Co-Parenting or Paralell Parenting With a BPD Ex - Another RollerCoaster
From Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups by A.J. Mahari
February 28, 2026 · 60 min
About this episode
This episode discusses the challenges of co-parenting or parallel parenting with a BPD ex-partner, highlighting the emotional turmoil and strategies for maintaining a child's well-being.
Co-Pareting or Parallel Parenting With a BPD Ex - Another RollerCoaster Co-Parenting or Parallel parenting with a BPD - Borderline Personality Disordered Ex is for so many people, a nightmare. Not all BPD parents are the same, but, many, many of them are untreated,competitive, need their child or children's love and validation in such an unhealthy way that their need for a child or children's "loyalty" "never abandon me" drives so many Borderline Mothers and Borderline fathers to alienate you from you child or children. Co-parenting efforts on the part of your BPD Ex may well be so full of high-conflict and many a parent with BPD cannot put their child's needs ahead of their own. If the BPD Ex still blames you for everything they deem that was "wrong" with the relationship they carry on believing that you shouldn't have any rightsto "their child". For many Co-parenting will end up more being Parallel parenting. Either way you need to have done your healing work to be able to stay calm, to be non-reactive to the BPD Ex and to only communicate facts about what your child needs. Co-parenting, for many, not all, with a BPD Ex just become another somewhat different but very familiar…
People in this episode
Host: A.J. Mahari
Topics covered
- co-parenting
- parallel parenting
- BPD
- high-conflict parenting
- emotional safety
- custody
- visitation
Keywords
- BPD
- co-parenting
- parallel parenting
- high-conflict
- emotional safety
- custody
- visitation
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: BPD
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