Re-release: What to Look for When Choosing to Love Someone
From The Angry Therapist Podcast by The Angry Therapist
May 18, 2026 · 19 min
About this episode
John Kim discusses the essential qualities to consider when choosing someone to love beyond mere attraction.
What should you really look for when choosing someone to love? In this episode, John Kim explores why attraction alone is not enough to build a healthy relationship. He breaks down how instant chemistry can sometimes come from old patterns, why emotional intelligence matters more than intellect, and how self-awareness, consistency, and the ability to create safety are essential in love. John also shares why strong relationships are often built around something bigger than the couple itself, whether that is shared values, purpose, family, creativity, spirituality, or service. This episode is a reminder to look beyond the spark and ask what kind of relationship you are actually building. 🎙️ More about John: 📘 Pre order my new book, Love Hard On Purpose. Toss the blueprints. Build something honest. https://a.co/d/031PzkW4 John’s book publishing company: Soulprint https://www.soulprintmedia.co 📘 Read John’s book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack HERE If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find…
People in this episode
Host: John Kim
Topics covered
- love
- relationships
- emotional intelligence
- self-awareness
- attraction
- chemistry
Keywords
- healthy relationship
- emotional intelligence
- self-awareness
- relationship building
- shared values
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: Soulprint
Products: Love Hard On Purpose, Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You, Break Up. On Purpose
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