Why discomfort is critical for our kids with Sissy Goff and David Thomas
From Pardon the Mess with Scarlet Hiltibidal - Christian Motherhood, Biblical Parenting, Raising Christian Kids by Scarlet Hiltibidal and Christian Parenting
May 7, 2026 · 29 min
About this episode
This episode discusses the importance of discomfort in helping children build confidence and resilience.
ATTENTION: I have a pretty big announcement in the introduction of this episode. Don’t miss what’s coming next on Pardon the Mess ! Raising confident, resilient kids starts with helping them believe they are capable. In this episode, Sissy Goff and David Thomas—therapists and authors of Capable —share insight on how to help children build the confidence and resilience they need to face challenges. Drawing from decades of counseling experience, the conversation explores what it means for kids to develop a deep belief in their ability to do hard things and navigate adversity. We talk about the importance of allowing kids to experience discomfort, why stepping back can actually help them grow, and how everyday moments can build confidence and emotional strength. This episode is a helpful reminder that our kids are often more capable than we realize—and that giving them space to struggle can be one of the greatest gifts we offer. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Personal Stories of Capability 03:02 Understanding Anxiety in Children 05:56 The Role of Parents in Building Capability 08:53 Balancing Support and Challenge in Parenting 11:46 Real-Life Examples of Capability in Children…
People in this episode
Host: Courtney DeFeo
Guests: Sissy Goff, David Thomas
Topics covered
- confidence
- resilience
- parenting
- child development
- emotional strength
Keywords
- confidence
- resilience
- parenting
- children
- discomfort
- emotional strength
- capability
- Sissy Goff
- David Thomas
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: Pardon the Mess, Christian Parenting
Books & works: Capable
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