STFUAL - From Boy to Man to Better Husband

What if your porn habit has nothing to do with sex? Alessandro sits down with Jeremy Lipkowitz, a porn addiction recovery coach who has helped hundreds of men break free from compulsive porn use without shame, without moral panic, and without white-knuckling it for the rest of their lives. Porn is rarely just about sex. For most men, it becomes a way to cope with loneliness, stress, boredom, anxiety, and emotions they were never taught how to process. Jeremy has lived this himself. And ...

You've heard her say it a hundred times: "I need help with the mental load." But what the hell does that even mean? Alessandro breaks down the three layers every task actually has and why most men only see one of them. This isn’t vague or theoretical. It’s a practical framework that puts real structure around what’s been happening in your household. Using real examples from his own marriage and coaching clients, Alessandro shows you exactly where you're dropping the ball without even kn...

Why should you be the one to change when she's got issues too? You're standing in a relationship standoff. She's got her guns up (criticism, contempt), you've got yours (defensiveness, stonewalling). Both of you are waiting for the other to drop theirs first. And while you're both waiting, your marriage is slowly dying. Alessandro dismantles the "it's not fair" mindset keeping you stuck and shows you why changing first has nothing to do with fairness. He confronts the question every man asks:...

What would you actually have to face if you couldn't reach for your phone for the next eight days? Every time something gets uncomfortable, a tense moment with your wife, an emotion you don't want to feel, or just the weight of your own thoughts you grab your phone. You turn on the TV. You find a distraction. You've built an entire life around avoiding the hard stuff, and it's making you weaker by the day. Alessandro brings on Hamid Ebadi, a counselor and silent retreat facilitator who strips...

What if trying so hard to be a "good man" is actually turning you into the worst version of yourself? Alessandro sits down with wellness coach Mikah Jones to unpack a pattern wrecking modern men: the fear of being perceived as a "bad man." Not bad like your father was. Bad in any way that might disappoint the women in your life. This fear keeps you trapped. You say yes when you mean no. You walk on eggshells. You lose your backbone one compromise at a time. Mikah reveals why most men measure ...

Dr. Scott Brennan is an Olympic gold medallist and former emergency doctor who became a stay-at-home dad. In this conversation, we talk about: The male mentor who changed his lifeThe vow he made at his coach’s coffinHow he anchored himself under extreme pressureWhat emotional regulation looks like when everything’s on the lineHow he dealt with public failure and deep personal disappointmentAnd the decision every man faces the one that could cost you your familyThis episode is honest, grounded...