Pleasure Science

The way you "hope" for love is quietly shaping your entire reality. In this season finale, sex scholar Nadège breaks down the secret reason why you aren't getting what you want. It's the difference between a life shaped by fear and a life shaped by aligned action. You'll learn a hack that weaves neuroscience, hope, and psychology to overcome all the fear and shame holding you back from receiving pleasure and giving love. It's time to learn exactly how to get over your fears so you can finally take the steps you are avoiding. By the end of this episode, you'll have the blueprint that shows you how to stop expecting the worst, how to trust yourself again, and how to create the love life you actually want. Let's raise your standards for what's possible on the season two finale of Pleasure Science! Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [http://www.pleasurescience.com/] BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science] @PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience] Episode website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-13-season-2 The Flirt Quiz (free!) - https://www.pleasurescience.com/flirt The Art of Flirtation - https://www.pleasurescience.com/the-art-of-flirtation

You're not broken if sex hurts, and this episode explains why. In this vulnerable episode of Pleasure Science, sex scholar Nadège shares her personal journey of painful sex and vaginismus, to pleasure, safety, and multiple orgasms. Get a rare look into how a lack of sex education, silence, and pressure shaped Nadège's sex life, and how somatic healing, pelvic floor therapy, and communication were the magic tools that healed her life. Grounded in lived experience and science, this conversation outlines how healing is possible, pleasure is learnable, and your body is wise when given time, safety, and a voice. *TW for SA Show Notes: Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [http://www.pleasurescience.com/] BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science] @PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience] Episode website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-11-season-2 Voice Your Desires [https://www.pleasurescience.com/voice-your-desires] The Body Keeps the Score [https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-body-keeps-the-score-brain-mind-and-body-in-the-healing-of-trauma-bessel-van-der-kolk-m-d/9e63236863805513]

When did old stop being a number and start feeling like an insult? Especially when it comes to sex. In this episode, sex scholar Nadège unpacks how age became a quiet source of shame in the bedroom, and why that story is deeply wrong. From libido myths and menopause, to erections, queer aging, late bloomers, and erotic confidence at every stage of life, this episode reframes aging as an upgrade, not a decline. Stop fearing that you will become invisible, undesirable, or "past your prime". This conversation is here to remind you that your sexuality doesn't expire. It evolves. Show Notes: Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [http://www.pleasurescience.com/] BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science] @PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience] Episode website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-9-season-2 Voice Your Desires [https://www.pleasurescience.com/voice-your-desires] SAGE [https://www.sageusa.org/] Open House [https://www.openhousesf.org/] LGBTQ Elders Meetups [https://www.meetup.com/topics/lgbt-seniors/] Damn Good Dyke Nights [https://linktr.ee/damn.good.dyke.nights] - Look for their Hot Flash and Hotter Flash events

Why does sex fade in long-term relationships? Why does casual sex feel confusing instead of fun? And why do so many people secretly believe the love life they want just isn't possible for them? In this episode, sex scholar and relationship coach Nadège shares the five sex struggles she sees in almost every sex coaching session, drawing from 15+ years of research and real client work across dating, relationships, non-monogamy, BDSM, and sexual confidence. This episode is part crash course, part reality check—and part invitation. You'll start to recognize where desire gets blocked, where communication breaks down, and why so many people are working so hard in their love lives without getting the results they want. If you've ever wondered "Is it just me?" or felt like you're missing a key everyone else seems to have—this conversation will feel like it's speaking directly to you. Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [http://www.pleasurescience.com/] BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science] @PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience] Episode website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-7-season-2

