The Living Truth Podcast - Freedom From Unwanted Sexual Behavior, Hope & Healing For the Betrayed

We are inundated with negative, objectifying messaging about our bodies in the church and by our culture. As a result, most of us live disconnected from our bodies. When we struggle with pornography, sex addiction, or experience sexual betrayal , many of us experience even more disconnection from our physical bodies and maybe even a load of shame about this vital part of who we are. Dr. Dave Janvier is a licensed therapist, certified sex therapist, and spiritual director who works at the intersection of faith, neuroscience, psychology, and spiritual formation. What he brings to this episode may reframe almost everything you have been taught about your body, desire, and what God actually intended sexuality to be. Kristin and Dr. Dave explore: What it means to be embodied — and why most of us, men and women both, are profoundly disconnected from our bodies How the church's legacy of body-shame and flesh-as-sinful thinking has deepened the very wounds it was trying to prevent The healing power of the ancient Hebraic understanding of a unified, integrated self Why sex addiction is, at its root, an intimacy disorder — and why acting out doesn't mean someone is too into their body; it means they're not embodied enough How betrayal trauma fragments the nervous system in specific, predictable ways — and what integration actually requires What scripture reveals about what God's design for sexuality and why sexuality and spirituality cannot be separated A live grounding practice you can use today, in your body, right now Your body is not the enemy. It never was. And the path back to wholeness is more integrated, spiritual, and grounded in hope than you may have been told. Learn more about our programs: https://living-truth.org The Living Truth Podcast: Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal. #LivingTruthPodcast #ChristianRecovery #FaithAndHealing #AddictionRecovery #MenInTheBattle #WomenInTheBattle #LivingTruth 📖 Learn more about our programs: https://living-truth.org Connect with Dr. Dave Janvier :https://www.siimdasoulcare.com/ https://siimdasoulcarecourses.thinkific.com/ https://drdavejanvier.substack.com/

You want him close. Then you can't stand to have him near you. You want to fix it. You reach for her — and she disappears. Same day. Sometimes the same hour. That's not confusion or immaturity. It's two nervous systems trying to find safety in a marriage that no longer feels safe — and it's one of the most common, least talked-about dynamics after sexual betrayal. Betrayal doesn't just wound the relationship. It activates attachment patterns and self-protection that trace back long before the marriage began — in both of you. In this episode, we share our personal experience and professional insight into: Why a betrayed partner can want closeness one moment and need distance the next — and why that isn't inconsistency, it's a nervous system doing exactly what nervous systems do What happens inside the betrayer when his spouse pulls away — and why the instinct to push harder or shut down entirely can make things worse How childhood wounds and old self-protective patterns shape both partners' reactions to conflict and distance The difference between coming to your spouse with a genuine, vulnerable need and coming with a demand — and how to tell which one you're doing Why forcing closeness after betrayal can make a betrayed partner feel less safe, not more This conversation is for both of you — the betrayed partner still learning the language of her own attachment, and the betraying partner working to understand what his self-protection is trying to do and why it keeps getting in the way. Learn more about our programs: https://living-truth.org The Living Truth Podcast: Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal. #LivingTruthPodcast #ChristianRecovery #FaithAndHealing #AddictionRecovery #MenInTheBattle #WomenInTheBattle #LivingTruth

Betrayal shatters your world. It leaves you wondering which way is up, how to survive the devastation, and whether you’ll ever feel whole again. Kristin interviews trauma-informed counselor, coach, and author Tammy Gustafson to talk about her new book, Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing After Intimate Betrayal (releasing January 27, 2026). Tammy shares her four-phase framework for healing after intimate betrayal— Reveal, Reorient, Realign, and Rebuild She offers hope for women at every stage of the journey. Drawing from her own story, her years as a counselor, and her research with over 1,700 betrayed partners, Tammy brings compassion, validation, and practical guidance for anyone walking this painful road. You’ll hear: Why betrayal trauma impacts your body as much as your heart The importance of boundaries, grief, and anger in the healing process Common stuck points that slow recovery A vision for post-traumatic growth and a life of beauty and joy beyond betrayal ✨ Don’t miss the FREE Betrayal Healing Conference hosted by Tammy at the end of January each year. Kristin will be one of the speakers, and this is your chance to learn from leading voices in the betrayal trauma field. 📖 Learn more about Tammy and her book: https://livefreecounseling.com/ 📖 Learn more about our programs: https://living-truth.org The Living Truth Podcast; Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal. #LivingTruthPodcast #ChristianRecovery #FaithAndHealing #AddictionRecovery #MenInTheBattle #WomenInTheBattle #LivingTruth #BetrayalTrauma #HealingAfterBetrayal #TraumaRecovery #NervousSystemHealing #ChristianHealing #BrokenToBrave

