Successful Women Think Differently

🎉Set your 2024 up for success by creating your Vision Board with Valorie: valorieburton.com/visionboardchallenge2024  👀Having a vision and a goal is great, but there’s one thing that will help you get to the next level faster and you probably have never heard of it.It’s called a personal growth action plan. Oftentimes, we think that the reason it's taking a long time to reach our goals is because we're not taking the right steps. But it's really much bigger than just knowing what steps to take. What is even more important is understanding what’s stopping you from taking those steps.Do you know what the growth gap is that is keeping you from moving forward and keeping you stuck? (If you don’t, go check out Episode 34!)This is often where our fears, habits, distractions, sometimes circumstances can block us from growing even when we know exactly what to do. Discover the personal growth action plan framework and how to use it to reach your goals in 2024. In This Episode:- Why we can’t move forward even though we know what steps to take- Identifying your growth gaps- How to close your growth gaps- Experimenting with new action to close your growth gaps- How to leverage “positive peer pressure” to get better results- Big changes for the Successful Women Think Differently PodcastResources Mentioned:Explore how SWA can be your guide in creating and sustaining your personal growth action plan. Visit ValorieBurton.com for details.Connect with Valorie Burton:Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/ Website - https://valorieburton.com/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton 

In an ideal world, we’d all admit we need help and get coaching to work on improving ourselves.But that takes two things:1. Admitting it - which is possibly what you’ve already done by being here2. A coach - which you may not have or be able to afford yetSo, while we wait for everything to work together for your good and for you to eventually have a coach, what else can we do to make sure we’re moving forward?Well, we can self-coach. Self-coaching is something we should do whether we have an external coach or not, but all the more so if we don’t. Life is hard, and we face various challenges that we don’t often know how to navigate. We can get overwhelmed by decisions or indecision and we can get stuck in our minds.But being your own coach is like having a toolkit to navigate these challenges that come your way. It requires pausing, reflecting, and coming up with not just the answers but the process of getting to the answers. Find out what key questions you should be asking yourself during your next self-coaching session. And for some FREE external coaching in the new year, check out: https://valorieburton.com/visionboardchallenge2024 In This Episode:- Self-coaching - The basic framework to find answers for yourself- Identifying the problem- What’s the vision? What do you want?- Identify fears, habits and distractions- Key coaching questions to ask yourself- What to do when you don’t know what to doConnect with Valorie Burton:Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/ Website - https://valorieburton.com/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton 

🛑 If you've ever thought about coaching, or incorporating coaching into your leadership toolkit, don’t miss the Coach Training Intensive happening December 2nd - 4th, 2023! https://cappinstitute.com/coaching-programs/coach-training-intensive/ 🛑“We're looking at expectations that might not even be our own, and beating ourselves up because we're not meeting those expectations.” - Valorie BurtonToday, we're talking about how to stop those unhelpful upward social comparisons that can steal your joy.We've all been there - you see someone doing something better than you and suddenly you feel discontent because you’re not there yet, or guilty because you know you should be happy for them but you’re really just jealous. Don’t worry, it’s natural. But because successful women think differently, we must notice these thoughts and re-shift them to better serve us.How?Decrease exposure, focus on your growth, and compare yourself to your past and future self - not others. (Tune in to unpack what this looks like practically.)You have so much to offer, and focusing on others’ highlight reels and comparing them to your reality is only going to distract you from your bigger purpose.In This Episode:- What are upward social comparisons?- What’s the message in it for you?- Why we compare- Positively comparing upwardly for inspiration- What to do when you over-compare- Downward comparison - who can you help?Connect with Valorie Burton:Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/ Website - https://valorieburton.com/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton 

