Therapy Thursdays | Is This Love, Limerence, or Fear?
From The Angry Therapist Podcast by The Angry Therapist
April 9, 2026 · 22 min
About this episode
John explores the complexities of love, limerence, and fear in relationships while addressing listener questions.
In this episode of Therapy Thursdays, John responds to listener questions about love, trust, identity, and the emotional patterns that keep us stuck. He explores the difference between real love and limerence, why some people struggle to let love in, and how fear can disguise itself as protection, control, or certainty. He also gets into the tension between equality and fairness in relationships, what it means to outgrow an old identity, and how past betrayal, heartbreak, or attachment wounds can shape the way we connect. From red flags and self-worth to trust after infidelity, this episode is a deep dive into the patterns that quietly run our relationships. If you have ever wondered whether what you are feeling is love, fear, fantasy, or unresolved pain, this conversation will help you look deeper. 🎙️ Host Links: 📘 Pre order my new book, Love Hard On Purpose. Toss the blueprints. Build something honest. https://a.co/d/031PzkW4 📘 Read John’s book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack HERE If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Follow John on…
People in this episode
Host: John
Topics covered
- love
- limerence
- fear
- relationships
- identity
- trust
- emotional patterns
Keywords
- love
- limerence
- fear
- relationships
- trust
- identity
- self-worth
- attachment wounds
- red flags
- infidelity
Mentioned in this episode
Books & works: Love Hard On Purpose, Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You, Break Up. On Purpose
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