STaR Coach Show

Today’s episode will teach you about loneliness—and it’s not what you would expect. “America’s Loneliness Coach” joins Meg for a rich and inspiring conversation. You’ll learn why we need a systemic cultural shift from a “me” world to a “we” world. We will explore the loneliness epidemic, how the “we” coaching mindset changes the way we show up, and how group coaching can become one of the most powerful growth containers available to practitioners. Carrie Sackett is a leading authority on group coaching and community-based growth. She is a speaker, ICF-accredited trainer, and internationally published author specializing in emotional growth and connection. As the founder of Social Therapeutic Coaching, she works with individuals, groups, and organizations to help people break free from limiting inner narratives and build stronger relational skills. With an award-winning background in corporate leadership and employee engagement at Fortune 500 companies, Carrie now focuses on creating meaningful human connection and growth. She is the co-author of Social Therapeutic Coaching: A Practical Guide to Group and Couples Work. Show Highlights:The evolution of Carrie’s role as “America’s Loneliness Coach”The loneliness epidemic: We can’t resolve a social crisis by addressing individuals.We, as humans, are a social species; we impact others, and others impact us.“We” culture vs. “me” culture What it takes to be radically present with our clientsGroup coaching: More powerfully transformative than one-on-one workThe group leader’s role as an “ensemble director”Examples of transformation in organizations and individuals in embracing “we” and “yes, and”The transformation of coaches who step into more group work from one-on-one workSocial therapeutic coaching is “a method for not knowing.”Four pillars of social therapeutic coachingKey takeaway from Carrie: “Our emotional development as practitioners is really important for the world. We need to grow in our toolkit.”Resources:Connect with Carrie SackettEmailWebsiteSocial Therapeutic Coaching: A Practical Guide to Group and Couples Work bookGroup and Couples Coaching Course (A weekend intensive on June 27-28: Use the code ICF30 for an additional 15% off for SCS listeners.) Connect with MegExplore the STaR Coach Show Mentor Program. We are enrolling NOW for this fall!Join the STaR Coach Community. Become a member today!Subscribe to the STaR Coach Show YouTube Channel!Explore over 490 past episodes and other helpful resources at www.STaRcoachshow.com. Mentioned in this episode:Enroll More Clients: Clarity SprintDo you love coaching, but when it comes to enrolling clients, writing your bio, or posting online, you freeze? Or fall into “coach speak” that doesn’t actually connect? That’s not a you problem. It’s a messaging problem—and it’s costing you clients. Join me for my free, live five-day experience: Enroll More Clients: Clarity Sprint. From March 16–20 at 9 a.m. Central, I’ll help you get crystal clear on your ideal client, refine your message so it actually resonates, and create a confidence statement that makes booking a call the obvious next step. No fluff, just clarity, you can use immediately. Grab your free spot at: https://starcoachshow.com/5dayEnroll More Clients: Clarity Sprint

Today’s conversation will transform your thinking about emotions. Instead of viewing emotions as negative experiences to push away or control, our guest helps us understand them as our body’s guidance system, much like a compass that helps us navigate. Fear and anger, often thought of as negative emotions, are the body’s survival mechanisms that are designed to protect our lives. You’ll discover practical insights on recognizing physical sensations, befriending your feelings, and using emotional intelligence to become a better coach and leader. Want to know more about relating to your own emotions and showing up as your best for your clients? Join us to learn more!Joie Seldon, MA, is the founder of the Emotional Evolution Institute and the author of Emotions: An Owner's Manual. An innovator in emotional intelligence, she is a life and professional success coach and EQ trainer. She has worked with clients at NASA, AT&T, Wells Fargo, Blue Shield, Dolby, and others. Her clients range from tech professionals and healthcare workers to C-suite executives. With 25 years of experience as an actor and acting teacher, 10 years as a somatic psychology therapist, and a lifetime of personal growth engagement, Joie has developed an innovative approach to teaching people how to release limiting behaviors and use their emotions as the powerful guidance system they are meant to be.Show Highlights:Misconceptions, judgments, and misunderstandings about emotionsGrowing the relationship