So, We Met Online…

Over the past almost four years, Chris and Erika have shared their trials, tribulations, successes, heartaches, and plenty of advice. And can’t forget the laughs. They can’t thank you enough for being loyal listeners each and every week. They know Sundays won’t be the same, yet all good things must come to an end. If you want to reach out, they will still be active on social media, or you can send an email directly to Erika at erika@alittlenudge.com. Best of luck to everyone on their online dating journeys. Erika and Chris will be with you in spirit.

Holding hands, kissing, warm hugs, masked socially distant walks… in this day and age, it’s almost impossible to know how far to go physically on a first date. This week, Erika and Chris re-share some favorite stories about when a first date doesn’t get off the ground, and when it maybe flies too high.

Isn’t it annoying when someone makes an untrue assumption about you? And isn’t it even worse if this happens on a first date? Today, Erika shares a story of one of her own dates gone wrong due to a faulty assumption. Then, Erika and Chris discuss the repercussions of such assumptions and how simply asking a question is a better approach.

“If you’re a fan of 45, swipe left.” “If you call yourself liberal, move along.” “If you don’t vote, then you won’t get a date with me.” We see things like this all the time in online dating profiles, especially these days. But should you put your political preferences in the profile? And if so, is there a way to do that without sounding negative? Erika and Chris talk politics this week — the dos, the don’ts, the rights, the lefts, and everything in between.

Oh, that pesky thing we call expectations. Many people go online to find “the one,” or at least a long-term partner. That goal is fine, of course. But what’s not fine is measuring “success” to that standard, much of which is not in our control. Online dating is not a spouse-finder, soulmate producer, or magic wand; it is simply a tool, or vehicle — much like the gym — that is available for use in order to meet people. With this tool still comes work, time, and personal accountability. And each and every date you go on is part of the process and the journey… so don’t discount that.

Today, Erika and Chris answer three burning questions from clients/listeners: 1) How to let someone down gently, 2) Whether meeting someone will always require “fishing,” and 3) Whether to overlook someone’s lackluster communication because of COVID. As always, Erika answers in her no-nonsense manner, and Chris sheds light on the male perspective. For all previous episodes, check out sowemetonline.com.

Back in April, when COVID was new to us, Erika and Chris shared their insights on dating and how the pandemic might impact things. Now, over four months later — and still very much in the thick of things — they revisit the topic, shedding light on how dating has changed… and how it might never go back to the way it used to be. With some personal stories, client stories, and stories from the LA Times, Erika and Chris delve into how the dating world has evolved in terms of meeting in person, defining a relationship, and having intimate moments… with a mask??

This week, Chris and Erika each share stories from their own lives and lives of their friends that revolve around breaking up and getting back together. Some people are in relationships for the right reasons, and some simply are not. Is the reason you want to be in a relationship because you feel like you have a lot to offer and would love to add someone to your life… or because you’re lonely? This is an important distinction that only you can make. 

In today’s episode, guest “Superfan Ann” shares a story that, after hearing last week’s episode, she couldn’t hold in. It includes bad manners, soup, and… an exterminator? Then, Erika and Chris delve into manners in general and share how they may differ from chivalry. From opening doors to ordering wine, they give advice on what to do in each unique situation.sowemetonline.comwww.alittlenudge.com

This week, Erika shares a never-before-told story about her time on jury duty. There was mystery, intrigue, drama… and a love interest.Erika and Chris then dissect each part of the story, from the infatuation at first sight to the question “Is this a date?” Plus, if you stay to the end, you’ll learn whether the defendant was convicted or not.

Why can’t things just be easy? When it comes to texting, or really anything in life, so much is left up to interpretation. In this week’s episode, Erika shares a story about one of her client’s dates and how the interactions can be looked at in very different ways. A red flag to one person may be a turn-on to another. Erika and Chris then delve into how difficult it is to interpret text messages sometimes and then discuss the actual date-planning process and how interpretations may go awry there, too. 

This week, Erika and Chris discussed the article, “20 Things to Stop Doing on Dating Apps in 2020” from Insidehook.com. These range from lying about your age (a no-no) to posting group photos (don’t do it!) to ghosting… and everything in between. While they agree with many of them, there’s one big disagreement at the end. 

Sometimes you go on a date with someone. It’s not a 1, but it’s also not at 10. And you never see each other again. If the situation arises at a later date, should you give it another go? This week, Erika shares a crazy first — and second — date story, and then Erika and Chris talk about second chances, different personalities, and when it makes sense to try again or just call it off.