
Pleasure Uprising: Desire, Attachment, and the Sex You Actually Want
by Laura Jurgens, Ph.D.
Is this your podcast?Insights from recent episode analysis
Audience Interest
Podcast Focus
Publishing Consistency
Platform Reach
Insights are generated by CastFox AI using publicly available data, episode content, and proprietary models.
Total monthly reach
Estimated from 7 chart positions in 7 markets.
By chart position
- 🇦🇺AU · Sexuality#9230K to 100K
- 🇬🇧GB · Sexuality#1655K to 30K
- 🇺🇸US · Sexuality#1985K to 30K
- 🇮🇹IT · Sexuality#1861K to 10K
- 🇵🇱PL · Sexuality#1330K to 100K
- Per-Episode Audience
Est. listeners per new episode within ~30 days
37K to 142K🎙 ~2x weekly·117 episodes·Last published 3d ago - Monthly Reach
Unique listeners across all episodes (30 days)
75K to 283K🇦🇺35%🇵🇱35%🇬🇧11%+4 more - Active Followers
Loyal subscribers who consistently listen
30K to 113K
Market Insights
Platform Distribution
Reach across major podcast platforms, updated hourly
Total Followers
—
Total Plays
—
Total Reviews
—
* Data sourced directly from platform APIs and aggregated hourly across all major podcast directories.
On the show
Recent episodes
Even Light Power Play Needs a Negotiation (Here's How to Make It Sexy)
Jun 22, 2026
38m 44s
Joy and Pleasure After Sexual Self-Abandonment
Jun 15, 2026
29m 10s
What Two Feminist Relationship Coaches See in Heated Rivalry, with Maggie Reyes
Jun 8, 2026
1h 04m 08s
From Avoiding Sex to Loving It: Real Client Data
Jun 1, 2026
36m 48s
The Last Place High Achievers Give Themselves Permission
May 25, 2026
37m 30s
Social Links & Contact
Official channels & resources
Official Website
Login
RSS Feed
Login
| Date | Episode | Description | Length | ||||||
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 6/22/26 | ![]() Even Light Power Play Needs a Negotiation (Here's How to Make It Sexy) | Most people who are experimenting with power play and BDSM aren't doing anything extreme. They're just two people who trust each other, trying to "spice it up." But skipping the negotiation conversation because it feels like it has to be a mood killer is a rookie move that can lead to real problems. I'm not talking bruises here, I'm talking about emotional distance, shut down, and loss of libido. This episode is built around a real couple — smart, communicative, good at relationsh... | 38m 44s | ||||||
| 6/15/26 | ![]() Joy and Pleasure After Sexual Self-Abandonment | Sexual self-abandonment is what happens when we stop having sex for ourselves. We may or may not actually stop having sex -- we might be doing it for someone else. For their desire, on their timeline, their idea of what sex should look like, while our own wants, our own pace, our own boundaries quietly went missing somewhere along the way. That's what this episode is about. How we get there — there are three really common pathways, and I've lived through all three myself — and more importantl... | 29m 10s | ||||||
| 6/8/26 | ![]() What Two Feminist Relationship Coaches See in Heated Rivalry, with Maggie Reyes | It's Pride Month, and I am celebrating with my dear friend and fellow feminist relationship coach Maggie Reyes by doing something I've been wanting to do anyway: sit down and talk about Heated Rivalry — the show, the books, why we love them, and what they actually teach us about real relationships. Beware: There be spoilers ahead, matey. This is a fun one, and it goes deeper than fangirling. Maggie and I both coach on many of the dynamics this show depicts — vulnerability, shame, the co... | 1h 04m 08s | ||||||
| 6/1/26 | ![]() From Avoiding Sex to Loving It: Real Client Data | If you've been wondering whether your sex life can actually be different, this is the evidence. This episode is like the before and after photos you've been needing that real people get real change. We're going into details about specific goals and what actually changes when people do real, structured work on desire, intimacy, and connection. Not inspiration. Not theory. Real people, real goals, real numbers — tracked from start to finish. In this episode: What people who come to... | 36m 48s | ||||||
