That Swipe Life: Treena Orchard on Dating Apps Through a Midlife Anthropologist's Lens

About this episode

Treena Orchard discusses her experiences with dating apps and the complexities of modern romance after 45.

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People in this episode

Host: Courtney Kocak

Guest: Treena Orchard

Topics covered

• dating apps
• midlife dating
• swipe culture
• gender dynamics
• romance commodification

Keywords

• dating apps
• swipe culture
• Treena Orchard
• Bumble
• romance commodification
• midlife dating
• gender dynamics

Sponsors

Fleshlight

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Bumble

Products: Fleshlight

Books & works: Sticky, Sexy, Sad: Swipe Culture and the Darker Side of Dating Apps

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