She Is Here™

Last episode focused on identifying the real reason you feel guilty when you say no or put yourself first - in this episode we are exploring those internalised rules like “if I rest then i’m lazy,” or “if I say no then I’m selfish.” I walk you through some reflective prompts and a simple practice to help you start rewriting those rules into something kinder and more realistic — so you can honour your needs without feeling like a bad person. This isn’t about swinging from people-pleasing...

For years, I told myself the reason I couldn’t speak up, share my thoughts, or truly let myself be seen was because I wasn’t confident enough. Maybe you’ve told yourself the same thing — that you just need to “push through,” “fake it till you make it,” or somehow be braver. But recently, something happened that made me realise the problem isn’t about confidence at all. In this episode, I share a deeply personal story about: The two inner voices we all carry — the one that tells us to stay qui...

I share what it’s really like to walk the well-worn path of people-pleasing - the one that promises peace, acceptance, and connection, but actually leaves you feeling lost and disconnected from yourself. I talk about the hidden costs of always saying yes, the silent panic when you even think about saying no, and why it can feel like you don’t even know what you want anymore. Most importantly, I explain why people-pleasing isn’t a fixed personality trait - it’s a nervous system survival respon...

Have you noticed that so much content online sounds the same? Lately, I’ve found myself scrolling and thinking, “this looks like AI wrote it.” And then the worry hits: what if people think the same about my content ? In this episode, I’m talking honestly about: Why so much content feels repetitive or AI-generatedThe pressure to follow “scroll-friendly” formulas My own fear that my writing might not be seen as authenticWhy quirks, pauses, and imperfections are what make your voice truly s...

In this episode I reflect on 8 years ago, when I started my business, my private practice. At that time I had a Facebook Page... and no other way to market myself. I rarely shared the Facebook Page because - I told myself I was being 'professional' - I didn't want to 'push' my services on to people, because that would be unethical. Even as a self-aware therapist with 20+ years studying psychology it took me a while to notice that I was actually avoiding putting myself out there - it was...

In this episode, I’m covering a question I've been asked on Instagram a few times now: “How do I know if my child is a people-pleaser and what can I do to help?” To do this episode justice, I’ve invited the brilliant Becky—an Anxiety Coach for Teenagers and fellow recovering people-pleaser—to join me in exploring this important topic. Becky talks about the work she does, what people-pleasing can look like in teens, and the early warning signs for you to look out for. Becky shares practi...

There are so many layers to people-pleasing and when you become a Mum it can bring up so much for you! In this episode I've got Erin joining me - a somatic therapist from Baltimore who also works with people-pleasers, whilst we've followed each other on Instagram for a while, this is the first time we have 'met' and chatted. This honest conversation covers different ways people-pleasing shows up in postpartum - drawing from our lived experience and professional experience. We chat about...

Feeling out of your depth doesn’t mean you are. I'm talking about that all-too-familiar feeling of being out of your depth - even when you know logically you’re experienced and credible. If you’ve ever found yourself second-guessing your abilities when stepping into something less familiar - be it launching a programme, showing up online, or taking a brave next step in your business - this one’s for you. I cover what these feelings are signs of - and usually it's not that you're failing...