The Anxiety Recovery Podcast

There’s a conversation happening online about feminine energy… but I think so much of it skips over the nervous system entirely.Because the truth is:you cannot fully relax into your feminine energy when your body still feels unsafe in love.In this episode with Jessica Charuk, we’re talking all about feminine energy, dating, somatic healing, heartbreak, nervous system healing, anxious attachment, and what it actually looks like to date from self-worth instead of survival mode.We dive deep into:✨ why so many women intellectually know their worth but still panic when someone pulls away✨ the connection between feminine energy and nervous system safety✨ why financial/emotional dependence can keep you dating from survival instead of freedom✨ healing the deeper roots underneath anxious attachment patterns✨ the sacred single era and learning how to romanticize your life while single✨ breakups as the catalyst for your biggest glow up✨ how dating becomes the perfect mirror for your healing journey✨ creating emotional safety within yourself instead of outsourcing it to relationships✨ signs you’re moving from anxious attachment into secure feminine embodiment✨ what changes when you truly know: “I’ve got me regardless of what happens.”We also share personal stories about identity shifts, heartbreak, self-trust, and the moments that forced us to realize:“I actually don’t trust myself to survive without a relationship.”This episode is really about becoming the kind of woman who has herself no matter what.The kind of woman who no longer dates from fear of abandonment, but from freedom, self trust, nervous system safety, and deep self worth.If you’ve been trying to embody feminine energy externally while internally feeling anxious, hypervigilant, or emotionally unsafe in relationships, this episode is for you. 💛If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support in May for people who are ready reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Connect with Jess on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/femininecollective_/Connect with Jess on her website: www.jessicacharuk.com

If you’ve been stuck in the spiral of “do I stay or do I leave?”…overthinking every interaction, questioning your intuition, and trying to make the “right” decision from your mind…this episode is for you.Because the truth is — you’re not actually confused.You’re disconnected from your body.In this episode, I sat down with Becky Aste to talk about why decision-making in relationships can feel so hard — especially when you have anxious attachment — and what’s actually happening in your nervous system in those moments.We dive into how overthinking becomes a protective strategy, why awareness alone isn’t enough to shift your patterns, and how attachment activation can completely block access to clarity and intuition.We also get into what it really looks like to move from anxious attachment into secure attachment, not just conceptually, but in real-time, lived experience.This episode will help you understand:why you feel stuck in the “stay or go” loophow anxious attachment impacts your ability to make decisionswhat’s happening in your body when you can’t access clarityhow to start trusting your intuition againwhat it looks like to shift from “I don’t know” to deeply trusting yourselfIf you’ve been trying to think your way into clarity… this will show you why that hasn’t worked — and what to do instead.Your body already knows. This episode will help you learn how to listen.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for the month of May, who are ready reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved. When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we're a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/becky_aste/Connect with Val on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/

If you’ve ever known someone wasn’t right for you…but you still couldn’t let them go…this episode is for you.Because there are certain connections that don’t just live in your mind, they live in your body.The ones you replay.The ones that changed you.The ones that feel almost impossible to release… even when you’ve done the work, you understand your patterns, and you know better.And at some point, you start wondering…Was that a soul tie… or was that my attachment wounds?In this episode, I’m sitting down with Katie Blumenfeld: she’s a psychoanalyst, psychotherapist, and reiki practitioner and we’re really going there.We talk about:why some connections feel so intense, consuming, and honestly… hard to breakhow to tell the difference between real love vs a trauma bond vs what people call a “soul tie”why one person can still have a hold on you… even after therapy, self-awareness, and all the healing workthe grief no one talks about, not just losing them, but losing who you got to be with themthe deeper wound underneath the thought “I’ll never find something like this again”what’s actually happening in your nervous system in these “can’t let go” dynamicsand how to start releasing this, not just in your mind, but in your bodyThis episode is for you if you’ve ever felt stuck on someone who felt… different. deeper. harder to move on from.Because this isn’t just about love.It’s about what your body learned to attach to. If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for the month of April for people who are ready reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved. When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we're a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Connect with Katie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katieblumenfeldlcsw/Check out Katie's Website: https://www.katieblumenfeldlcsw.com/Check out Katie's Substack: https://substack.com/@katieblumenfeldlcsw/p-190017664More info on Katie's signature program: Where the Psyche Meets the Soul: https://www.wherethepsychemeetsthesoul.com/

