Strictly Stalking

When Eric Carter-Landin was a child, his 9-month-old brother, Jacob, was murdered — and decades later, the case remains unsolved. But the tragedy didn't end with Jacob's death. Eric and his mother became targets of stalking, harassment, and intimidation that followed their family for years. Eric shares his family's fight for answers, the fear they endured, and how his search for justice became a mission to support other victims and their families through Angels' Voices Silenced No More and now AdvocacyCon—a crime conference bringing together experts, nonprofits, families of the missing and murdered, and advocates for justice. Joining us from AdvocacyCon is co-founder Whitney St. Andre. **The following episode of Strictly Stalking contains graphic language and topics including child sexual abuse, sexual assault, domestic violence and homocide. Listener discretion is advised.** Share Your Story on the Show: [email protected] Guest Links: Eric Carter-Landin https://www.instagram.com/eric_carter_landin/ AdvocacyCon https://www.advocacycon.com/ AdvocacyCon is a crime conference unlike any other. We bring together experts, non-profit organizations, families of the missing and murdered, and individuals passionate about advocating for justice. It aims to create a platform for education, connection, and collaboration in the fight for justice. A community where families find unwavering support and strength within a united and compassionate environment. Angels' Voices Silenced No More https://www.angelsvoicesnm.org/ At Angels' Voices Silenced No More, our mission is to empower families by providing them with the necessary resources and referrals to advocate for their missing or murdered loved ones. We believe in taking a comprehensive approach to support, encompassing a wide range of services including billboards, DNA testing, private investigations, funeral expenses, therapy, and much more. Our goal is to ensure that no family faces these challenges alone. Whitney St. Andre https://www.instagram.com/whitneystandre/ Our Sponsors Boll and Branch Get twenty percent off your first order, plus free shipping during the Memorial Day sale at bollandbranch.com/strictly with code STRICTLY. Exclusions apply. Zenni Go to zenni.com/podcast15 and use code PODCAST15 for fifteen percent off your first order, plus free shipping on all US orders over sixty five dollars. Larineco Larineco is offering our listeners up to 50% off at WWW.BUYLARINE.COM/STRICTLY for up to 50% off. Whatnot Download the Whatnot app today and get free shipping on your first order. Just search W-H-A-T-N-O-T— Whatnot — in the app store and start scoring amazing deals. Progressive Insurance Press play on comparing auto rates. Get your auto quote at Progressive.com to join the over 28 million drivers who trust Progressive. Shopify shopify.com/strictlystalking for a one-dollar-per-month trial period! Quince Go to https://www.quince.com/strictly for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. HomeServe For 50% less your first year, go to www.homeServe.com/strictlystalking Delete Me Today get 20% off your DeleteMe plan when you go to JoinDeleteMe.com/STALKING and use promo code STALKING at checkout. Quince Go to https://www.quince.com/strictly for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Solace You can start a free session in under a minute at solaceconcierge.ai/strictlystalking. REMI shopremi.com/strictly to get 50% off your new night guard with code STRICTLY Related Podcasts lovelustfear | with Jake Deptula Listen & Subscribe Here: lovelustfear The Last Trip - Podcast - hosted by Jaimie Beebe Listen & Subscribe Here: The Last Trip Instagram @strictlystalkingpod @feathergirl77 @jaked3000

Tracey's life began unraveling when intimate photos appeared online, fake accounts surfaced in her name, and someone seemed to know things about her they shouldn't. As the stalking escalated, she leaned on the person closest to her for support. But nothing was quite what it seemed. Today, Tracey shares how a terrifying campaign of stalking and deception shattered her sense of trust—and ultimately forced her to flee across Australia with her daughter. Share Your Story on the Show: [email protected] Our Sponsors Quince Go to https://www.quince.com/strictly for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Boll and Branch Get twenty percent off your first order, plus free shipping during the Memorial Day sale at bollandbranch.com/strictly with code STRICTLY. Exclusions apply. Zenni Go to zenni.com/podcast15 and use code PODCAST15 for fifteen percent off your first order, plus free shipping on all US orders over sixty five dollars. Larineco Larineco is offering our listeners up to 50% off at WWW.BUYLARINE.COM/STRICTLY for up to 50% off. HomeServe For 50% less your first year, go to www.homeServe.com/strictlystalking Shopify shopify.com/strictlystalking for a one-dollar-per-month trial period! Whatnot Download the Whatnot app today and get free shipping on your first order. Just search W-H-A-T-N-O-T— Whatnot — in the app store and start scoring amazing deals. Delete Me Today get 20% off your DeleteMe plan when you go to JoinDeleteMe.com/STALKING and use promo code STALKING at checkout. Quince Go to https://www.quince.com/strictly for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Solace You can start a free session in under a minute at solaceconcierge.ai/strictlystalking. REMI shopremi.com/strictly to get 50% off your new night guard with code STRICTLY Progressive Insurance Press play on comparing auto rates. Get your auto quote at Progressive.com to join the over 28 million drivers who trust Progressive. Related Podcasts The Last Trip - Podcast - hosted by Jaimie Beebe Listen & Subscribe Here: The Last Trip lovelustfear | with Jake Deptula Listen & Subscribe Here: lovelustfear Instagram @strictlystalkingpod @feathergirl77 @jaked3000