with your emotions, especially fear and anger, by recognizing and tolerating the sensations you experienceOur feelings and thinking have to work together.The message of fear is “pay attention.”The results when people shift their perspective on emotionsDealing with emotions that arise in coaching conversationsUnderstanding the difference between stress tears and sad tearsThe value of taking private time to process your grief and effectively giving others space for their grief and discomfortA coach’s job is not to rescue or “fix”; everyone just wants to be seen and heard.Joie’s top “Aha moments” with clientsWhat coaches should understand about emotions being used as a compass“Emotions are energy in motion.” (Be curious about emotions.)Joie’s key takeaway for listeners: “Emotions are the link between the tangible and intangible. Pay attention to how you feel, and listen to what information emotions give you. Feeling your emotions will ultimately bring you more joy.”Resources:Connect with Joie SeldonWebsite, YouTube, and Emotions Owner's Manual (Kindle Edition)Connect with MegExplore the STaR Coach Show Mentor Program. We are enrolling NOW for this spring!Subscribe to the STaR Coach Show YouTube Channel!Explore past episodes and other resources at www.STaRcoachshow.com.Explore the STaR Coach Community and see what’s available there for you!Mentioned in this episode:Enroll More Clients: Clarity SprintDo you love coaching, but when it comes to enrolling clients, writing your bio, or posting online, you freeze? Or fall into “coach speak” that doesn’t actually connect? That’s not a you problem. It’s a messaging problem—and it’s costing you clients. Join me for my free, live five-day experience: Enroll More Clients: Clarity Sprint. From March 16–20 at 9 a.m. Central, I’ll help you get crystal clear on your ideal client, refine your message so it actually resonates, and create a confidence statement that makes booking a call the obvious next step. No fluff, just clarity, you can use immediately. Grab your free spot at: https://starcoachshow.com/5dayEnroll More Clients: Clarity Sprint

Mentoring is a topic many coaches misunderstand, as they approach it reluctantly as another requirement in their credentialing process. In truth, mentoring is an opportunity, a gift, and a chance to sharpen our skills, break free from old habits, and continue our evolution as coaches. Mentoring is a valuable, transformational process that helps us identify our blind spots and expand our capacity. In this episode, you’ll hear insights about coaching presence in the mentoring process, along with how to approach your coaching growth with humility and curiosity. Join us to learn more!Carly Anderson is a Master Certified Coach who has been continuously active as an ICF assessor for MCC, PCC, and ACC since 2005. She has carried this heavy load as an assessor, giving back to our profession and helping numerous coaches advance in the field. She has personally mentored over 200 coaches who have earned their MCC credential. Show Highlights:Carly’s perspective on 20 years as an ICF assessor, which she calls “the greatest joy of my life.”The value of mentor coachingKey takeaways from Carly’s mentor coaching roleBeing present in mentoring without judgmentUsing “practices” to stay focused in mentoring: something tactile to hold, breathing exercises, hot yoga, chiropractic, massage, etc. The benefits of both group and individual mentoringDifferences between mentor coaching and supervised coachingHelping coaches develop their own styleThe value of listening to your own coaching recordings to help you be the best you can beCarly’s tips for getting the most out of your recordings and using reflection without judgmentThe #1 takeaway from today’s episode for being the most present as a mentor coachResources:Connect with Carly Anderson: WebsiteConnect with MegGet Meg’s FREE download, Finding Your Perfect Match: A Coach's Self-Reflection Guide.Explore the STaR Coach Show Mentor Program. New dates have been added for 2026!Explore past episodes and other resources at www.STaRcoachshow.com. Explore the STaR Coach Community and see what’s available there for you!Visit the STaR Coach Show YouTube Channel! Subscribe today! Join our live show taping on the 3rd Thursday of every month at 1 pm CT. Mentioned in this episode:Join Mentoring Program!If you’re a coach who wants to grow—not just check a box—this is for you. I’m enrolling coaches now for my Spring Mentoring Program. Some are here for credentialing hours. Others are here because they want to become the coach their clients rave about. Inside the program, we work on your actual coaching. You’ll hear yourself differently. Learn from other coaches. Develop more presence. And ask questions that create