Self-Selecting

Does your partner need to live the same fitness lifestyle as you for your relationship to work?In this episode, I break down one of the most common questions I hear from clients pursuing fat loss, physique development, bodybuilding, and long-term health goals: what happens when your partner doesn't share your passion for fitness?I discuss the relationship dynamics that can either support or sabotage your progress, including communication, boundaries, insecurity, food choices, time commitments, coaching relationships, and differing lifestyle priorities. I also explain why fitness rarely creates relationship problems—it often magnifies existing ones.Whether you're navigating a fat loss phase, contest prep, body transformation, or simply trying to improve your health, this episode will help you better understand what healthy support looks like and how to have productive conversations around your goals.Timestamps:- [00:00 – 02:59] – Do Partners Need To Share The Same Fitness Lifestyle?- [02:59 – 05:46] – What Actually Matters More Than Shared Fitness Goals- [05:46 – 08:49] – When Partners Become Too Involved In Your Fitness Journey- [08:49 – 10:51] – When One Person's Goals Start Controlling The Relationship- [10:51 – 14:13] – Fitness, Competition Prep & Leaning Too Heavily On Your Partner- [14:13 – 17:50] – Food Choices, Dieting & Relationship Friction- [17:50 – 24:27] – Time Commitments, Lifestyle Differences & Shared Expectations- [24:27 – 26:54] – When Your Partner Doesn't Understand Your Fitness Goals- [26:54 – 31:26] – The Biggest Relationship Threat: Insecurity- [31:26 – 36:40] – Understanding The Different Levels Of Support- [36:40 – 41:59] – Unsupportive Behaviors, Sabotage & Relationship Red Flags- [41:59 – 43:44] – What To Do Next & How To Improve CommunicationLinks & Resources:Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/https://coryfit.com/⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultationFor more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

In this episode, I sit down with Ashley Kaltwasser to talk about what it really takes to stay competitive in today’s bikini division. We cover how the standard has evolved, why more upper body and overall density are now required, and how conditioning, judges’ feedback, and long-term patience all shape success at the pro level.We also get into the new Fit Model division, the bikini points system, competing soon after turning pro, post-show food decisions, and why staying closer to stage weight can make prep more productive. This is a great conversation for competitors, coaches, and athletes trying to understand the realities of bikini bodybuilding, improvement seasons, and pro-level longevity. Timestamps:- [00:00 – 02:54] – Intro to Ashley Kaltwasser.- [02:55 – 09:28] – When it became clear significant physique changes were needed to stay competitive.- [09:29 – 13:21] – The growth of upper body development, changing conditioning expectations, and how even small shifts matter at the top level. - [13:22 – 16:23] – Taking judges’ feedback without a negative attitude.- [16:24 – 22:20] – Ashley’s reaction to the Fit Model division.- [22:21 – 25:23] – Lessons from early Fit Model judging.- [25:24 – 30:57] – Thoughts on the bikini pro points system.- [30:58 – 36:10] – Why new pros should compete soon after earning their card, plus Ashley’s recent feedback and current areas of focus. - [36:11 – 39:01] – Shows Ashley has on her radar.- [39:02 – 42:31] – Common challenges Ashley sees in athletes she works with.- [42:32 – 48:58] – Her mentality around adherence outside of prep, intuitive eating, and maintaining structure without being overly rigid year-round. - [48:59 – 52:03] – Post-show meals and the cost of bingeing.- [52:04 – 56:29] – Weight gain between shows, muscle maturity, and why more bodyweight isn’t always the answer for bikini improvement. Links & Resources:Follow Ashley on Instagram: @ashleykfitWork With Ashley: https://teamelitephysique.com/ashley-kaltwasserPurchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/https://coryfit.com/⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultationFor more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

In this episode, I break down how to approach cheat meals, untracked meals, and “off-plan” eating without blowing your progress — or your mindset.If you’ve ever felt anxious going into a free meal, guilty afterward, or stuck in the cycle of overdoing it and then trying to “undo” it… this episode is for you.I walk through how to evaluate the true cost of a cheat meal — not just calories, but digestion, sleep, scale weight, training performance, and mental bandwidth — and how to use these meals as tools instead of setbacks.Timestamps:- [00:00 – 04:14] – Why cheat meals trigger anxiety + the real problem isn’t the calories- [04:15 – 06:59] – The opportunity cost: scale weight, digestion, sleep & training performance- [07:00 – 11:36] – The real purpose of untracked meals (and when to use them)- [11:37 – 16:32] – The “fixed calorie cost” of a cheat meal - [16:33 – 19:57] – Eating to satisfaction vs. eating to completion- [19:58 – 23:38] – What to consider if you still have fat to lose- [23:39 – 29:39] – Travel, date nights & ordering strategically at restaurants- [29:40 – 33:08] – Multiple untracked meals: how to manage macro spillover- [33:09 – 36:28] – When to practice the skill in maintenance or a build- [36:29 – 42:42] – Cheat meals aren’t for the weak (and they don’t magically burn fat)Links & Resources:Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/https://coryfit.com/⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultationFor more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

In this episode, I break down the real reasons your last diet didn’t work — and it’s probably not what you think.If you’ve ever felt like you were “doing everything right” but the scale wouldn’t move… or you lost weight only to gain it all back… this is for you.I walk through the most common fat loss mistakes I see as a coach — from not actually being in a calorie deficit, to weekend overeating, to inconsistent activity, to poor post-diet transitions. We also dive into recomposition, diet timelines, and the harsh truth about unrealistic expectations.Most diets don’t fail because your metabolism is broken. They fail because of execution gaps, emotional decision-making, or poor exit strategies.If fat loss has felt confusing, frustrating, or inconsistent — this episode will give you clarity and a practical framework to fix it.Timestamps:- [00:00 – 01:42] – Why most diets fail (it’s not your metabolism)- [01:43 – 06:43] – Reason 1: You weren’t actually in a calorie deficit- [06:44 – 11:12] – Reason 2: Extra bites, licks & untracked calories add up- [11:13 – 17:46] – Reason 3: Weekly cheat meals sabotaging fat loss- [17:47 – 22:02] – Reason 4: Not weighing yourself often enough- [22:03 – 24:59] – Reason 5: Recomposition (losing fat while building muscle)- [25:00 – 28:34] – Reason 6: Inconsistent steps, cardio & daily activity - [28:35 – 32:34] – Reason 7: Too many food swaps & eating out inaccuracies- [32:35 – 35:24] – Reason 8: You didn’t diet long enough- [35:25 – 39:16] – Reason 9: The diet worked — you just expected more- [39:17 – 44:04] – Reason 10: The post-diet rebound (poor exit strategy)Links & Resources:Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/https://coryfit.com/Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15minConsults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultationFor more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink