Asian Shame, Childhood Trauma, and the Friendships That Heal Us with Sam Louie

About this episode

John and Sam Louie discuss childhood trauma, Asian shame, and the healing power of friendship in a candid conversation.

What happens when two men in their 50s look back at the childhood pain that shaped them and realize friendship can be medicine? John rides in the car with therapist, author, and longtime friend Sam Louie for an honest conversation about Asian shame, childhood trauma, masculinity, and healing. Sam shares what it was like immigrating from Hong Kong, growing up in South Seattle, navigating racism and bullying, and living in survival mode from a young age. Together, John and Sam explore how early pain shaped their nervous systems, relationships, and sense of self. They talk about shame, porn, divorce, therapy, parts work, and the healing power of male friendship. This is a raw conversation about identity, repair, and what it means to be truly seen. Connect with Sam https://linktr.ee/AsianShame More about John: 📘 Pre order my new book, Love Hard On Purpose. Toss the blueprints. Build something honest. https://a.co/d/031PzkW4 📘 Read John’s book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack ⁠HERE⁠ If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on…

People in this episode

Host: John

Guest: Sam Louie

Topics covered

• Asian shame
• childhood trauma
• masculinity
• healing
• male friendship
• identity
• mental health

Keywords

• childhood pain
• racism
• bullying
• therapy
• shame
• male friendship
• healing

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Asian Shame, SubStack

Products: Love Hard On Purpose, Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You, Break Up. On Purpose

Places: Hong Kong, South Seattle

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