How Do We Heal The Gender Divide?

About this episode

The episode discusses the impact of societal gender expectations on emotional connection and introduces tools for healing the gender divide.

In our last two episodes, we spoke with Dr. Carol Gilligan and Dr. Niobe Way , whose forty years of research show how society’s gender expectations of being “good girls” and “strong boys” are creating a crisis of connection that’s costing all of us. So what do we do when we recognize so many of us are trapped by society’s gender expectations that were never ours to begin with? [0:02] Evie and Chelle open the episode and share the gender expectations they’re shaking off. [1:34] Chelle recaps Dr. Carol Gilligan and Dr. Niobe Way’s research on how “good girl” and “strong boy” expectations create a crisis of connection. [4:06] Chelle explains how boys’ emotional intelligence shifts between ages 4–7, while girls begin losing their voices around age 11. [7:52] Chelle and Evie reflect on how these patterns fuel loneliness and emotional disconnection. [10:09] Chelle introduces Tool #1: Stay With Me , a grounding practice to stay connected to your wiser self. [15:36] Evie shares Tool #2: Spot the Cage , showing how to recognize and step out of “us vs. them” thinking. [22:30] Chelle introduces Tool #3: The Consequence Continuum , explaining how to balance compassion with accountability…

People in this episode

Hosts: Dr. Michelle McQuaid, Evie Wright

Guests: Dr. Carol Gilligan, Dr. Niobe Way

Topics covered

• gender expectations
• emotional intelligence
• connection crisis
• loneliness
• self-awareness
• compassion

Keywords

• gender divide
• emotional intelligence
• good girls
• strong boys
• connection
• loneliness
• self-awareness

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