The Confidence Chronicles

You're an artist. And artists don't look to the sidelines before they create. They don't check what everyone else is doing. They don't scroll for validation. They don't ask permission. They go inward. They tap into themselves. And they create from that place. In this episode, I break down why the algorithm isn't the answer. You are. If you've been feeling stressed, foggy, or like you're falling behind because you're not keeping up with every trend, strategy, or platform shift, this episode will bring you back home to yourself. Inside this episode: • Why consuming too much content is making you stressed and foggy • The dangerous trap of looking to other people for your answers • Why your sauce is forever and it's never out of style to be you • What happens when you try to bake a cake with 17 different recipes • Why scrolling when you're at a low point is the worst thing you can do • The comparison trap and fear mongering happening online right now • My meditation practices: driving, gym, and breath work • How to ask yourself the hard questions about your life • Why discernment is everything when you're building your brand If you don't know who you are, how can anyone else? Stop looking outward. Come back to you. You're a fucking artist. Chapters 00:00:00 The Algorithm Is You 00:00:48 You're an Artist: Stop Looking to the Sidelines 00:03:02 The Dangerous Trap of Consuming Too Much Content 00:03:32 Social Media Is Making You Stressed and Foggy 00:03:56 Your Sauce Is Forever: It's Never Out of Style to Be You 00:04:56 Stop Scrolling When You're at a Low Point 00:05:47 Good Luck Baking a Cake with 17 Recipes 00:06:36 My First Quarter Depression: The Excruciating Slowdown 00:07:19 I Don't Consume Content and Here's Why 00:07:47 Now You're More Relatable: Understanding Your Clients 00:08:08 Get Off Your Phone: The Message to My Clients 00:08:34 Don't Go to the Bar If You're Trying to Quit Drinking 00:09:03 The Fear Mongering and Comparison Trap 00:09:27 You're a Fucking Artist: Come Back to You 00:09:39 My Meditation Practices: Driving, Gym, and Breath Work 00:10:07 Find What Works for You: Journaling, Walking, or Sitting 00:10:17 You Know the Answer: Stop Saying I Don't Know 00:12:39 Ask Yourself the Hard Questions About Your Life 00:13:33 Discernment: Know Who You Are and What You Want 00:13:55 Bad Bunny Didn't Check What Other Artists Were Doing 00:14:26 Have a Coffee Date with Yourself: The Practice 00:15:04 Voice Notes and Journaling: Find Your Expression Method 👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022 → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI → All platforms: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/ 📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS → Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025) → Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020) Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audio book app 🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK → For keynotes, corporate events, and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/ 📲 FOLLOW ERIKA → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en → LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/ → Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/ → TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence 🙏🏽 ENJOYED THIS EPISODE? Please subscribe so you never miss one. It takes 30 seconds and it means everything to us!

Authenticity is trending. Everyone is talking about it. Everyone is selling it. Everyone is suddenly “real.” And yet… most personal brands still feel fake. In this powerful, no-filter conversation with Jill Stanton, we unpack the uncomfortable truth about authenticity in business today. If you’re using authenticity as a strategy, you’ve already missed it. In this episode, we break down: • Why “authenticity” as a marketing tactic is backwards • The difference between being authentic and performing authenticity • How people-pleasing is emotional manipulation • Why many entrepreneurs are still hiding behind polished personas • The identity work required to truly stand in your power • Fear of success, shadow work, and why it’s rarely about success • Why sovereignty is more magnetic than strategy • How to stop outsourcing your voice and direction • The performative era online, and why it’s collapsing This is not about oversharing your trauma. It’s not about telling the internet your secrets. It’s not about being controversial for attention. It’s about freedom. Real freedom. The kind that happens when you stop managing how people perceive you and start leading yourself from alignment. If you’ve felt exhausted by the noise online… If you’ve questioned who to trust… If you’ve wondered whether you’re blending in without realizing it… This conversation will challenge you in the best way. Authenticity is not a trend. It’s an identity shift. And identity work is the real game. Chapters 00:01:57 From Web TV to Online Empire: Jill's Origin Story 00:05:47 The Bold Move: Closing a Profitable Business 00:11:10 Personal Power Over Strategy: The Missing Piece 00:14:22 The Authenticity Trap: Why Performative Energy Fails 00:15:56 Becoming Uncancellable: Standing in Your Power 00:27:11 Finding Your Values: The Foundation of Authenticity 00:37:34 The River of Misery: Forging Your Next Level Identity 00:52:36 The Smart Enough Wound: Jill's Identity Breakthrough 00:59:28 Shadow Work and Healing: The Uncomfortable Path 01:08:12 From Teaching to Coaching: Jill's Next Evolution 🎧 Connect with Jill Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/iamjillstanton 👑 WORK WITH ME ♟️ The Queen’s Table High-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy. https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/ 👑 The Next Level For women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income. https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/ 📚 MY BOOKS Becoming Magnetic — Chapter 7 is all about creating your Alter Shego Confidence Feels Like Sh*t https://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com 📲 CONNECT WITH ME Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen/ LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/

