#34: Stop Faking It: Attachment, Trauma & Female Pleasure in Relationships with Lizandra from New Frame Therapy

About this episode

This episode discusses the impact of attachment styles and trauma on female pleasure and relationships, featuring insights from Lizandra of New Frame Therapy.

Have you ever felt like you lose yourself in relationships? Where you become so focused on being everything and being the "good girlfriend/wife/partner" that you stop doing the things YOU want to do? And then in sex you have no idea what it is YOU like because you've been so focused on pleasing your partner? Are you definitely a chronic people-pleaser and know you need to break out of it? Babe, this episode was meant for you! I sat down with friend and colleague Lizandra, from New Frame Therapy to talk about topics close to our hearts: The connection between your attachment style, trauma, and how it impacts your love life and sexual happiness. We covered: Understanding the Attachment-Sex connection: Your attachment style doesn't just affect your relationships-- it fundamentally shapes your sexual experiences. How anxious attachment manifests as disconnection from your body and desires. Why most heterosexual couples follow restrictive "socio-sexual scripts" that prioritize male pleasure. How to break free from these patterns and create authentic sexual experiences. Why learning to recognize your body's signals of comfort and discomfort is essential for both healthy relationships…

People in this episode

Host: Lucy Rowett

Guest: Lizandra

Topics covered

• attachment styles
• trauma
• female pleasure
• relationships
• people-pleasing
• sexual happiness

Keywords

• attachment style
• sexual experiences
• people-pleasing
• female desire
• healthy relationships
• sexual pleasure

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: New Frame Therapy

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