Ep 158: Learning to communicate well as a leader shouldn't be on-the-job training

About this episode

This episode discusses the importance of effective communication for leaders and how to shift from a control mindset to one of influence.

Most leaders are promoted into their roles believing authority alone will inspire confidence, but the truth is, your communication style is what truly sets you apart as a leader. In this episode, I reveal how many new leaders unwittingly sabotage their growth by misunderstanding what effective leadership communication actually looks like. A shift in mindset — moving from control to influence — and how to do this effectively is what's missing from nearly every leadership and development program I' ve come across. In this episode, I cover: Why demanding to be heard often backfires and how inviting curiosity actually builds influence The top two communication mistakes new leaders make — and how to avoid them How releasing the need to control can empower you to lead with confidence, even when you lack final decision authority The secret power of asking open questions that turn pushback into productive dialogue This episode is essential listening if you're stepping into or aspiring toward leadership and want to unlock the true power of your words. Whether you're managing a team, navigating cross-departmental goals, or climbing the corporate ladder, mastering leadership communication…

People in this episode

Host: Michael Ashford

Topics covered

• leadership communication
• effective leadership
• communication style
• influence vs control
• open questions
• team management

Keywords

• leadership
• communication
• influence
• mistakes
• dialogue
• confidence
• curiosity

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