real transformation. If you’re ready to deepen your skills and your impact, I’d love to support you. Learn more at starcoachshow.com/mentor I’d love to work with you.Enroll More Clients: Clarity SprintDo you love coaching, but when it comes to enrolling clients, writing your bio, or posting online, you freeze? Or fall into “coach speak” that doesn’t actually connect? That’s not a you problem. It’s a messaging problem—and it’s costing you clients. Join me for my free, live five-day experience: Enroll More Clients: Clarity Sprint. From March 16–20 at 9 a.m. Central, I’ll help you get crystal clear on your ideal client, refine your message so it actually resonates, and create a confidence statement that makes booking a call the obvious next step. No fluff, just clarity, you can use immediately. Grab your free spot at: https://starcoachshow.com/5dayEnroll More Clients: Clarity Sprint

Today’s episode tackles one of the most common workplace challenges: How do you lead effectively when people don’t report to you? My expert guest, a former coaching student of mine, reveals the hard-won lessons that transformed her approach to organizational change and unpacks practical strategies for motivating teams, navigating resistance, and creating real impact through influence rather than authority. Whether you’re a project manager, change leader, coach, or anyone tasked with getting things done across organizational silos, this conversation offers actionable frameworks for building collaboration instead of confrontation. In addition, my guest pulls back the curtain on the writing process and shares helpful tips for aspiring writers. Join us to learn more!Michelle Pauk is the author of Build a Golden Bridge: How to Lead Change When You're Not in Charge, and the founder of Streamside Coaching, a boutique coaching and consulting firm dedicated to helping organizations lead change and build collaborative cultures. Her clients include executives and change agents at Fortune 100s, non-profits, and fast-growing startups. A Professional Certified Coach with the International Coach Federation, Michelle holds a master’s degree in leadership and organizational development. Show Highlights:Filtering through the chatter when deciding to write a book: how Michelle brought her ideas and vision to life in Build a Golden BridgeMichelle’s writing process: how she began to create content and structure for the first draftDecisions around publishing (“Finishing the writing process means you’re about ⅓ of the way through.”)Michelle’s vision and goals in writing her bookThree gaps in the way we navigate change:Self-awarenessEmpathyCommunicationLetting go of assumptions to bridge the communication gapLooking for commonality over confrontation and ways to preserve dignity (Michelle explains the metaphor of “the golden bridge.”)Michelle’s takeaway thoughts Resources:Connect with Michelle Pauk: Website, LinkedIn, and Build a Golden BridgeConnect with MegGet Meg’s FREE download, Finding Your Perfect Match: A Coach's Self-Reflection Guide.Explore the STaR Coach Show Mentor Program. New dates have been added for 2026!Explore past episodes and other resources at www.STaRcoachshow.com. Explore the STaR Coach Community and see what’s available there for you!Visit the STaR Coach Show YouTube Channel! Subscribe today! Join our live show taping on the 3rd Thursday of every month at 1 pm CT. Mentioned in this episode:Join Mentoring Program!If you’re a coach who wants to grow—not just check a box—this is for you. I’m enrolling coaches now for my Spring Mentoring Program. Some are here for credentialing hours. Others are here because they want to become the coach their clients rave about. Inside the program, we work on your actual coaching. You’ll hear yourself differently. Learn from other coaches. Develop more presence. And ask questions that create real transformation. If you’re ready to deepen your skills and your impact, I’d love to support you. Learn more at starcoachshow.com/mentor I’d love to work with you.Enroll More Clients: Clarity SprintDo you love coaching, but when it comes to enrolling clients, writing your bio, or posting online, you freeze? Or fall into “coach speak” that doesn’t actually connect? That’s not a you problem. It’s a messaging problem—and it’s costing you clients. Join me for my free, live five-day experience: Enroll More Clients: Clarity Sprint. From March 16–20 at 9 a.m. Central, I’ll help you get crystal clear on your ideal client, refine your message so it actually resonates, and create a confidence statement that makes booking a call the obvious next step. No fluff, just clarity, you can use immediately. Grab your free spot at: https://starcoachshow.com/5dayEnroll More Clients: Clarity Sprint

