131. The Cure for Cranky Turd-ness (Chapter 10) | The 200% Marriage Podcast

About this episode

Meredith and Craig explore the importance of identity in relationships and how to shift from behavior-based to identity-based change.

The Cure for Cranky Turdness: Rewriting Your Identity Are you asking the wrong questions? Most high-performers spend their lives asking, "What should I do?" when the most important question is actually: "Who am I?" In this episode, Meredith and Craig dive into Chapter 10 of The 200% Marriage, exploring the "identity void" that happens when your self-worth is tied to your job title, your paycheck, or your "fancy office." From corporate exits to "Cribbage Board Massacres," we’re sharing why your subconscious stories are the "lenses" coloring every conflict in your marriage. In this episode, we break down: The Truman Show Fallacy: Why there is no such thing as "objective reality" in your relationship (and why fighting over the "facts" is a waste of time). Limiting Beliefs & Stories: How to identify the silent stories - like "I make bad decisions" or "I'm not a runner" - that are sabotaging your growth. The Identity Shift: How to move from behavior-based change to Identity-Based Change (The "Atomic Habits" approach to becoming an elite teammate). The Badass Book: A tactical tool to remind yourself of who you are becoming when your default programming tries to pull you back. Stop…

People in this episode

Hosts: Meredith, Craig

Topics covered

• identity
• self-worth
• marriage conflict
• limiting beliefs
• identity shift
• personal growth

Keywords

• identity void
• self-worth
• Truman Show Fallacy
• limiting beliefs
• identity shift
• Atomic Habits
• personal growth
• marriage conflict

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Amazon.com, Amazon.ca, LinkedIn

Products: The 200% Marriage Book

Books & works: The 200% Marriage

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