The Art of Giving and Receiving Without the Guilt Using The Wheel of Consent

About this episode

Lauren and Trey explore the transformative power of The Wheel of Consent and its impact on giving and receiving in relationships.

In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive deep into the transformative power of The Wheel of Consent® following Trey’s recent experience at the "Like a Pro" workshop. They move beyond the basics of "no means no" to explore the nuanced artistry of giving and receiving, and how understanding these four quadrants can dismantle years of sexual obligation and shadow dynamics. Fresh off his second workshop, Trey shares the profound shifts that occur when we separate who is doing from who it is for. They discuss the common struggle many face, especially those raised in restrictive environments, with the "Shadow of Service" and the "Shadow of Taking." Lauren reflects on how her own "Warrior Queen" energy and professional drive sometimes clash with the need for true receptivity, while Trey explores the vulnerability required to make a "True Request" without an agenda. The conversation gets raw as they explore how Purity Culture and incomplete sexual education plant "weeds" in our sexual gardens. They discuss: Integrating the work of David Schnarch, Lauren and Trey model what it looks like to stand…

People in this episode

Hosts: Lauren, Trey

Topics covered

• consent
• intimacy
• sexual education
• vulnerability
• relationships
• personal growth

Keywords

• consent
• intimacy
• vulnerability
• sexual obligation
• relationships
• personal growth
• Purity Culture

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: The Wheel of Consent

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