Why You Overthink Messages (and What It Says About Safety)

About this episode

This episode explores why we overthink messages and how it relates to our sense of safety.

Ever received a message that made your stomach drop… and your brain instantly filled in the blanks with “They’re annoyed” or “I’ve done something wrong”? In today’s episode I share a real moment from my Instagram DMs that could have easily led to shame, confrontation or avoidance - and how demonstrates the importance of nervous system safety. This episode covers: • why we overthink texts and and replay social interactions • how ambiguity becomes threat for a dysregulated nervous s...

People in this episode

Host: Charlotte Bailey

Topics covered

• overthinking
• communication
• nervous system safety
• social interactions
• emotional responses

Keywords

• overthinking
• messages
• nervous system
• social anxiety
• communication

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