Rob says a relationship that began in the early days of the internet never truly ended. For nearly thirty years, he says his ex has continued finding new ways into his life—through phone numbers, email addresses, social media, and eventually, even his son. Today, Rob shares what it's like to be stalked for decades, why he believes the behavior is escalating, and how it's changed the lives of everyone around him. Share Your Story on the Show: [email protected] Our Sponsors Larineco Larineco is offering our listeners up to 50% off at WWW.BUYLARINE.COM/STRICTLY for up to 50% off. Whatnot Download the Whatnot app today and get free shipping on your first order. Just search W-H-A-T-N-O-T— Whatnot — in the app store and start scoring amazing deals. HomeServe For 50% less your first year, go to www.homeServe.com/strictlystalking Shopify shopify.com/strictlystalking for a one-dollar-per-month trial period! Boll and Branch Get twenty percent off your first order, plus free shipping during the Memorial Day sale at bollandbranch.com/strictly with code STRICTLY. Exclusions apply. Delete Me Today get 20% off your DeleteMe plan when you go to JoinDeleteMe.com/STALKING and use promo code STALKING at checkout. Quince Go to https://www.quince.com/strictly for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Solace You can start a free session in under a minute at solaceconcierge.ai/strictlystalking. REMI shopremi.com/strictly to get 50% off your new night guard with code STRICTLY Progressive Insurance Press play on comparing auto rates. Get your auto quote at Progressive.com to join the over 28 million drivers who trust Progressive. Related Podcasts The Last Trip - Podcast - hosted by Jaimie Beebe Listen & Subscribe Here: The Last Trip lovelustfear | with Jake Deptula Listen & Subscribe Here: lovelustfear Instagram @strictlystalkingpod @feathergirl77 @jaked3000

SK never imagined that a former co-worker's interest in her would spiral into years of stalking and harassment. What started as unwanted attention grew into thousands of messages, videos, and online posts, leaving her constantly on edge and afraid of what might happen next. Now, after an arrest was finally made, SK is sharing the emotional toll of prolonged stalking, the fear of never knowing when it will end, and what it's like trying to get help while feeling like the system moves too slowly. Share Your Story on the Show: [email protected] Our Sponsors Whatnot Download the Whatnot app today and get free shipping on your first order. Just search W-H-A-T-N-O-T— Whatnot — in the app store and start scoring amazing deals. Delete Me Today get 20% off your DeleteMe plan when you go to JoinDeleteMe.com/STALKING and use promo code STALKING at checkout. Boll and Branch Get twenty percent off your first order, plus free shipping during the Memorial Day sale at bollandbranch.com/strictly with code STRICTLY. Exclusions apply. Solace You can start a free session in under a minute at solaceconcierge.ai/strictlystalking. REMI shopremi.com/strictly to get 50% off your new night guard with code STRICTLY Shopify shopify.com/strictlystalking for a one-dollar-per-month trial period! Progressive Insurance Press play on comparing auto rates. Get your auto quote at Progressive.com to join the over 28 million drivers who trust Progressive. Related Podcasts The Last Trip - Podcast - hosted by Jaimie Beebe Listen & Subscribe Here: The Last Trip lovelustfear | with Jake Deptula Listen & Subscribe Here: lovelustfear Instagram @strictlystalkingpod @feathergirl77 @jaked3000