🛑Don’t miss out on  Valorie’s upcoming Coach Training Intensive - December 2nd - 4th, 2023! https://cappinstitute.com/coaching-programs/coach-training-intensive/ 🛑“If you were to meet someone who has already been there and done that, would you know what to ask them?” - ValorieWhether you have a mentor or not, this episode is going to prepare you for asking the right questions to help you avoid making big mistakes and to lead you in the right direction on your journey.As you know, at this point in the world’s timeline, chances are whatever you want to accomplish, someone else has already done. (Or at least similarly)So, when there are people who have created a business like the one you want to create, or people who have relationships like the one you hope to build, or people who simply have just ‘been there, done that’ on your fill-in-the-blank desires, why try to recreate the wheel?Instead, put these 5 questions in your back pocket and be ready to use them when you do encounter those people, and you’ll find that you can even speed up your success when you tune in to the wisdom of those individuals.In This Episode:- What’s the best decision you've ever made?- What’s the worst decision you’ve ever made? (And Why)- What do you wish you knew when you started?- What do you do in the face of setbacks?- What advice do you have for me?Resources Mentioned:Successful Women Think Differently, Chapter: Don’t Go it Alone - https://a.co/d/8MM0RYY Connect with Valorie Burton:Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/ Website - https://valorieburton.com/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton

Take this 4 Core Fears assessment to identify your core fear!🛑 Check out Valorie’s upcoming Coach Training Intensive - December 2nd - 4th, 2023! https://cappinstitute.com/coaching-programs/coach-training-intensive/ 🛑Today, we're diving deep to uncover what may be holding you back from your boldest dreams.Without this awareness, you could seriously be limiting your own growth.Identifying your core fears is the first step to breaking free from patterns of getting stuck.In this episode, Valorie outlines the four most common core fears:- Rejection - Fear of disapproval, concern about what others will say about us- Failure - Doing what’s necessary to avoid failing includes not trying- Success - Fear that if you succeed, it’s going to be a fluke (imposter syndrome, anyone?)- Uncertainty - Not knowing all the details could keep you right where you areWhich one sounds most familiar? Is it all of them? To be fair, it’s not impossible to resonate with all of them at some point or another, but chances are, one of them gets you stuck most often. So, which one of these sticks out to you?Can you recognize areas in your life where these fears are making you stuck?Tune in for tips on overcoming these mental barriers.In This Episode:- Awareness is the first step- Fear of disapproval- Fear of failure- Fear of success- Fear of uncertaintyConnect with Valorie Burton:Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/ Website - https://valorieburton.com/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton 

There’s no way you haven’t heard this from someone before. “Never give up, you’re no quitter.”Actually, oftentimes, if not most, quitting is associated with failure.But does that even make sense? The idea that we can never quit or walk away from something doesn’t seem to leave room for growth, does it?Like when you grow and realize that this thing you signed up for or initially started to pursue isn’t actually helpful or healthy – are you meant to stick through it? Well, it’s possible that the real failure is in the limiting belief that you can’t change your mind and move on.If you feel stuck and you don’t know if it’s time to walk away yet, this episode is for you. Valorie’s 5 signs to know if you should keep going or if it’s time to quit will help you assess your goals in a new light and steer you in the right direction.“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30In This Episode:- When quitting is right for you- Matthew 11:28-30 ‘Weary and burdened’- 5 Ways to know if you should persevere or keep going- #1 You’re energized- #2 Stretched but not broken- #3 Peace in the chaos- #4 Purpose in the pain- #5 Worth the effort (Reward on the other side!)- What will this goal give you that you don’t already have?- RecapAnd more!Connect with Valorie Burton:- Check out all of Valorie's books here- https://valorieburton.com/books/ - Website - https://valorieburton.com/ - Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/ - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/ - YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton

**For extra tips on stopping your Analysis Paralysis, visit&nbsp; https://valorieburton.com/podcast**The curse of having too many good ideas or options…Is there any chance you can actually accomplish them all? And if you can’t, how do you choose which one(s) to start with, knowing that it might mean the other ones never come to life?It’s like trying to choose a new movie to watch on Netflix and instead watching dozens of trailers only to look back and realize you’ve missed out on a whole hour that could have actually been spent watching one of those movies.It’s overwhelming, to say the least. This happens to business owners all the time. You start a business, and you think of loads of things that can contribute to your business success, but you just don’t know where to start.Well, that’s why Valorie recommends: “Don’t be a Maximizer.”It means you need to break the thought pattern that says, “There might be something better.”Instead, the key is to become a “Satisficer.”Don’t worry if you don’t know what these terms mean. It will all make sense after you listen to this bite-sized episode that will help you take your first step toward your next good idea.“Satisficers are not slackers by any stretch. They are more content. They're more efficient in their work. They miss fewer important opportunities because they have the time to focus on the things that truly matter.” - Valorie Burton.In This Episode:- Paradox of Choice by Dr. Barry Schwartz- What is a Maximizer?- What is Satisficing?- How to Satisfice- Voluntarily limiting your choices- Determining what is good enough- Why lowering your expectations doesn’t have to be a negative- Comparing your decisions with everyone else’s- About the Successful Women’s AcademyAnd more!Interested in developing better habits for success like the ones mentioned in this Episode?&nbsp;Check out Chapter 7 in Valorie’s Book: https://www.amazon.com/Successful-Women-Think-Differently-Healthier/dp/0736938567/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&amp;qid=&amp;sr=&nbsp;&nbsp;Connect with Valorie Burton:- Check out all of Valorie's books here- https://valorieburton.com/books/&nbsp;- Website - https://valorieburton.com/&nbsp;- Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/&nbsp;- LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/&nbsp;&nbsp;- Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/&nbsp;&nbsp;- YouTube - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton" rel="noopener noreferrer"...