| 5/25/26 | ![]() The Last Place High Achievers Give Themselves Permission | You've solved harder problems than this. So why is this one still stuck? This episode is for the high achievers who have done real work on themselves — the therapy, the books, the hard conversations — and still can't get traction when it comes to desire, intimacy, and their closest relationships. It's not because you haven't tried hard enough. It's because you've been using the wrong tools for the wrong system. In this episode: Why capable, self-sufficient people are often the last to get hel... | 37m 30s | ||||||
| 5/18/26 | ![]() Coming Home to Your Body: What Sexual Embodiment Actually Feels Like | Most people who feel disconnected from their desire, their body, or their partner aren't broken. They're just exiled — from themselves. And nobody ever taught them the way back. This episode is about what it actually feels like when you find it. The felt sense of coming home to your own body's sexuality — as a resource, a grounding force, and the place from which real confidence, real connection, and real intimacy become possible. I was skeptical this even existed. Then my teacher demonstrate... | 30m 20s | ||||||
| 5/11/26 | ![]() The Cult Dynamics Hiding Inside "Sacred Sexuality" Spaces — with Anke Richter | You don't have to join a compound to end up in a high-control group. Sometimes it starts with a neo-tantra festival. A weekend workshop. A community that feels like finally, finally, you found your people. Anke Richter is an international cult journalist, author of the bestseller Cult Trip (HarperCollins), and founder of Decult — the first cult awareness conference in Australasia. She spent six years inside ISTA (International School of Temple Arts) before becoming one of its most informed cr... | 50m 01s | ||||||
| 5/4/26 | ![]() The Men Behind "Sexual Polarity" Have a Lot to Answer For | If you've ever left a sacred sexuality workshop feeling worse about yourself than when you walked in — or heard a friend blame herself for not being "receptive enough" — this episode is for you. Sexual polarity teachings are everywhere right now. They promise to unlock your feminine energy, reignite desire, and deepen connection. Sounds great. The reality is different. They're built on a foundation of made-up science, cultural theft, and a paper trail that leads somewhere deeply problematic. ... | 37m 33s | ||||||
| 4/27/26 | ![]() Why Therapy Hasn't Fixed Your Sex Life (and What Actually Does) | You've done the work. Real work. Therapy, couples counseling, the conversations, the books. You understand yourself better than you ever have — and you still feel the same way in your body. That's not a sign you're beyond help. It's a sign you've been using the wrong tools. This episode explains why the things most people reach for — talk therapy, mindset work, even good communication — don't reach desire and embodied intimacy, and what kind of support actually does. Whether you're partnered ... | 29m 14s | ||||||
| 4/20/26 | ![]() Low Libido Isn't a Mindset Problem: Why You Can't Think Your Way to Desire | If you've been trying to figure out how to want sex more and nothing is working — this episode is going to explain why. And it's probably not the answer you've heard before. A lot of people struggling with low desire or low libido have already done the reading. They understand the concepts. Their body still hasn't gotten the memo. That's not a character flaw. It's the wrong sequence. In this episode, I cover: Why desire and arousal are not the same thing — and why the order they happen in mat... | 36m 31s | ||||||
Want analysis for the episodes below?Free for Pro Submit a request, we'll have your selected episodes analyzed within an hour. Free, at no cost to you, for Pro users. | |||||||||
| 4/13/26 | ![]() Sexual Shame: Why We All Have It and How to Give It Back | Most people carry sexual shame so quietly and for so long that it starts to feel like a character trait rather than something that was handed to them. It isn't. Every flavor of shame — about wanting too much, too little, taking too long, not taking long enough, about your body, your history, your desires, your "low libido" — came from somewhere specific. And that somewhere is not you. In this episode, I go through the full inventory of sexual shame I see in my somatic intimacy coaching practi... | 35m 02s | ||||||