Wonder Woman's origin story isn't just feminist — it's kinky. In this episode of Pleasure Science, sex scholar Nadège reveals the hidden BDSM history behind Wonder Woman, and the unconventional polyamorous throuple who created her. You'll learn how psychologist William Marston, his wife Elizabeth, and their partner, Olive Byrne, infused dominance, submission, bondage, DISC theory, and radical relationship ethics into the Wonder Woman's comics. This is a deep dive into sex history, power dynamics, ethical kink, and how non-traditional relationships can change culture for the better. From kinky psychology to underground 1930s fetìsh parties, this is the story DC Comics never expected you to know… Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [http://www.pleasurescience.com/] BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science] @PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience] Episode website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-5-season-2 Wonder Woman [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wonder_Woman] William Marston [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/William_Moulton_Marston] Elizabeth Holloway [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elizabeth_Holloway_Marston] Olive Byrne [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Olive_Byrne] Margaret Sanger [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Margaret_Sanger] Pleasure Science Podcast - Season 1, Episode 6 with Nicoletta [https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-6] BDSM Fantasy Lab [https://www.pleasurescience.com/bdsm-fantasylab]

Digital intimacy is real — and you're doing it every day, whether you realize it or not. In this episode of Pleasure Science, sex scholar Nadège breaks down the secret emotional world happening inside your phone: the affection in your memes, the desire to send a sext, and the rituals of love hidden inside every cell phone. We explore how technology has completely reshaped human intimacy — and why your texts, nudes, and phone calls matter more than you think. From the psychology of sexting to digital boundaries, consent, and what happens when digital intimacy is violated through hacking or revenge porn, this conversation reframes online connection as a normal, healthy part of modern relationships. Discover how digital affection builds desire, how technology shapes communication in love, and why embracing digital intimacy without shame can transform your sex life and your self-confidence. Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [http://www.pleasurescience.com/] BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science] @PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience] Episode website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-3-season-2 Episode 1: 6 Lies About Sex You Probably Think Are True [https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-1-season-2] Voice Your Desires [https://www.pleasurescience.com/voice-your-desires]

Welcome back to Season 2 of the Pleasure Science Podcast! Where sexual liberation becomes your new normal by changing the way you love and feel loved. 💋Episode 1 will blow your mind as Nadège exposes the top six lies about sex that you probably think are true. Come join your friendly neighborhood sex scholar Nadège as she busts common myths about virginity, the hymen, libido, foreplay, and the clitoris with science-backed truths that will change how you understand your body. You'll learn why sex is a social behavior, not a reproductive one, and how misinformation keeps us disconnected from pleasure and power. Whether you're healing shame, exploring desire, or redefining intimacy, this episode helps you start fresh with confidence, clarity, and curiosity. Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [http://www.pleasurescience.com/] BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science] @PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience] Episode website: https://www.pleasurescience.com/episode-1-season-2 Hymen photo [https://drive.google.com/file/d/1eDujjqdIQMsi70gTkJfxIXwYWz49Diiu/view?usp=sharing] Clitoris photo [https://drive.google.com/file/d/1PqCxcaiTuD8_jVwbScwrJO1b565pmQzu/view?usp=sharing] Touch and Trust Method [https://www.pleasurescience.com/touch-trustmethod]

What if everything you thought you knew about sex was just one version of the story? In this episode, Nadège is joined by author and activist Lucie Fielding, whose groundbreaking work on trans sex is reshaping how we think about pleasure, bodies, and desire. Together, these two scholars explore how queering sex (i.e. breaking free from ideas of what sex should be) can make intimacy more exciting, fulfilling, and inclusive for everyone. In this eye-opening conversation, Nadège and Lucie talk about: * The real reason why the traditional sex script limits your pleasure * How renaming body parts can transform intimacy * What "muffing" is and why you might want to try it If you've ever felt like sex was supposed to look a certain way, this episode will give you permission to rewrite the rules. Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [https://pleasurescience.com/] BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science] @PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience] Episode website: https://pleasurescience.com/s1e12-queer-sex-tips Connect with Lucie! Lucie's website - sign up for her newsletter! [https://luciefielding.com/] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sexbeyondbinaries/] BlueSky [https://www.instagram.com/sexbeyondbinaries/] Amber L Hollibaugh [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amber_L._Hollibaugh] Douglas Crimp [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Douglas_Crimp] How to Have Promiscuity in an Epidemic [https://www.sas.upenn.edu/~cavitch/pdf-library/Crimp_How_To_Have.pdf] Sigmund Freud [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sigmund_Freud] Sigmund Freud: Three Essays on the Theory of Sexuality [https://www.sas.upenn.edu/~cavitch/pdf-library/Freud_SE_Three_Essays_complete.pdf] Mira Bellweather [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mira_Bellwether] F*cking Trans Women [https://archive.org/details/fucking-trans-women-mira-bellwether-october-2010.cleaned]