Motivation is like the wind. It comes and it goes.Chances are it’s going more than it’s coming.As much as you wish that you could feel productive, and inspired to take action all the time (or even half of the time), there’s just a missing motivation that often stops you from doing what you need to do.So in this episode, Valorie is going to give you the secret that all successful people use to stay motivated 100% of the time without fail.Here’s the Big Secret: Don’t believe anyone telling you they have got the secret to all-day, every day motivation. It’s a lie. HA! No, but seriously. The truth is, no one feels motivated 100% of the time.Those mindset gurus and motivational speakers and ultra-successful people you see on Social Media may be more motivated than you, but even they struggle sometimes.So, if it’s not motivation, what is it that makes them different? Is it just that they love what they do? Or that it comes naturally to them? Or maybe they just have better inspiration.No, it’s that they’ve learned to distinguish their feelings from their decisions. And you can too.If you’re ready to stop waiting and start achieving, tune in to hear this message of empowerment and learn how to make consistent progress toward your biggest goals.“Your feelings are honest. They’re not necessarily the truth.” - Valorie BurtonNeed extra help with inspiration and motivation? Check out Valorie’s vision manifesto at https://valorieburton.com/podcast and share it with a friend!In This Episode:- Why feelings shouldn’t dictate our actions- Why we shouldn’t wait for motivation- How labeling our emotions can help us take action- How taking action without motivation can help us build confidenceAnd more!Connect with Valorie Burton:- Check out all of Valorie's books here- https://valorieburton.com/books/&nbsp;- Website - https://valorieburton.com/&nbsp;- Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/&nbsp;- LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/&nbsp;&nbsp;- Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/&nbsp;&nbsp;- YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton&nbsp;

Turns out “Work Hard, Play Hard” may be way more scientifically sound than any of us thought.As a responsible adult, chances are your struggle is likely in the playing part. You’ve got all caught up with work, chores, maybe raising kids, and the seriousness of life’s various obstacles. And the last thing you want to hear is that you should be adding more to your list and generally be more positive. Why? Why does it even matter beyond the obvious feel-good mushy stuff?Elaine O'Brien, renowned fitness and positive psychology leader, is on the show today to walk us through the impact that play has on our lives and even our work. There are huge benefits you’re missing out on if you’re not playing. Particularly, you’re missing out on a tool that actually helps you deal with the really hard things in life.Elaine’s inspiring work in advancing mental health and physical fitness has transformed the lives of thousands. It has shown that play has the power to provide us with a mental and emotional cushion when dealing with life’s crises. Whether it’s Nerf gun wars, swinging in playgrounds, cracking jokes, or other games, the key is looking for opportunities to create joy in life’s everyday cycles.How many of us have things thrown our way that we wish we handled better? Well, tune in because this could be the key.If you can incorporate those micro-moments of play, even into your most serious day, it kind of sets you free. It connects you.” ~ Elaine O’Brien In This Episode:- Playing hard is actually a great success strategy- Play isn’t just something you do AFTER all the hard work- How play can create a foundation of goodness and shift your baseline- Overcoming your Negativity Bias- The power of play at workAnd so much more!Connect with Elaine O’Brien and check out her resources:- Website: http://elaineobrienphd.com - Elaine’s Book: https://www.amazon.com/Power-Play-Optimize-Your-Potential-ebook/dp/B0BFJSR5RM - Check out the FREE Power of Play Fun Tracker https://www.powerofplay.fun Other Resources Mentioned:Research on Positive Emotions - https://positivepsychology.com/broaden-build-theory/ Connect with Valorie Burton:- Check out all of Valorie's books here- https://valorieburton.com/books/ - Website - https://valorieburton.com/ - Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/ - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/ - YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton

Let's face it: there are days when you just don't feel like getting things done. On those days, what are the thoughts that can move you forward when you don't feel motivated?Valorie is sharing a simple yet valuable tool on how we can keep moving forward on those days when we can't seem to get out of bed. Sharing a story from her father, sometimes momentum starts with just getting your feet on the ground.&nbsp;Learning that sometimes your feelings are not 'the truth', perhaps you need to consider honoring the actions that will take you to where you know you want to go. And if we do this, a pre-determined intentional action, we give our feelings time to catch up.Take writing, for example: rather than sit around waiting to feel inspired to start writing, take the action of sitting down to write. And surely, inspiration will follow!&nbsp;There's also advice on taking a gratitude break, knowing when to phone a friend, and how to be intentional about cultivating positive emotions that will all help move the needle for you on those days when you simply don't want to move at all!&nbsp;All of this inspiring content is presented with Valorie's warmth and authenticity in an episode of Successful Women Think Differently that everyone will surely be able to relate to. Please join us."Our feelings are honest. But they're not necessarily the truth." ~ Valorie BurtonIn This Episode:- Understanding that our feelings are honest, but not necessarily "the truth"- Honoring how we feel – and then the action above that- Learning how to lower the bar and shift our expectations- When we take action, we cause our feelings to shift- Cultivating positive emotion to shift your perspective- The importance of taking a Gratitude Break- Knowing when to call a friend for some reflection on what you're going through- Knowing when it's okay to take a personal dayAnd so much more!Connect with Valorie Burton:- Check out all of Valorie's books here- https://valorieburton.com/books/&nbsp;- Website - https://valorieburton.com/&nbsp;- Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/&nbsp;- LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/&nbsp;&nbsp;- Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/&nbsp;&nbsp;- YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton

Have you ever felt so overwhelmed you don't know what to do next? Most of us have been there: it all feels too much, we feel the pressure of a deadline, and we try to do it all ourselves.&nbsp;Today, Valorie has a simple formula – The 4 Ds – which can help us all with that feeling of overwhelm.This formula comes from Valorie's book, Brave Enough To Succeed, and if you can apply these tools when you're feeling overwhelmed, you will be able to STOP, take control, and prioritize what it is that you need to do next.&nbsp;Sometimes in your life, you do need to push on through, but sometimes pushing through is not the best idea. And this is when you need to give yourself permission to take a break.&nbsp;If you, like Valorie, are something of a 'time optimist' and put more and more on your plate until you bump up against a deadline and then perhaps scream silently to yourself, 'Help!', then this is the help you need.&nbsp;From figuring out what you must Do and what you can Delay, what to Delete (and the joy of just saying NO), and what to Delegate, help is at hand to overcome your overwhelm today! If your overwhelm is becoming a repetitive pattern, then it's time to apply the 4 Ds! Please join us.&nbsp;"There's a lot of power in being able to delay things when you're delaying them intentionally. Because you come to realize that a lot of your deadlines are just arbitrary." ~ Valorie BurtonIn This Episode:- Putting the things on your 'to-do' list into a healthy perspective- How even just saying 'this is hard' can reduce your stress- Exercising self-compassion- Understanding 'false urgency'- Distinguishing between what you Must Do and what you Can Delay- The importance of learning How To Delegate- Is your overwhelm becoming a repetitive pattern?And so much more!- Coaching Challenge:Please put&nbsp; each item on your 'To Do’ list into one of these four categories:Do / Delay / Delegate / Delete... and watch how your feelings of overwhelm diminish!&nbsp;Resources:- Brave Enough To Succeed (the book where Valorie writes more in-depth about The 4 Ds) - Brave Enough to Succeed: 40 Strategies for Getting Unstuck: Burton, Valorie: 9780736970969: Amazon.comConnect with Valorie Burton:- Check out all of Valorie's books here- https://valorieburton.com/books/&nbsp;- Website - https://valorieburton.com/&nbsp;- Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/&nbsp;- LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/&nbsp;&nbsp;- Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/&nbsp;&nbsp;- YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton&nbsp;