Most people believe the reason they’re unhappy in their relationship is simple: their partner needs to change.If they communicated better… showed up differently… stopped certain behaviors… then everything would finally feel safe, calm, and fulfilling.But what if that belief is actually part of the cycle that keeps couples stuck?In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, Valerie Rubin sits down with relationship coach and certified hypnotherapist Peter McLaughlin to unpack the blame cycle in relationships and why so many people get trapped waiting for their partner to change in order to finally feel better.Together they explore the deeper subconscious patterns that drive blame, conflict, and repeated disappointment in relationships and why blaming your partner can actually function as a protective response when you're feeling hurt or powerless.Peter shares how unconscious beliefs, nervous system responses, and cultural conditioning shape the way we interpret our partner’s behavior and why shifting out of blame is often the key to creating healthier connection.In this episode, we explore:• why blame feels so automatic when we're hurt• the hidden reason people believe their partner is the source of their pain• why the cycle of hope → disappointment → blame keeps repeating• how media and cultural narratives create unrealistic expectations about love• the difference between expressing a valid need and reacting from blame• how to take emotional responsibility without abandoning yourself• healthier ways to communicate pain without attacking your partner• what shifts when you stop waiting for your partner to changeIf you’ve ever caught yourself thinking “If they would just change, everything would be better…” this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface, and how to start moving toward deeper connection instead of repeating the same painful cycle. Check out Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 January spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we're a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Peter on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepetermclaughlin/Connect with Peter on youtube:https://www.youtube.com/@BlueSkyHypnosisConnect with Peter on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/petertmclaughlin/

So many people understand attachment styles intellectually… yet still find themselves repeating the same painful relationship patterns.Why do you still panic when someone pulls away?Why does your avoidant partner shut down under pressure?Why does the honeymoon phase fade even when nothing “bad” happened?Because attachment isn’t just psychological.It’s biological.In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I sit down with attachment expert Dr. Stan Tatkin to unpack the brain-body science behind anxious and avoidant attachment and why relationships often fail not because of incompatibility, but because of automatic survival programming.Dr. Tatkin explains that attachment strategies are not flaws, they are biological adaptations shaped by early environments.We explore:• Why attachment is a survival strategy, not a personality defect• The difference between “Waves” (anxious/clinging) and “Islands” (avoidant/distancing)• Why even avoidant partners are driven by anxiety, especially fear of engulfment, demands, and losing independence• Why anxious partners feel chronically “not chosen” and how that shows up in the nervous system• How couples unknowingly compel each other into pursue-withdraw cycles• Why attraction can turn into irritation (and why that’s a feature of biology, not failure)• The brain’s “energy conservation” law and how it automates partners into the background after the honeymoon phase• How stress flips couples into “one-person survival mode” instead of “two-person secure mode”• Why so much conflict isn’t personal, it’s neurobiologicalWe also go deep into Dr. Tatkin’s concept of secure functioning, a deliberate social contract between two equals that prioritizes the relationship’s safety above all else.You’ll learn:• What shared power actually looks like in practice• Why secure functioning requires win-win agreements (no one gets to win while the other loses)• How proactive policies and post-mortems reduce recurring conflict• Why the relationship must come first for long-term stabilityAnd one of the most powerful ideas from this episode:When your partner is distressed, they are in an altered state of threat.They cannot self-regulate.In that moment, you are the medicine.We talk about how to give the “opposite of fear” moving toward a Wave who fears abandonment, easing pressure for an Island who fears demands and how co-regulation is the pathway back to safety.If you struggle with anxious attachment, overthinking, feeling unchosen, or being stuck in a pursue–withdraw dynamic… this episode will reframe everything.You are not broken.Your nervous system learned how to survive.And secure, stable, secure-functioning love is absolutely possible, even if you didn’t grow up with secure attachment.Connect with Dr. Stan here: https://www.instagram.com/drstantatkin/Connect with Valerie here: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/

