Elevenerife

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Julia explores the quiet competition in everyday conversations and the psychology behind it.

In this episode Julia explores the quiet competition that sometimes creeps into everyday conversations. You mention you’re tired… someone else is exhausted. You’ve had a busy week… they haven’t stopped all month. Welcome to Elevenerife . In this episode, Julia looks at the subtle one-upmanship that can turn ordinary conversations into contests, and the psychology behind why we do it. Because most of the time, people aren’t asking for a bigger story. They’re asking to be heard. Here are the highlights of this episode: (1.50) The moment when ordinary conversation becomes a competition (3.45) The need to be seen (4.41) Comparison is deeply human (5.31) Making sure our experience still matters Connect with Julia: Website LinkedIn Instagram ABOUT THE PODCAST The Dynamics of Everyday Life explores the psychological patterns shaping how we think, work and relate to others; bringing psychodynamic thinking into coaching, leadership and everyday life. If you're a coach interested in learning more about psychodynamic approaches to coaching, you can explore Julia's training programmes on her website. FOLLOW THE PODCAST If you're enjoying The Dynamics of Everyday Life, follow the podcast on…

People in this episode

Host: Julia Rogers

Topics covered

• competition in conversation
• psychology of communication
• one-upmanship
• human comparison
• being heard

Keywords

• conversation
• competition
• psychology
• one-upmanship
• communication
• comparison
• self-improvement

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