Safe Place For Male Survivors Podcast

In “Faith Under Fire,” we explore what happens when childhood sexual abuse occurs inside religious settings or “godly homes,” where authority, obedience, and shame are spiritualized. This episode breaks down how trauma merges faith cues with threat cues, why prayer can trigger panic, and how meaning-making pathways in the brain get distorted by spiritual betrayal. You’ll learn a practical strategy to gently reframe unsafe beliefs, rebuild internal safety, and reclaim spirituality without forcing theology. With you in this, Carry Less. Live Free! YouTube Channel: Coach ThomasBreak My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

Why do male survivors destroy things when life starts going well? In this episode, Coach T introduces the self-sabotage loop as a nervous system response — not a character flaw. Through the story of Shamus — a composite of real survivor experiences — this episode walks you step-by-step through the internal loop that leads from stability… to collapse. From calm… to chaos. From progress… back to shame. You’ll hear: Why self-sabotage doesn’t start with destruction — it starts with discomfort How childhood sexual trauma wires the body to fear safety, closeness, and success The steps self-sabotage loop most men don’t even realize they’re running How ADHD and trauma together can accelerate impulsive collapse What’s actually happening in the nervous system when someone says, “I just lost control” This episode is essential listening for: Male survivors trying to understand their own patterns Practitioners, coaches, and professionals working with men in recovery Anyone who has ever asked, “Why do I keep doing this when things start going well?” If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I keep doing this?” — this is where it starts. Because once you see the loop… you can interrupt it. With you in this, Carry Less. Live Free YouTube Channel: (if you want the visual chart for this podcast listen on YouTube Channel) Coach ThomasBreak My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

Grief feels dangerous for male survivors — but avoiding it comes at a cost. In this episode, Tariq’s story reveals how burying grief turns into anger and exhaustion, and how permission to grieve can unlock real freedom. If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here. With you in this, Carry Less. Live Free YouTube Channel: Coach ThomasBreak My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

Shame doesn’t just show up — it moves in, uninvited, the moment a boy is abused. In this first episode, Xander shares how silence and secrecy buried his voice, and how shame followed him into every corner of adult life: work, relationships, even his own body. We’ll break down where that shame really comes from, the neuroscience behind why it sticks, and one simple strategy you can use today to start pushing shame back out the door. If you’ve ever felt like shame defines you, this episode will show you the truth: shame is not your identity. If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send me an email. I read my messages — your thoughts and your story matter here. With you in this, Carry Less. Live Free! YouTube Channel: Coach ThomasBreak My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

In this powerful and eye-opening episode, Walking Time Bombs: Childhood Trauma in Adult Men, we explore how unresolved childhood abuse and emotional neglect can silently shape a man’s adult life—impacting his work, relationships, and sense of self. Through storytelling, expert insights, and real voices, we uncover how trauma often hides behind success, control, anger, and burnout. This episode invites men—and those who care about them—to begin seeing past the symptoms and into the deeper roots of emotional pain. Because healing starts with recognition, and survival isn’t the same as truly living. With you in this Carry Less. Live Free YouTube Channel: www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

After taking a year-long sabbatical at the end of 2023 to focus on personal growth and reflection, Coach T is back and ready to dive into the hard conversations that matter most. In tonight’s much-anticipated live show, Coach T makes a slight shift in plans but delivers an impactful session on how the guilt from childhood sexual trauma keeps many survivors trapped in silence. Tune in as he shares a powerful word technique to help you start breaking free from guilt and begin reclaiming your voice. This is the start of a journey toward healing and transformation—don’t miss it! www.bettermalesurvivors.com @msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

Coach T works through emotional resonance and losses due to sexual trauma. www.bettermalesurvivors.com @msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social

Today Coach Thomas discusses a prevalent issue that came up in several male survivor coaching sessions last week. You are not alone! www.bettermalesurvivors.com @msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social