If not knowing what’s coming next makes your chest tighten, your mind race, or your body brace for impact, this episode is for you. For many people, uncertainty isn’t just uncomfortable. It feels dangerous. The moment something is unresolved, open-ended, or unclear, the nervous system goes into survival mode: overthinking, reassurance-seeking, scanning for signs, needing answers now just to feel okay.In this episode, I’m joined by Ray Doktor to explore the fear of uncertainty, not as a mindset issue or lack of resilience, but as a nervous-system response shaped by safety, unpredictability, and past experiences.We talk about why the body often treats uncertainty as a threat, why making any decision (even a painful one) can feel more regulating than waiting, and how living in constant “I’ll be okay once I know” mode slowly exhausts the nervous system.You’ll hear us unpack:Why overthinking, urgency, and reassurance-seeking aren’t flaws, they’re protective strategiesHow fear of uncertainty shows up in relationships through the need for clarity, timelines, and reassuranceWhat’s really happening in the body when you feel stuck in the not-knowingWhy people who grew up in emotionally unpredictable environments often struggle most with uncertaintyHow constant mental vigilance keeps you braced, tense, and exhaustedMost importantly, we explore what actually helps, not by forcing yourself to tolerate uncertainty, but by creating safety inside your body.We talk about why healing fear of uncertainty requires working with the nervous system, how to stay present without freezing or spiraling, what healthy uncertainty feels like in a regulated body, and how to begin trusting yourself even when you don’t have answers yet.If uncertainty has been running the show in your life, and you’re tired of fighting your own mind, this conversation offers a gentler, more grounding way forward.If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 January spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we're a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Purchase Dr. Ray Doktor's book here: https://www.amazon.com/All-Takes-One-Hidden-Belief/dp/B0D1NSDB6LConnect with Dr. Ray Doktor on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drraydoktorcoaching/Connect with Dr. Ray Doktor on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/raydoktor

Why You Overthink, People-Please, and Fear Abandonment Understanding C-PTSD with Dr. Arielle SchwartzIf you have ever replayed conversations in your head, worried you said the wrong thing, people pleased even when it cost you, or felt a deep fear of being abandoned, this episode is for you 🤍In this conversation, we explore why these patterns do not mean you are broken and how they are often rooted in complex trauma or C-PTSD. I am joined by Dr. Arielle Schwartz, a licensed clinical psychologist, certified complex trauma professional, EMDR Consultant, and Kripalu yoga teacher. She is an internationally sought after speaker, a leading voice in trauma recovery, and the author of seven books including The Complex PTSD Workbook, EMDR Therapy and Somatic Psychology, The Post-Traumumatic Growth Guidebook, and Applied Polyvagal Theory in Yoga.Arielle also developed Resilience Informed Therapy, an integrative and trauma informed approach that centers nervous system safety and resilience, helping people heal without feeling pathologized or too much.Together, we unpack why overthinking, people pleasing, and fear of abandonment live in the body and what actually helps when insight alone is not enough.In this episode, we exploreWhy overthinking is so common in relationships and what it is really trying to protectWhy people who fear abandonment can feel calm when alone but anxious or dysregulated in closenessWhether attachment equals survival even in adulthoodWhy reassurance, logic, and positive thinking often do not calm these fearsWhat is usually missing when insight and self help have not been enoughWhere beliefs like I am too needy, too emotional, or too much often come fromWhat begins to change when these patterns are viewed through a nervous system and trauma informed lensHow Resilience Informed Therapy supports healing in a way that feels empowering rather than pathologizingWe covered what is one gentle first step toward building more safety in the bodyOne truth to hold onto the next time activation shows upThis is a grounding and compassionate conversation for anyone who is tired of trying to fix themselves and is ready to understand their patterns with curiosity, safety, and self trust ✨Connect with Dr. Arielle Schwartz here: https://drarielleschwartz.com/If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 January spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we're a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Valerie on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/