Wow mi gente, I can’t even 😭 I had to share this with you in the moment because damn it was massive. This is a moment we will never ever forget. Benito Gracias, por TODO! If you are Rican and living down under hit me up! Watch my episode with Yadi on being Puerto Rican Down under here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Z3D36sK4fI&t=5542s Chapters 00:00:58 The Benito Bowl Halftime Show Reaction 00:02:19 Living Without Your Culture: 16 Years in Australia 00:03:30 Bad Bunny's Global Impact on Culture and Connection 00:04:53 From Kidnapped at Seven to Celebrating Puerto Rican Pride 00:05:13 The Power of Self-Belief: Bad Bunny's Message 00:05:43 Don't Stop Believing in Yourself 00:07:37 Uniting People Through Music and Love 00:08:01 Bad Bunny Is Coming to Australia 00:09:51 It's More Than Music: A Cultural Celebration 00:10:33 Thank You Benito: Final Thoughts and Gratitude

If you’re doing all the “right things” Showing up. Posting. Being consistent. Trying to be professional… But still feel invisible, overlooked, or like you’re blending in, This episode is for you. In today’s conversation, I’m breaking down how caring what people think quietly destroys your authority, weakens your personal brand, and keeps you stuck editing yourself instead of leading. This isn’t about being loud, controversial, or reckless. It’s about clarity, embodiment, and owning your voice without apology. In this episode, we cover: Why people-pleasing kills authority faster than inconsistency How “being liked” keeps you invisible, not respected The subtle ways you’re diluting your message to stay safe Why neutral brands are forgettable brands How confidence and trust are felt, not forced What shifts when you stop managing perception and start owning your perspective If you’ve ever thought: “I don’t want to upset anyone” “What if people judge me?” “I should probably tone this down…” This episode will challenge you in the best way. You cannot build a powerful personal brand while prioritising approval. Authority is built by standing somewhere, not blending in everywhere. 👑 WANT MORE OF THIS? I’m considering running a live personal brand workshop where I teach my full method for building authority, visibility, and a brand people actually remember. If that’s something you’d want: 👉🏽 Send me a DM on Instagram or 👉🏽 Leave a comment on Spotify and tell me “I’m in.” Your responses will decide if I run it. Chapters 00:00:00 Caring What People Think Is Ruining Your Brand 00:04:25 The Green Bush Analogy: Why Criticism Hurts 00:07:05 The Truth About Putting Yourself Out There 00:08:43 When Someone Triggers You: The Gift in Disguise 00:11:15 The Power of FWOT: Living Unapologetically 00:12:00 Building Thick Skin: Your Invitation to Practice 00:13:17 Becoming Untouchable: The Mission Over Opinions 00:16:21 The Celebrity Mindset: Look Forward to the Critics 00:17:57 Personal Branding Masterclass 00:19:13 Your Mission on This Planet 📲 LET’S CONNECT If this episode hit, take a screenshot, share it to your Instagram Stories and tag me @thequeenofconfidence https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence Or, if you’re listening on Spotify, drop a comment: What’s one way you’ve been holding back because of other people’s opinions? Because the moment you stop performing for approval… Your brand starts working for you.

If you’re ready for a massive identity shift, this episode is for you. Because you don’t become your future self by “trying harder”, you become her by deciding who she is, then moving like her until your life catches up. In this episode, I’m teaching you the method that changed my identity, changed my life, and created “The Queen of Confidence” version of me. It’s called the Alter-SHE-go Method. The practice that helped me go from a shy, traumatised, playing-small version of me, to building the Queen identity and everything that came with it. We talk about: Why identity comes before results, every time The biggest trap people fall into, “when I have it, then I’ll be it” The real shift, Be, Do, Have Why this is not fake, and what to do if you feel cringe trying it The science behind it, enclothed cognition, and why what you wear changes how you perform How I used Alter Shigo energy to do scary things, including stepping onto big stages The questions to build your future self, her values, standards, boundaries, style, beliefs, and energy The real challenge, taking action as her, not just journaling about her This is your reminder that the future version of you is not coming to save you, she’s waiting for you to meet her. Mentioned in this episode Watch Beyoncé talking about Sasha Fierce (Alter Ego energy): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BtTlFW9_sTI Chapters 00:00:00 Welcome to the Alter Shego Experience 00:00:30 The Origin Story 00:01:45 Main Character Energy and Becoming Magnetic Preview 00:02:59 The Confession: From Hot Mess to Queen of Confidence 00:06:36 Why Confidence Matters 00:08:39 The Five Steps to Becoming Magnetic Framework 00:09:24 Beyoncé and Sasha Fierce: The Alter Shego Method 00:10:18 Flipping the Script 00:13:42 Forget Fake It Till You Make It: Just Make It 00:16:25 The TEDx Story: Alter Shego in Action 00:20:00 The Science Behind Dressing the Part 00:21:16 Let's Create YOUR Alter Shego 00:24:20 Don't Confuse Your Future Self With Your Present Self 00:26:09 The Challenge: Share and Embody Your Alter Shego 00:28:49 The Final Question ▶️ WATCH THE PODCAST ON YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/thequeenofconfidence Connect with me If this episode hits, DM me on Instagram and tell me who your Alter She-go is. Instagram: @thequeenofconfidence https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/ And if you’re listening on Spotify, leave a comment and tell me your biggest takeaway, I read them. 👑 WORK WITH ME The Queen's Table High-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy. https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/ The Next Level For women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income. https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/