Why is it that women will only apply for a job when they meet ALL of the requirements, whereas men will apply for jobs when they often only meet half? There is a lot of research on how women underestimate their abilities and speak with less confidence about their accomplishments.So, what can you do as a Successful Woman who Thinks Differently to start building confidence today? Valorie starts with an appraisal of the areas of our life where a lack of confidence might have prevented us from doing more. Maybe it’s a job you never applied for, or maybe it’s a relationship you didn’t believe you were good enough to be in.&nbsp;Upon reflection, you may see a pattern of inaction that played a part in your not seizing the moment. How we turn our thoughts into action is the antidote – and indeed a veritable definition of confidence –&nbsp; that Valorie is asking us to embrace.&nbsp;It’s about taking a small action NOW and trusting our talent and ability. Seeing confidence as part of a cycle that leads to action, which brings success, and with it, more confidence is the smart approach that will inspire you as a Successful Woman not just to Think Differently but to TAKE ACTION too. And remember, that action starts with one small achievable step. Please join us. The definition I love most of confidence is that confidence is the stuff that turns our thoughts into action.” ~ Valorie BurtonIn This Episode:- How a lack of confidence can negatively impact your opportunities in life- The difference between living on purpose and living by accident- Learning to overcome a ‘Then I will…’ mindset- Understanding the cycle of confidence, action, and success- What does self-efficacy mean to you?- Valorie’s podcasting journey as it pertains to confidence- How a personal trainer helped Valorie’s consistency (which builds confidence)- Starting with the small wins - and building consistently from thereCoaching Questions:- Where are you when it comes to your confidence?&nbsp;- What is a goal that you have that you’ve been putting off?- What is a doable step or action you can take toward achieving that goal right now?&nbsp;- When could you take that step?&nbsp;Connect with Valorie Burton: - Check out all of Valorie's books here- https://valorieburton.com/books/&nbsp;- Website - https://valorieburton.com/&nbsp;- Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/&nbsp;- LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/&nbsp;&nbsp;- Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/&nbsp;&nbsp;- YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton

Have you ever talked yourself out of your dream? You know what you are capable of; start down the path, and then doubt or fear starts creeping in. In today's episode, Valorie coaches Tia. She's a retired colonel who transitioned into the private sector and feels stuck. Tia is second-guessing herself as she enters unfamiliar territory in a new career where, for the first time, the next steps aren't laid out for her, and she has to forge her own path. If you've ever made a significant transition, veering off the beaten path, you know the fear and self-doubt that can creep up. But here's the thing—we all experience it. The key is to find that extra dose of courage and take the leap into the unknown.Get ready to eavesdrop on Valorie and Tia's inspiring coaching conversation. They'll help you uncover some hidden wisdom buried deep within you. Yes, you've already got the answers within you. Sometimes, it just takes a moment of reflection and the right questions to bring your vision to life.Remember, your growth determines how far you'll go on this fantastic journey. So, buckle up and join us as we unravel the secrets of courage and self-discovery. It's time to tap into your true potential and embark on a transformational adventure. Ready to embark on this excellent coaching session? Tune in now and let the journey begin. Who knows what remarkable things await once you summon the courage to take that first step? Let's do this!"I don’t believe in fearlessness. We all feel fear. What we need in the face of our fear is to get the kind of clarity that helps us to be more courageous so that we can keep taking those steps forward towards the vision that we have for ourselves." ~ Valorie BurtonIn This Episode:- Fearlessness doesn’t exist.- What would it look like to be courageous?&nbsp;- What price are you willing to pay to have the thing you want the most?- Security and safety as high values- Putting money away to finance your passion- The if-then planning method&nbsp;- What if your fear becomes a reality?- The distinction between doing something and wanting to do it- What are your next steps?- Using the skills you already have for your next stepsAnd so much more!Coaching Question:- What are your next steps, and when are you going to take them?Connect with Valorie Burton:- Check out all of Valorie's books here- https://valorieburton.com/books/&nbsp;- Website - https://valorieburton.com/&nbsp;- Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/&nbsp;- LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/&nbsp;&nbsp;- Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/&nbsp;&nbsp;- YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton&nbsp;