Welcome to 2026! I hope you’ve had time to reflect and recharge over the holidays, but I’m happy to be back with you for a new year of informative shows and amazing expert guests. Can you improve your performance and resilience through neuroscience-based strategies? The answer is YES! Today’s conversation covers mental toughness, managing negative thoughts, and creating positive change from the inside out. You’ll discover practical tools for navigating the constant “noise” of your thoughts and letting your mind direct which thoughts deserve your energy and attention. Are you ready to think differently about the way you think? Join us!Kevin Stacey is an effectiveness expert and former brain imaging specialist who helps individuals and organizations enhance performance, resilience, and results by utilizing neuroscience-based strategies. As the founder of TrainRight, Kevin has trained over 80,000 people across 48 states and four countries to break mental barriers, achieve peak performance, and navigate challenges with confidence. His diverse background blends military service, healthcare expertise, and corporate leadership. As the author of MindRight and TimeRight and a featured guest on major media outlets, Kevin delivers engaging keynotes, workshops, and coaching on mental toughness, time mastery, and high-performance strategies to clients such as Ford, IBM, The New York Times, and the Federal Reserve. Show Highlights:Overthinking is the #1 cause of unhappiness! (“Is my overthinking becoming counterproductive to the goals I want to accomplish?”)Kevin’s tips for “navigating the noise”: sometimes we need to ignore it, listen to it, or quiet it.Creating your own noise by controlling what you think aboutKevin’s tips for developing mental toughness:Separate the brain (the creator of thoughts) and the mind (the director of your thoughts). Use your mind to keep your brain in check.Develop a different relationship with your “scary” thoughts.How our brains harm our happinessChange the subject to change your thinking. (“Thoughts are not facts.”)Applying neuroscience to organizations by reducing insecurity and managing focusNoticing and changing your thoughts interrupts the pattern of your thinking. “What you think, you become; what you feel, you attract; what you imagine, you create.”The “noise” will always be there, but we don’t have to focus on it. (Like when you’re on a train, notice you’re on the “wrong track,” and get off at the “next station.”)Coaches can practice using a “pattern interrupt” technique with clients. Thought-changing techniques using ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) and CBT (cognitive behavior therapy)The value of gratitude in managing our negative thoughts and reframing our perspectiveBe careful of “outrage addiction.”“Life is a journey, not a destination.”Use a daily reminder: “I’m grateful, I’m happy, how do I want this day to go?”Resources:Connect with Kevin StaceyWebsite, X, LinkedIn, MindRight, and TimeRight Connect with MegGet Meg’s FREE download, Finding Your Perfect Match: A Coach's Self-Reflection Guide.Explore the STaR Coach Show Mentor Program. New dates have been added for 2026!Explore past episodes and other resources at www.STaRcoachshow.com. Explore the STaR Coach Community and see what’s available there for you!Visit the STaR Coach Show YouTube Channel! Subscribe today! Join our live show taping on the 3rd Thursday of every month at 1 pm CT. Mentioned in this episode:Enroll More Clients: Clarity SprintDo you love coaching, but when it comes to enrolling clients, writing your bio, or posting online, you freeze? Or fall into “coach speak” that doesn’t actually connect? That’s not a you problem. It’s a messaging problem—and it’s costing you clients. Join me for my free, live five-day experience: Enroll More Clients: Clarity Sprint. From March 16–20 at 9 a.m. Central, I’ll help you get crystal clear on your ideal client, refine your message so it actually resonates, and create a confidence statement that makes booking a call the obvious next step. No fluff, just clarity, you can use immediately. Grab your free spot at: https://starcoachshow.com/5dayEnroll More Clients: Clarity SprintJoin Mentoring Program!If you’re a coach who wants to grow—not just check a box—this is for you. I’m enrolling coaches now for my Spring Mentoring Program. Some are here for credentialing hours. Others are here because they want to become the coach their clients rave about. Inside the program, we work on your actual coaching. You’ll hear yourself differently. Learn from other coaches. Develop more presence. And ask questions that create real transformation. If you’re ready to deepen your skills and your impact, I’d love to support you. Learn more at starcoachshow.com/mentor I’d love to work with you.