Don’t Set Goals for 2026 Until You Do This If 2025 stretched you, challenged you, or changed you, this episode is your reset. Before you start planning 2026, download our annual Goals & Intentions Workbook and follow this process with us. 👉🏽 Grab it free here: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/2026-goals-and-intentions/ This is the exact year-end ritual we’ve used since 2010 to close one chapter properly, decide what stays, release what you’re done with, and intentionally design the year ahead. In this episode, Hamish and I share how we: Reflect honestly on the year that was Choose a word of the year that actually guides our actions Identify patterns, lessons, and non-negotiables Map the year ahead with intention instead of pressure Chapters 00:00:00 Our Most Successful Year Ever 00:05:32 The Word of the Year 00:16:14 The Best of 2025 00:23:18 The Hard Truth: What Didn't Work This Year 00:43:34 The Unsexy Truth: Support Systems That Changed Everything 00:47:24 2026 Word of the Year 00:52:23 The Year of S: Systems, Stabilization, and Support 00:55:19 Setting Boundaries: Your Non-Negotiables for 2026 01:02:12 The Goals and Intentions Process: Making It Real 01:00:00 Your Boldest Dreams: The Bucket List Questions 01:04:53 Final Call: Download the Workbook and Do the Work 🎧 After listening: Come tell me what landed for you (comment if you’re listening on spotify!) OR 📸 Send me a DM on Instagram and let me know how you enjoyed this episode: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence If you’re ready for deeper support: ✨ The Next Level https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/ ✨ The Queen’s Table https://thequeenofconfidence.com/queens-table/ 📚 My books: Confidence Feels Like Sh*t & Becoming Magnetic Available on Amazon If this episode helped you, share it with someone who needs a reset before stepping into 2026.

This is hands down one of the most powerful exercises I have ever done, and I am not exaggerating when I say it changed my life. In this week’s episode, I’m sharing a video that is inside of my Next level program. This is an exercise where I walk my clients through the exact future self exercise that helped me move through fear, apply for my TEDx, and actually do the thing I kept telling myself I wasn’t capable of. Not someday. Not years later. Immediately. This is not mindset fluff. This is a psychotherapy-based visualisation and embodiment exercise that allows you to access the version of you who has already done the thing you’re scared of. Inside this episode, you’ll experience: • Why your future self already lives inside you • How fear and desire can exist at the same time • The exact exercise I was guided through before my TEDx • How to receive clarity and guidance from future you • What action to take today to meet her sooner By the end of this sneak peek episode, you won’t just be thinking about your future self, you will have met her, heard her, and received direction from her. Do this exercise properly. Suspend disbelief. Let it be powerful. If you do it, DM me on Instagram @thequeenofconfidence and tell me what came through for you. Chapters 00:00:00 The TEDx Manifestation Story 00:01:16 Why This Exercise Will Change Your Life 00:02:02 From Fear to TEDx Stage: The Breakthrough Moment 00:03:15 Your Future Self Already Knows the Way 00:03:55 Meeting Your Future Self: The Exercise Begins 00:04:58 Step One: Define Your Big Scary Goal 00:05:36 Step Two: Your Present Self's Honest Truth 00:06:25 Step Three: The Shift - Becoming Future You 00:07:17 Step Four: Speaking as Your Future Self 00:08:47 Step Five: Returning with Guidance and Taking Action And if you are ready to Next level every area of your business, confidence and life, join me inside the Next level here:https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/ PLUS: I am sharing an early look at our annual Goals & Intentions Workbook, our most popular resource we share all year - you can grab it here: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/2026-goals-and-intentions/

You can’t lead powerfully if you are secretly at war with yourself. In this episode, I am unpacking what I have been seeing inside rooms full of incredible female leaders at organisations around the globe, and why so many of us are still holding ourselves back from the roles, recognition and rewards we say we want. We talk about: • Why women are five times less likely to self promote than men • How imposter syndrome shows up for women in leadership • The difference between blaming “the system” and taking radical responsibility • Showing up, standing up and speaking up, even when it feels uncomfortable • Why confidence is really about self trust, and how you build it in real life By the end of this episode, you will be brutally clear on where you are shrinking, where you are fighting yourself, and what needs to change if you truly want to step into leadership and be seen. ❤️ If this landed, share it with a woman in leadership who needs the reminder, and come tell me your biggest takeaway on Instagram @thequeenofconfidence https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence