The Pleasure For Health Podcast

Join myself and my 25 year old daughter as we discuss the in's and out's of AI and how it is shaping our intimate relationships. Have you tried an AI girlfriend? Is it cheating to have a secret relationship with an AI? So much is changing and it's hard to know what is really important between humans.

Creating Safety in a relationship is so much harder than we think. Why is this? How is our fear sabotaging our best intimate moments and robbing us of creating stronger and more fully authentic partnerships? Join Ailsa for an exploration of fear and how it often drives us away from what we really want.

Join me as I chat with Leslie Costello, a certified Perinatal Psychotherapist and certified Bioenergetic Therapist about early bonding and how that affects our adult relationships. We discussed the enmeshment of the early infant and mother relationship, the shame that can come with this. We even touched on AI and how that might be impeding our relational maturity. Leslie is the author of "Helping Mothers, Helping Babies: Somatic Perinatal Psychotherapy" a book designed to help talk therapists bring somatic tools into their sessions with mothers. Links: https://bookshop.org/p/books/helping-mothers-helping-babies-somatic-perinatal-psychotherapy-leslie-ann-costello/22519210?ean=9781739017057&next=t or order from your local independent bookstore. It is also available at the big online booksellers. Her blog is free on Substack: https://pamola10.substack.com

Desire mismatch. Let’s talk about what happens when two people have different levels of erotic desire. This could be due to personality differences or because of childbirth, illness or some other life event. How can the relationship stay alive and connected during this times? Join Ailsa live to find out more.

What is the Sacred Marriage within and more importantly how can we actually embody this? Let’s look at the reality of integrating opposing aspects of ourselves such as the conscious and unconscious parts of our Psyche.

Join me as I talk about different types of stressors and how they affect our relationships. This model of looking at horizontal and vertical axes in our lives and what we might be bringing unconsciously into our present moment with loved ones is super helpful if you want to find more intimacy and depth.

Presence is the foundation for Intimacy. Join me as we talk about what presence is and how we can cultivate more presence from both ourselves and our loved ones. Being physically present is not enough, when we are fully present with someone we listen deeply, notice subtle emotions and respond with authenticity.

From the perspective of the Celtic Triple Goddess - the Maiden the Mother and the Crone, how do we sense our vitality? Using the lens of our sexuality, our spirituality and our creativity we gain the full spectrum of our own life force. Join me for a discussion and exploration of this framework of Self Development. to see more of me and my work, check out www.pleasureforhealth.com

Are you tired of constantly putting others' needs before your own, only to feel unappreciated and emotionally drained? Discover how the seemingly harmless habit of people-pleasing can lead to a loss of authenticity, emotional exhaustion, and a blurred sense of self, and learn how to break free from this cycle to reclaim your life and relationships! We will discuss also how People Pleasing could be a positive attribute when coming from a place of integrity and Care for others.

Many great Philosopher’s and Sages have wrestled with the concept of desire. But what is it and what purpose does it serve for us as human beings? In all truth I will probably not answer these questions any more fully than they have already been answered but let’s ponder some thoughts and feelings around desire together and see where it leads us. Find out more on my website www.pleasureforhealth.com

Why do Narcissists make me feel so bad? As humans, we have an innate desire to connect in community; find our pack, so to speak. A major part of this communal experience is the feeling of co-regulation with others. It connects us on this physiological level through our nervous system. On our own, we have ways to Self regulate if we are stressed that might include taking a deep breath or exercising. Self-regulation is a process of managing one’s thoughts, emotions, and behaviours in response to external and internal stimuli. Co-regulation, on the other hand, is a process where two people work together to manage their emotions. In order to co-regulate successfully, each individual needs to be aware of their own emotions and be able to communicate them with their partner. Listen in as I discuss why Narcissistic people have trouble with co-regulation and even self-regulation.

A couple facing crisis in their relationship, such as separation or divorce, is on an initiatory path. Initiation is simply a set of challenges presented to an individual so that he or she may grow. Consequently, the troubles we encounter in our paths in the modern world are, in essence, initiatory to the extent that each one of them is life changing. The issue for Westerners is not so much the absence of initiation as it is the absence of a community to recognize initiatory passages. Malidoma Patrice Some Join me to discuss how relationships can offer us both an opportunity and a witness for initiations in our lives. Find out more about me at www.pleasureforhealth.com

How can we spice up our sex lives again? I wanted to address this topic, because it is one of the most common issues I hear about on a daily basis. We all hear about couples becoming ‘best friends’ or about ‘lesbian bed death’ or how ‘we haven’t had sex in months’, or ‘he/she is just not interested in me anymore’ from our friends, coworkers, on TV. The idea that inevitably our sex lives diminish the longer we stay with someone in a committed relationship, or the older we get, is endemic in our society. If you thought to yourself ‘that’s not us, we are doing great!’, then congratulations! You are one of the few lucky ones. But if, any part of this idea rings true to you, then listen in! Of course, this is not a simple problem with a one stop solution, but I thought I’d share a fun idea with you that is easy to try, and might spark a move in the right direction (ie. to the bedroom...or anywhere else you fancy some hot and steamy action!) Join me to discuss how sharing your fantasies or parts of them can catapult your relationship into hot, new territory. www.pleasureforhealth.com