Why Is My Addict Such a Liar?!

About this episode

Dr. Rob and Tami discuss the reasons behind compulsive lying in addicts and how it affects relationships.

Dr. Rob and Tami talk about compulsive liars in this week’s episode and the reasoning behind someone who can’t seem to tell the truth. If you are a betrayed spouse to someone who regularly lies and deceives, it can be hard to understand why lying can be the go-to safety mechanism for protection. Dr. Rob explains further in this episode why some addicts just can’t stop lying. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] Why is sex addiction not about sex? [3:35] I had a relapse and my partner is fed up. I want to build trust again, but she just doesn’t believe me. What can I do? [9:20] You have to want recovery because you’ll be doing it for a long time. [12:10] Does it make sense to have a marital absence if my partner has a porn addiction? [15:30] If you don’t feel safe with someone and if you don’t trust them, don’t have sex with them! [17:10] My husband lies about his recovery. He’s not doing the work! [22:45] Is your partner a lost cause? Dr. Rob can help. [23:00] I think he’s a compulsive liar. Is this connected to his addiction? RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving…

People in this episode

Host: Robert Weiss

Guest: Tami

Topics covered

• compulsive lying
• sex addiction
• trust issues
• recovery
• betrayal
• relationship advice

Keywords

• addiction
• lying
• trust
• recovery
• betrayed spouse
• compulsive liar
• relationship healing

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Seeking Integrity, Sex and Relationship Healing, In the Rooms

Books & works: Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men

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