| 4/6/26 | ![]() Pleasure Uprising: Why Culture Owes You an Apology | Have you ever followed the "right" advice and ended up further from yourself? That's what this episode is about — and it's also why we're now Pleasure Uprising: Desire, Attachment, and the Sex You Actually Want. The evolution of this show mirrors what happens in my practice all the time: when you stop trying to fit yourself into the frame someone else handed you, something truer emerges. In this episode: What the desire gap framing got right, what it missed, and what the shift revealsWhy the ... | 28m 56s | ||||||
| 3/30/26 | ![]() Confident, not controlling: what "take charge in bed" actually means | When a woman asks a male partner to "be more assertive in bed," those words are typically landing differently than she intends — and differently than he's hearing them. This is a gendered language problem, and it's causing real confusion, frustration, and disappointment in real relationships. There is a real vocabulary mismatch about "dominance" and "assertiveness" rooted in how men and women are socialized differently as children around anger, aggression, and sexuality — and once you see it,... | 43m 11s | ||||||
| 3/23/26 | ![]() Why you don't want the honeymoon phase back (and what's actually better) | You've heard it a thousand times: "keep the spark alive, get back to how it used to be, recreate that honeymoon phase magic." But what if that's the wrong goal entirely? Here's what nobody tells you: the honeymoon phase was a drug state — literally. A neurochemical cocktail of dopamine, norepinephrine, and nerve growth factor that made you want constantly, but didn't actually deliver the goods. Research shows that only 49% of women climax in new or casual encounters, compared to 70% in long-t... | 45m 00s | ||||||
| 3/17/26 | ![]() BONUS: Your Kids Are Watching: Teaching Embodied Consent (Podcasthon for Freedom Network USA) | BONUS: Teaching embodied consent at home—for your kids AND your relationship. This special Podcasthon 2026 episode benefits Freedom Network USA, the largest coalition working on human trafficking in the United States. Prevention of sexual violence starts in families— and most of us were never taught how to practice true embodied consent ourselves. In this episode, you'll learn: Why teaching consent early matters— and how it connects to preventing exploitation5 practical tools you can use TODA... | 21m 10s | ||||||
| 3/16/26 | ![]() Touch Aversion: When your partner's touch makes your skin crawl (and what helps) | Does your partner's touch make your skin crawl? You're not broken—and this is fixable. Touch aversion is when affectionate or sexual touch from your partner feels wrong in your body— irritating, threatening, or like you need to escape. This can happen even with light, loving touch. This isn't about attraction. It's a nervous system response— and it's more common than you think. In this episode, you'll learn: What touch aversion actually is (and why it's not rejection, it's protection)8 ... | 44m 26s | ||||||
| 3/9/26 | ![]() The Golden Rule of Sex (and why that Other One does NOT apply) | Treat others the way you want to be treated? Great rule. Terrible sex advice. In this episode I'm breaking down the principle that actually works — go at the pace of the slowest body in the room, with open curiosity — and why applying the wrong golden rule is one of the most common ways couples accidentally shut down desire without even realizing it. I talk about what going slow actually asks of the faster-arousing partner (hint: it's not a sacrifice — it's new, but delicious), why the slower... | 33m 53s | ||||||
| 3/2/26 | ![]() How to know when it's time to stop learning and start doing | Ever notice how sometimes the answer isn't more information — it's actually doing something with what you already know? Like when your car is broken, you don't actually need more information from the mechanic after a certain point. You need someone to get under the hood and DO the work. I recorded this episode because I kept seeing the same pattern: people who've been reading books, listening to podcasts, and taking courses about their desire gap for years — but nothing in their relatio... | 44m 43s | ||||||
| 2/23/26 | ![]() The one thing you haven't tried for mismatched libido | You've read the books. Maybe you've done therapy. You've tried scheduled sex, date nights, "just doing it." And you're still stuck. Here's why: you've been trying to fix a layout problem with decorative solutions. In this episode, I break down the kitchen remodel analogy— why desire gaps need something very different than what most people try. You need a comprehensive, body-based approach, not another book, toy, date night, or conversation about the problem. I'll walk you through what most of... | 26m 29s | ||||||