What does it mean to love your body and embrace your unique story? This week on Pleasure Science, we're joined by Lyss Ball—intersex advocate, somatic spaceholder, and trauma-informed embodiment expert. Lyss gets vulnerable on the pod and opens up about being intersex, redefining sexuality, and cultivating self-love through somatic healing. We dive into the powerful rituals that can help you connect to your body and deepen intimacy in all areas of life. Tune in for a transformative conversation about empowerment, identity, and pleasure! Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [https://pleasurescience.com/] BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science] @PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience] Episode Website: https://pleasurescience.com/s1e10-somatic-intersex [http://www.pleasurescience.com/s1ep10-somatic-intersex] Connect with Lyss! Website [https://www.iamlimitlyss.com/interwoven] Instagram [https://instagram.com/iamlimitlyss] TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@intersexwitch]

In this thought-provoking conversation, Nadège sits down with Midori (she/her), a groundbreaking sexologist, author, artist, and coach with over 30 years in the kink community. As the author of the first English-language book on shibari, Midori brings wisdom, nuance, and experience to the table as she explores her definition of sex, the concept of BDSM as "playtime for adults", and how kink can be a powerful tool for healing, trauma recovery, and reclaiming your body as a sexual sanctuary. Whether you're a seasoned practitioner of BDSM or just starting to dip your toes into the conversation, this episode promises insight, warmth, and a whole new perspective on pleasure, kink, and power. Episode website: https://pleasurescience.com/S1E8-bdsm-adult-playtime Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [https://pleasurescience.com/] BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science] @PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience] Connect with Midori: www.planetmidori.com [http://planetmidori.com] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/PlanetMidori/] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/PlanetMidori/] Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/planetmidori] Kink Informed Certification from Sexual Health Alliance [https://sexualhealthalliance.com/kink-informed-certification-program] Dr. Emily Nagoski [https://www.emilynagoski.com/]

Nadège sits down with sex therapist Nicoletta Heidegger, who is not just an expert in non-monogamy, but a woman who has personally experienced opening up her relationship. This episode is so empowering because you get to hear from an expert who doesn't just talk the talk; she walks the walk, allowing us to explore non-monogamy from a deeper perspective that helps you show up as your best self in your relationship(s). Enjoy a conversation that will open your eyes and fill you with tips for non-monogamy, whether you are a beginner, a ENM veteran, or simply curious about this topic! Nicoletta Heidegger is a licensed marriage and family therapist (#110256) and an award-nominated sexologist practicing in Los Angeles. She specializes in sex therapy as well as Equine Assisted Psychotherapy (EAP). She sees therapy clients (CA residents only) virtually and at her unique ranch office in Los Angeles. She also provides coaching, consulting, education, and retreats to folks around the world. When not seeing clients, Nicoletta creates weekly content via her hit show Sluts and Scholars: a sex positive, shame-free, educational podcast for professionals who prioritize pleasure. [https://www.slutsandscholars.com/] Episode Website: https://pleasurescience.com/s1e6-non-monogamy-tips Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [https://pleasurescience.com/home] BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science] @PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience] Connect with Nicoletta: WEB • https://www.nicolettavheidegger.com/ Sluts and Scholars podcast [https://www.slutsandscholars.com/] Instagram @therapywithnicoletta [https://www.instagram.com/therapywithnicoletta/] and @slutsandscholars [https://www.instagram.com/slutsandscholars/] Information about the orgasm gap [https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/mar/21/the-orgasm-gap-and-how-to-close-it-dont-equate-sex-and-penetration] Wednesday Martin [http://wednesdaymartin.com/] Multiamory podcast [https://www.multiamory.com/podcast#gsc.tab=0] Opening Up by Tristan Taormino [https://bookshop.org/p/books/opening-up-a-guide-to-creating-and-sustaining-open-relationships-tristan-taormino/16623724?ean=9798200087747] Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy [https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-ethical-slut-third-edition-a-practical-guide-to-polyamory-open-relationships-and-other-freedoms-in-sex-and-love-revised-janet-w-hardy/11368130?ean=9780399579660] Open Deeply by Kate Loree [https://bookshop.org/p/books/open-deeply-a-guide-to-building-conscious-compassionate-open-relationships-kate-loree/18240085?ean=9781647423353] Dr. Emily Jamea [https://emilyjamea.com/] Plura app [https://heyplura.com/faq] Fetlife [https://fetlife.com/] 910WeHo [https://www.910weho.com/]

