Mess , Scarlet Hiltibidal explores one of the most common tensions in motherhood: the desire to make sure each child feels deeply loved, seen, and secure, even when their personalities, needs, struggles, and seasons of life look nothing alike. Drawing from her own experience parenting four very different children, including sharing the adoption story of her daughter Joy, Scarlet reflects on the unique challenges and unexpected gifts that come with loving children individually rather than identically. From navigating a wide age gap between siblings to understanding different temperaments, emotional needs, and life experiences, she discusses the pressure many moms feel to keep everything equal, and why equal isn't always the same as loving well. At the heart of this conversation is a beautiful gospel truth: God Himself does not interact with every one of His children in exactly the same way. Throughout Scripture, we see a God who knows people personally, pursues them individually, and meets them in the unique circumstances of their…

People in this episode

Host: Courtney DeFeo

Guest: Scarlet Hiltibidal

Topics covered

  • motherhood
  • parenting
  • individual needs
  • love
  • gospel truth

Keywords

  • Christian parenting
  • loving children
  • individual needs
  • motherhood challenges
  • gospel truth

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Christian Parenting

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