The Life Edit with Ranela

We will only stop playing games to gain attention, validation or control in dating, when we accept that we are worthy of love that doesn't have to be "won". Here's where you can start :)After you listen, let me know your thoughts in the comments!Resources on Attachment Styles⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"How We Love" By Milan & Kay Yerkovich⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

As I complete another circuit around our fiery sun, I wanted to share some of the most high impact lessons I've learned in the past 35 years of my life. These are lessons that have literally re-shaped my nervous system, brain chemistry and values, to make me into the woman I am today. Happy birthday to me and THANK YOU for being part of this epic journey of life! :) Resources on Attachment Styles⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"How We Love" By Milan & Kay Yerkovich⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

Welcome to Women's Empowerment month! We're talking about the #1 skill that every human being should've been taught by the time they were 8 years old... but literally none of us were ;) that's Nervous System Regulation. Big terms, but the most simple ideas and practices. If you're going to work on anything in life, let it be regulating the flood of chemicals that seem to wash over us as women daily, due to our fluctuating hormones and cycles. We have so much power and potential, but if we continuously outsource our nervous system regulation, we will never fully feel in control, proud of ourselves, or confident in our decisions. It's a short episode, but one that will let you start practicing being the Manager of your mind and emotions right away. Resources on Attachment Styles⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"How We Love" By Milan & Kay Yerkovich⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

Oh, Episode 11. In numerology "11" symbolizes high-level intuition, spiritual illumination, and enlightenment ;) If you fall in love too quickly, this episode is going to be the enlightenment you need to see a better path. It's fun to be a lover girl or boy until you realize you're the one being left exhausted, jaded, and heartbroken (almost every time!). There's a smarter, less exhausting way to date. And in the meantime, you'll be finding a love within YOURSELF, that will carry you through for lifetimes of love to come. Resources on Attachment Styles⁠⁠⁠"Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"How We Love" By Milan & Kay Yerkovich⁠⁠⁠Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

Happy love month! In today's episode, I reflect on how my mentality in relationships and dating has shifted after 4 serious relationships and lessons I've learned as I've grown out of anxious attachment. If you still struggle with feeling that relationships are unsafe and dangerous, this one's for you :)Resources on Attachment Styles"Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller"How We Love" By Milan & Kay YerkovichFollow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

In this episode, I share some of my own past dating patterns that kept me in codependency, enmeshment and nervous system dysregulation during early dating. You'll uncover valuable tools for staying calm and grounded, choosing yourself and not putting people on a pedestal too soon. Stick around if you're the type to double-text or constantly check your phone for the next text ;) *Limited 60min January Coaching spots are now open and available! Get Whatsapp access to me for voice memo and text coaching throughout the month of January. Go to this link to sign up:Sign up for coaching here: https://calendly.com/ranela/50-min-breakthrough-sessionFollow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

This episode is an introduction to self-trust and the concept of "choosing yourself" as a way to reduce anxiety and fear of rejection. Ranela shares a poem/essay she wrote on why choosing yourself could be the hardest but best decision you ever make.Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/Stay tuned for coaching, courses, and more ways to work together!About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.