In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I’m joined by dating and relationship coach Emily Dini for a deeply honest conversation about why anxious attachment bonds so quickly and how to slow down without shutting your heart or abandoning yourself.If you’ve ever thought“I barely know them, but I already feel attached,”this episode is for you.We explore what’s actually happening beneath the surface when attachment moves fast inside your nervous system, your body, and the younger parts of you that learned long ago that connection had to be secured quickly to survive.We talk about the subtle ways fast attachment shows up over empathizing, avoiding hard conversations, proving and convincing energy, and the vetting mistakes that can quietly make you a magnet for emotionally unavailable, manipulative, or narcissistic partners. Not because something is wrong with you, but because your system learned to prioritize closeness over safety.You’ll hear why slowing down can feel threatening, almost like the connection will disappear if you don’t move fast, and why intensity so often gets mistaken for intimacy when attachment wounds are active.Most importantly, we talk about what pacing attachment actually looks like when you don’t want to shut down, pull away, or play games. How to stay emotionally open while staying connected to yourself and how to tolerate the discomfort of going slower without losing the bond.This is a conversation for the part of you that wants real, secure love but is tired of analyzing your patterns and still ending up in the same emotional loops.If you’ve ever told yourself “I always attach too fast, something must be wrong with me,” I want you to listen closely. There is nothing broken about you. There is a body asking for safety and a heart learning it doesn’t have to rush to be chosen.Slow doesn’t mean disconnected.Boundaries don’t mean closed.And secure love doesn’t require you to abandon yourself to keep it.

In this episode, I sit down with anxious attachment coach Chris Rackliffe for an illuminating conversation about why so many of us with anxious attachment feel drawn to emotionally unavailable partners. We dig into the early wounds and nervous system imprints that shape our adult attraction patterns, how self-abandonment becomes a survival strategy, and what it really takes to break the cycle of choosing inconsistency over security. Chris & I brought both clinical depth and grounded warmth to this discussion, offering practical tools and compassionate insight for anyone ready to rewrite their relational blueprint and move toward partners who can truly show up.We dive deep on:Why We’re Drawn to Emotional Unavailability: unpacking how childhood wounds, early attachment patterns, and nervous system wiring make inconsistency feel like chemistry.Breaking Attraction Cycles: exploring how familiar emotional chaos can hijack your sense of safety and how to interrupt the urge to chase partners who can’t truly show up.The Roots of Anxious Attachment: understanding the pre-verbal imprints that shape self-worth, relational expectations, and what your body reads as “secure.”Self-Abandonment and Emotional Needs: identifying the subtle ways anxious attachers silence themselves, shrink their needs, or over-function to maintain connection.Rewriting Your Internal Blueprint: learning how self-trust, emotional honesty, and nervous system regulation help you choose stability over unpredictability.Co-Regulation as a Path to Healing: exploring how safe people, therapists, and grounded partners can help your system recalibrate and experience true emotional availability.Feeling Safe in Your Own Body: using somatic awareness and regulation tools to differentiate between real red flags and the discomfort of healthy intimacy.Normalizing Uncertainty in Early Dating: recognizing that doubt, activation, and hypervigilance are common for anxious attachers — and learning how to navigate them skillfully.Embracing Secure Connection: replacing old attraction patterns with partners who offer consistency, emotional presence, and genuine availability.If you’re wanting more support on how to break your attraction to emotionally unavailable partners, check out my masterclass - how to break your attraction to emotionally unavailable men here - stan.store/healwithval/p/get-my-templateebookcourse-now-ora8z2guKeywords: anxious attachment, emotional unavailability, relationship healing, self-worth, communication skills, nervous system, vulnerability, co-regulation, emotional safety, inner child healinghttps://www.instagram.com/crackliffe/