How do you reconcile spirituality with sexuality? For so many of us, religion was a tool used to make us feel shame or fear for our erotic desires. That's why Nadège sits down with Dr. Tara, a tenured professor of sexual communication and a practicing Buddhist. Dr. Tara opens up about her journey with sexual empowerment and how she maintains integrity with her religious practice while also honoring her desires. Nadège and Dr. Tara discuss different elements of mindfulness, from meditation to plant-based medicine, and give tips on how you can start having mindful sex right now! If you have ever struggled to reconcile your relationship with spirituality and sex, this one is for you. Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of sexual communication and the founder of LUV. When she's not teaching, she creates sex education content for her millions of social media followers, writes her column 'Sexplore' for Women's Health, hosts her podcast LuvBites, co-hosts the UK's hit TV show Celebs Go Dating, and co-hosts the popular radio show Loveline. Episode Website: https://pleasurescience.com/s1e4-sex-spirituality Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [http://www.pleasurescience.com/] BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science] @PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience] Be sure to follow Dr. Tara at: WEB • https://www.luvbites.co/ YouTube • https://www.youtube.com/@Luvbitesco/videos Instagram • https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co/ TikTok • https://www.tiktok.com/@luvbites.co Luv by Dr. Tara • https://www.luvbydrtara.com/ Dr. Tara's Tedx Talk [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u-tkbBnmfbw] Dr. Lori Brotto [https://www.loribrotto.com/] Dr. Diana Kirschner [https://lovein90days.com/diana-kirschner/] Gabby Berstein [https://gabbybernstein.com/]

Discover the largest sex library in the world: The Carter Johnson Library! In episode 2 of the Pleasure Science Podcast, I'm joined by "Mama" Vi Johnson, the historian and curator of the library with the biggest collection of kink history, sex history, and LGBTQ+ history in the world. Right about now you're probably wondering two things: how did this library come to be and why haven't I heard about it?! Well, be prepared to find out: * The inspiring true story behind the Carter Johnson Library * What spicy historical facts Mama Vi is currently researching * How you can help preserve sex history * And so much more! Viola Johnson, affectionately known as Mama Vi, is a leatherwoman, activist, motivational speaker, and author who has been active in the leather BDSM scene for five decades. Her story, and the story of the Carter Johnson Library, is profound. It will make you gasp, laugh, cry, and leave you filled with hope. I am so excited to share this episode with you. Episode website: https://pleasurescience.com/s1e2-sex-library Show Notes Pleasure Science Courses [https://pleasurescience.com/learn] - Use pleasuresciencepod at checkout to receive 10% off! WEB • www.pleasurescience.com [http://www.pleasurescience.com/] BLOG • Pleasure Science on Medium [https://medium.com/pleasure-science] @PleasureScience on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurescience/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@pleasurescience], and YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@pleasurescience] Carter Johnson Library on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/cjlcofficial/] and Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/CarterJohnsonLibrary/] To donate to the library -> info@leatherlibrary.org on PayPal Info about Magnus Hirschfeld and the Hirschfeld library [https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-forgotten-history-of-the-worlds-first-trans-clinic/] People to check out that Mama Vi mentions: Magnus Hirschfeld [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Magnus_Hirschfeld] Gene Bilbrew [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gene_Bilbrew] Charles Guyette [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charles_Guyette] Moms Mabley [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Moms_Mabley] Betty Dobson [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Betty_Dodson]