The In-Between Self: What Grief Teaches You About Who You Are Now

The In-Between Self: What Grief Teaches You About Who You Are Now

From Pregnancy Loss and Motherhood by Vallen Webb

December 9, 2025 · 15 min · Episode 94

About this episode

The episode discusses how grief reshapes identity after the loss of a child, emphasizing the journey of becoming rather than returning to a previous self.

Episode Title: The In-Between Self: What Grief Teaches You About Who You Are Now Episode Summary: In this episode of The Pregnancy Loss and Motherhood Podcast , Today I’m sharing three truths that changed me after losing my daughter Evelyn , truths that helped me breathe again, helped me make the choice to keep going, and helped me understand that identity after loss is not about going back—it’s about becoming. In this episode, we explore: How motherhood doesn’t begin or end with a heartbeat Why your identity feels shattered after loss The quiet, invisible, misunderstood reality of life after baby loss The power of narrative (and how trauma forces us to rewrite our story) Why you're not broken—you’re becoming someone new How grief shapes you, but does not define you This is for you if you’ve ever looked in the mirror and thought, “I don’t know who I am anymore,” or if guilt, softness, anger, jealousy, or numbness has made you question who you’re becoming after your baby died. Take a breath with me. You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just have to be here. Links + Resources: 💌 Visit the Evelyn James Shop on Etsy! 🧡 Follow us on TikTok!! @pregnancyloss.motherhood

People in this episode

Host: Vallen Webb

Topics covered

  • grief
  • identity after loss
  • motherhood
  • narrative
  • transformation
  • baby loss

Keywords

  • grief
  • identity
  • motherhood
  • baby loss
  • transformation
  • narrative
  • Evelyn

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