When Receiving Feels Unsafe: Healing the Overgiver’s Nervous SystemIn this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, Valerie dives into one of the most misunderstood trauma-responses she sees in anxious attachment:why receiving — support, love, money, care, ease — can feel unsafe, even when you deeply want it.Valerie is joined by Marina Triner, The Compassionate Somatic Coach, for a raw, nervous-system–centered conversation about the overgiver’s dilemma:you’re excellent at caring for others… yet the moment someone tries to care for you, your body tenses, shuts down, or goes into vigilance.Together, they explore:✨ Why receiving triggers danger signals in an overactivated nervous system✨ The early relational patterns that wire in “I’m the giver — that’s how I stay safe”✨ The somatic roots of guilt, shame, and hyper-independence✨ How women learn to feel responsible for everyone else’s emotional world✨ Sneaky ways overgivers sabotage support, love, and abundance✨ Why “being poured into” can feel overwhelming or undeserved✨ The deeper fear beneath the thought: If I let someone give to me, they’ll see how much I need… and they’ll leave.Marina also shares deeply personal stories from her own healing — moments when someone tried to support her and her first instinct was to reject it — and what those reactions revealed about her nervous system.You’ll learn:💛 How to uncouple receiving from threat💛 How to build capacity for support in real time — in the body, not the mindset💛 How to step into feminine receptivity without feeling weak, needy, or dependent💛 What it actually looks like to retrain your body to tolerate — and eventually welcome — love, money, help, and careIf you’ve ever said:“I’m so good at giving… but receiving makes me anxious,”this episode will feel like coming home to yourself.Connect with Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Connect with Marina on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/marina.y.t/Listen to Marina's Podcast "Deep Within Podcast" here: https://marinayt.com/podcast

The holidays are marketed as “the happiest time of the year”… but for so many people, they’re the most emotionally overwhelming.In this episode, I’m joined by Danielle Zilg, MFT-in-training and host of The Feeling & Healing Podcast, for a deep, compassionate conversation about navigating anxiety, depression, grief, and family triggers during the holiday season.Together, we explore:✨ Why the holidays often activate dread instead of joy—and what your nervous system is actually responding to.✨ How family gatherings trigger old attachment wounds, emotional regression, and childhood roles you thought you’d outgrown.✨ A moment in Danielle’s life when her own holiday anxiety hit a breaking point—and what it revealed about what she truly needed.✨ Real stories of people shifting from shutdown or panic to grounded safety with somatic tools.✨ How to navigate dysfunctional parents, toxic family patterns, and resurfacing shame during holiday events.✨ What to do if you’re walking into a gathering already activated (step-by-step somatic support you can use immediately).✨ How to cope with the pain of seeing happy couples when you’re healing from a recent breakup or abusive relationship.✨ What Danielle wants anyone struggling with anxiety, depression, or grief this holiday season to know—and the message she wishes she heard years ago.This is a gentle, validating, nervous-system–informed episode for anyone who feels heavy, triggered, or emotionally exhausted this time of year.If the holidays don’t feel merry to you… you’re not alone, and there’s nothing wrong with you.Connect with Danielle on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/danielle.z.mft/Check out Danielle's Website here: https://www.daniellezmft.com/Check out last week's episode I recorded with Danielle: The Hidden Roots Of Anxious Attachment: Adoption, Preverbal Wounds, & Somatic Healing: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3z0WfkQAeTgTjoI45R36X9?si=5OFn6DrlRHqQQr7K3Js5DAConnect with Valerie on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Do you want to break your attraction to emotionally unavailable partners and change your dating life forever?! Then my free masterclass - Break Your Attraction to Emotionally Unavailable Partners will be perfect for you! Here's the link to tune into it:stan.store/healwithval/p/get-my-templateebookcourse-now-ora8z2gu