What does true sobriety look like for those battling sex and pornography addiction—and how does recovery move beyond the addict to bring healing to their partners? In this episode, Michael sits down with Tim Stein, co-author of Finding the Way Through: A Workbook for Sex and Pornography Addiction to explore a new framework for recovery. Together, they unpack the workbook’s definition of sobriety, the critical shift from addict thinking to recovery thinking, and the importance of “partner betrayal sensitivity.” With practical tools, raw honesty, and hope for transformation, this conversation equips both addicts and their loved ones with a roadmap for lasting change. Order Finding the Way Through: A Workbook for Sex and Pornography Addiction - Sobriety, Recovery, & Partner Betrayal Sensitivity: https://a.co/d/1uaAb0F 📖 Learn more about our programs: https://living-truth.org The Living Truth Podcast; Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal. #LivingTruthPodcast #ChristianRecovery #FaithAndHealing #AddictionRecovery #MenInTheBattle #WomenInTheBattle #LivingTruth

The holidays can stir up overwhelming waves of grief and confusion. The music, the smells, the traditions — they bring back joyful memories and painful reminders of betrayal, leaving many women asking: “What was ever real?” Learn how to recognize the power and purpose of your anger, the “bargaining” stage of grief, and create safe space to process painful memories. Know that your grief isn’t a setback — it’s a sign of deeper healing. Grief Questions Kristin mentions in this episode: Set a reasonable goal to regularly process your grief (for example, 10 minutes a day, 5 days a week). Journal out your responses to one question each day, Close your grief processing time with a gratitude list. Pay attention to ways that you see and experience gifts and beauty and enjoy them for a moment. What do I miss? What am I angry about? What am I learning? What do I need now? 📖 Learn more about our programs: https://living-truth.org The Living Truth Podcast; Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal. #LivingTruthPodcast #ChristianRecovery #FaithAndHealing #AddictionRecovery #BetrayalRecovery #HolidaysHurt

In this episode of the Living Truth Podcast, Kristin sits down with Michael to unpack the Men in the Battle (MIB) Battle Plan — a practical framework for men pursuing lasting freedom from unwanted sexual behavior. They explore why relationships are the backbone of recovery, how marriage and spiritual connection anchor lasting change, and the role of education, journaling, and mentoring in shaping a man’s heart. Michael also shares why self-care isn’t optional and how simple daily practices can make the difference between relapse and resilience. Whether you’re on your own recovery journey, walking with someone who is, or simply want to understand how men can experience real transformation, this conversation will give you hope, direction, and practical steps to begin your own Battle Plan. Get your PDF copy of the MIB Battle Plan here: https://living-truth.kit.com/battleplan 📖 Learn more about our programs: https://living-truth.org The Living Truth Podcast; Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal. #LivingTruthPodcast #ChristianRecovery #FaithAndHealing #AddictionRecovery #BattlePlan

What does it really mean to be a “healthy sinner?” In this eye-opening interview, counselor and author Leslie Vernick helps us unpack the difference between normal struggles and destructive patterns of abuse. Through powerful stories—including a surprising moment in a dressing room and her unforgettable “termites in the basement” analogy—Leslie gives us a fresh perspective on what health and unhealth look like in relationships. We explore how to recognize abuse, when it’s time to seek help or get out, and what it looks like to pursue emotional, spiritual, and relational wholeness as a follower of Christ. This episode is a lifeline for anyone who feels stuck in an unhealthy relationship and wants clarity, courage, and hope. You can find more of Leslie's resources at https://leslievernick.com. 📖 Learn more about our programs: https://living-truth.org The Living Truth Podcast; Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal. #LivingTruthPodcast #ChristianRecovery #FaithAndHealing #AddictionRecovery #MenInTheBattle #WomenInTheBattle #LivingTruth #HealthySinners