The Problem with Being Perfect: How Unrealistic Standards Hurt Our Minds and Bodies

The Problem with Being Perfect: How Unrealistic Standards Hurt Our Minds and Bodies

From The Pulse by WHYY

March 26, 2026 · 50 min

About this episode

This episode explores the detrimental effects of perfectionism on mental health and well-being, particularly among teens and young adults.

We often think of perfectionism as a virtue; a kind of shorthand for high standards, a solid work ethic, and attention to detail. But in reality, perfectionism can be a paralyzing force — like sand wedged in the gears of our minds. It slows us down, makes us question our choices, and traps us in an endless cycle of tweaking and re-tweaking, unable to move on to the next task. It can even have consequences for our health, as we push ourselves beyond our limits, in pursuit of impossible standards. And it’s on the rise, especially among teens and young adults. On this episode, we explore what causes perfectionism, how we can escape its grip, and why letting go of unrealistic expectations doesn’t have to mean abandoning excellence. We hear from recovering perfectionists about what finally forced them to let go of their impossible standards, and how their lives have changed since. We talk with a longtime perfectionism researcher about what’s at the root of perfectionism, and some of its more dire consequences. And we learn about a new movement that’s pushing high school kids to invest less in their academic achievements — and more in how they matter to others. For most of her life…

People in this episode

Host: WHYY

Guest: Gitanjali Trevorrow-Seymour

Topics covered

  • perfectionism
  • mental health
  • teenagers
  • self-improvement
  • unrealistic standards

Keywords

  • perfectionism
  • mental health
  • unrealistic standards
  • teens
  • self-acceptance

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Organizations: WHYY, high school

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