| 2/16/26 | ![]() How do I fix my desire gap when my partner won't go to therapy? | If you're ready to work on your desire gap but your partner won't go to therapy or coaching, this episode is for you. The answer to "can I actually fix this alone?" is yes — and today I break down exactly how individual work changes the entire relationship dynamic, even when only one person is ready to start. Drawing on systems theory and real client stories, we'll cover why waiting for your partner to be ready is costing you — and why going first is often the most powerful move you can make.... | 21m 22s | ||||||
| 2/9/26 | ![]() Is your 'low libido' actually your body setting boundaries? | Avoiding sex? Feeling the "ick" when your partner initiates? Going to bed at 8pm to dodge intimacy? You probably think you have low libido. But what if that's not what's actually happening? In this vulnerable episode, I share my own story of years spent in what I call "the messy middle"—that phase where you've stopped having sex you don't want, but you haven't figured out what you DO want yet. From the outside, it looked like my libido vanished. But what was really happening? My body was sett... | 29m 49s | ||||||
| 2/2/26 | ![]() Too tired for sex? How burnout kills desire, with Dr. Amy Grimm | When you're running on empty, sex feels like just another demand on your already depleted system. But burnout isn't just affecting your work life—it's killing your desire and disconnecting you from your partner. Dr. Amy Grimm, veterinarian and certified burnout coach, joins me to explore how chronic stress impacts intimacy. We discuss what both high and low desire partners need to know, including: Why burnout is a nervous system problem, not just a work problemHow to tell if you're burn... | 46m 05s | ||||||
| 1/26/26 | ![]() The 1-minute body practice that unlocks what you actually want sexually | Before you can solve your desire gap, you need to know what you actually want. This super simple, somatic practice helps you stop overthinking sex, connect to your body's truth, and find the safety you need to access authentic desire. Whether you want more or less sex than your partner, self-attunement is the foundation for everything. Learn the simple 1-minute body check-in that reveals your real yeses and nos—and helps your partner feel your presence too. Get my free guide: Get Out of... | 25m 33s | ||||||
| 1/19/26 | ![]() ADHD & Desire Gaps, Part 2: How to stay present during sex | Part 1 in this series covered how ADHD affects desire. Now let's get practical. Mid-sex, suddenly thinking about work emails and grocery lists? Your partner can tell you're not fully there . . . and it doesn't feel great to you either. You're not a bad lover, your ADHD brain is just incredibly loud. This episode covers the most common in-the-moment challenges and what to do about them: Sensory needs: why some touches work and others don't, and how to communicate what your body needsTask-list ... | 27m 27s | ||||||
| 1/12/26 | ![]() Why "love should be effortless" is ruining your relationship | You've been sold a lie: that if your relationship needs work, something is fundamentally wrong. That love should just happen naturally if you're compatible. That needing help means you're failing. This myth keeps people stuck in mediocre relationships, avoiding problems, and thinking they're failures when they struggle. And it's complete bullshit. Here's the truth: We live in a culture that gives us terrible relationship advice, no real education about intimacy, and a bunch of harmful myths. ... | 16m 25s | ||||||
Showing 25 of 127
Pitch Fit is a Pro feature
See how bookable this show is for guests, which brands already advertise, the per-episode ad value, and the best-fit guest and sponsor profile. The numbers are blurred on the free plan.
How readily this show books outside guests like you.
How proven this show is for host-read sponsorships.
For Guests
ProFor Advertisers
ProUpgrade to Pro to unlock guest cadence, sponsor categories, fit scores, and per-episode ad value for this show.
Chart Positions
8 placements across 7 markets.
Chart Positions
8 placements across 7 markets.