EPISODE SUMMARY In this powerful and insightful episode, Vanessa Reiser sits down with Dr. Ramani Durvasula, one of the world's leading experts on narcissistic abuse and coercive control. They explore how public understanding of narcissistic abuse has evolved, particularly among younger generations who now have expanded language around gaslighting, love bombing, and coercive control. Dr. Ramani and Vanessa discuss the dangers of over-labeling, the limitations of "just leave" advice in complex situations, and how culture continues to reflect these toxic dynamics. Using the Epstein files as a lens, they examine grooming, enablers, epistemic power, and how unchecked power shapes harmful systems. Dr. Ramani shares practical harm-reduction strategies, the importance of healing in community, and the value of "climbing into the gray" without excusing harm. KEY TOPICS DISCUSSED Youth and the New Vocabulary Around Narcissistic Abuse Therapy Shifts and Rebuilding Agency Culture Rewriting Old Narratives (Amy Fisher / Joey Buttafuoco Case) Epstein Files: Grooming, Enablers, and Institutional Betrayal Kids Facing Modern Horror and Pattern Recognition Power Sadism and Lack of Accountability Covert Narcissists Explained Avoiding Narcissists: Practical Tips Spotting Limits and Safe Disengagement Staying Anchored in Yourself Amid Chaos What Continues to Move Dr. Ramani Therapists "Getting It" – Progress and Gaps Wild Gaslighting Examples and Environmental Manipulation Epistemic Power Explained When the Narcissist Leaves and Smear Campaigns Supply Networks and Control Tactics Collective Healing Through Community Leaning Into the Gray Without Excusing Harm RESOURCES Dr. Ramani Durvasula's Books: Should I Stay or Should I Go? It's Not You Don't You Know Who I Am? You Are WHY You Eat Dr. Ramani's Podcast: Navigating Narcissism Connect with Dr. Ramani: Instagram: @doctorramani Website: doctor-ramani.com AND Dr. Ramani's therapist only program can be found here: https://drramaninetwork.mn.co/therapistsonly Connect with Vanessa Reiser: Instagram: @vanessareiserlcsw Patreon: For exclusive bonus content and deeper discussions CONTENT WARNINGS This episode contains discussions of: Narcissistic abuse and coercive control Gaslighting and reality distortion Institutional betrayal and systemic power abuse Epstein-related allegations Emotional manipulation and trauma QUOTES TO REMEMBER "The truth doesn't need your permission to exist." — Dr. Ramani Durvasula "Even when the system fails you, your body still knows the truth." — Dr. Ramani Durvasula "Climbing into the gray doesn't mean excusing harm — it means refusing to live in black-and-white thinking that keeps us stuck." — Vanessa Reiser Disclaimer: This podcast is for mature audiences and is not a substitute for therapy, legal, or medical advice. Guest opinions are their own and don't necessarily reflect those of the host or affiliated platforms. Produced by Vanessa Reiser and music by Alex Productions "Once Upon a Time". #NarcissisticAbuseWithVanessaReiser #VanessaReiser #TellATherapist #CoerciveControl #DrRamani #NarcissisticAbuse

Vanessa Reiser is a therapist whose life became the focus of a relentless campaign of surveillance and intimidation. After her relationship ended, the harassment didn't stop — it escalated. A private investigator was allegedly hired to follow her, and someone posing as a patient infiltrated her therapy practice. As Vanessa fought to protect herself, she turned to the courts for help. But when her request for a restraining order was denied, the fear and harassment only intensified. Now, Vanessa is speaking publicly about what happened behind the headlines — and what it feels like when the system meant to protect you leaves you vulnerable instead. Share Your Story on the Show: [email protected] Guest Links: Vanessa M. Reiser, LCSW Tellatherapist.net Tellatherapist.org Tellalifecoach.com https://www.instagram.com/vanessareiserlcsw Narcissistic Abuse (Book) - Amazon Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist's Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People Our Sponsors REMI shopremi.com/strictly to get 50% off your new night guard with code STRICTLY Delete Me Today get 20% off your DeleteMe plan when you go to JoinDeleteMe.com/STALKING and use promo code STALKING at checkout. Shopify shopify.com/strictlystalking for a one-dollar-per-month trial period! Solace You can start a free session in under a minute at solaceconcierge.ai/strictlystalking. Progressive Insurance Press play on comparing auto rates. Get your auto quote at Progressive.com to join the over 28 million drivers who trust Progressive. Related Podcasts The Last Trip - Podcast - hosted by Jaimie Beebe Listen & Subscribe Here: The Last Trip lovelustfear | with Jake Deptula Listen & Subscribe Here: lovelustfear Instagram @strictlystalkingpod @feathergirl77 @jaked3000