In this week's episode, Valerie sits down with the incredible Dr. David Grand — the creator of Brainspotting — to talk about something that’s changed both my life and my clients’ lives: healing anxiety and attachment patterns through the body using brainspotting.If you’ve ever felt like, “I understand my trauma, but nothing changes,” this conversation will show you why your brain and body might just need a different doorway to healing. We’re going deep into how Brainspotting helps release what talk therapy can’t and how it can truly rewire the anxious brain.In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why insight alone doesn’t calm the nervous system — and what actually does ✨ Why emotional safety sometimes feels boring or foreign for people who grew up in chaos — and how Brainspotting begins to rewire that ✨ Whether Brainspotting alone is enough, or if pairing it with inner child healing is key to healing anxious attachment ✨ For the person who’s tried everything — therapy, journaling, affirmations — and still feels broken or ashamed, what the true missing link to transformation is ✨ Why we often judge ourselves for being triggered, instead of realizing the body is simply trying to finish an old story ✨ What to expect when starting Brainspotting — including the sensations, emotions, and shifts that can unfold afterwardIf you’ve been searching for a deeper, faster way to heal your anxiety, attachment wounds, or trauma — one that goes beyond mindset work and reaches the body itself — this conversation will change how you see healing forever.Learn more about Dr. David Grand here: https://brainspotting.com/about-brainspotting/david-grand-phd/Connect with Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/?hl=en

Welcome back to The Anxiety Recovery Podcast 💫This week, we’re diving into a topic that even the most “healed” and high-achieving among us still struggle with — self-doubt.That quiet but powerful voice that whispers, “Who am I to do this?”That moment before you take a leap where your chest tightens, your heart races, and your mind floods with every reason you might fail.And even after all the therapy, healing, and inner-child work — self-doubt can still find its way in.Joining me is Raquel DaRowe, an incredible Rapid Transformational Therapist (RTT) and subconscious-mind expert who helps people break free from the limiting beliefs that keep them stuck in fear and self-sabotage. Raquel blends deep subconscious reprogramming with emotional healing to help clients quiet the inner critic and rebuild unshakable self-trust.In this episode, we explore:✨ Where self-doubt really comes from (hint: it’s not laziness or lack of confidence)✨ Why we often fear our own potential more than failure✨ The difference between anxiety and fear — and how to tell which one is driving you✨ How to move from “I’m not enough” to embodied self-trustAnd we get real about questions like:💭 What did self-doubt used to sound like in your head?💭 Why does self-doubt hit hardest after we start to step into something bigger — instead of before?💭 What’s the difference between anxiety and fear?💭 Can you remember a moment when self-doubt almost won — when that inner voice told you you weren’t enough, but you chose to move anyway?💭 What do you wish people understood about how exhausting it is to constantly feel like you’re not “ready” or “qualified”?💭 What helped you start believing in yourself when your mind had no evidence yet — when you had to borrow faith before results?💭 How can someone begin to build self-trust again if they’ve broken it with themselves over and over?💭 And if you could whisper one sentence to every listener trapped in self-doubt right now — what would you want them to hear?If you’ve ever achieved something big but still felt like it wasn’t enough, this episode will help you understand why — and how to rewrite that story from the inside out.Tune in, take a deep breath, and let’s explore the psychology of self-doubt together. 💛Connect with Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Connect with Raquel on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inner.sanctuary.guide/Check out Raquel's website: https://raqueldarowe.com/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaffmTL-k31cloODMhqW_eQF0oS2MdvQ7RKvvObdrLfHDSMdoC01bZCSCkb-zw_aem_lbqVR-fZX-c_C6SUXFm68w