Surrogacy for Gay Dads: Cost, Ethics & Building a Family

About this episode

Jaimie and Daniel discuss the journey to parenthood through surrogacy, exploring emotional and financial realities along the way.

Jaimie sits down with Daniel Berezowsky to talk about his and his husband’s journey to parenthood through surrogacy — and how their work in human rights shaped every step. They share the emotional and financial realities of IVF, choosing an egg donor, and waiting to be matched with a surrogate, along with the surprising lessons they learned along the way — including letting go of assumptions and expanding what family can look like. A thoughtful, honest conversation about queer family building, intention, and hope. 🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways You don’t need to have everything figured out before taking the first step toward parenthood Surrogacy is complex, emotional, and often far more expensive than expected Approaching family building through a human rights lens can lead to more intentional, ethical decisions The process of choosing an egg donor can feel overwhelming and deeply personal Matching with a surrogate can take time — and requires patience and trust Assumptions about people or places don’t always reflect reality Queer family building often expands the meaning of family in beautiful and unexpected ways Even when the path feels uncertain, hope and community matter 🏳️‍🌈 About…

People in this episode

Host: Jaimie Kelton

Guest: Daniel Berezowsky

Topics covered

• surrogacy
• queer parenting
• IVF
• human rights
• family building
• emotional realities

Keywords

• surrogacy
• gay dads
• IVF
• egg donor
• surrogate
• queer family
• human rights

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Two Dads to Be

Places: Mexico, New York City

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