185. The Rules You Never Wrote

185. The Rules You Never Wrote

From The Transformation Network™ by The Transformation Network™

June 12, 2026 · 33 min

About this episode

This episode explores the silent rules that govern relationships and challenges listeners to examine their origins and validity.

Most of the rules you are holding people to... your partner, your kid, your parent, your friend ...you did not write. You inherited them. In this second episode of The Truth About Relationships, I take you deeper into the silent rulebook running every relationship in your life. Where did these rules come from? Who taught them to you? Are they even true? Most of the rules running in your head right now were absorbed long before you had the capacity to evaluate any of them... from the household you grew up in, the religion you were raised in, the first heartbreak that wounded you, the era you came of age in, the culture you were shaped by. And then you took those rules and have been running them on the people in your life ever since. This episode covers: What these silent rules actually are (and why they cause more relational suffering than betrayal or distance ever do) Where the rules came from and the deeper question almost no one stops to ask Why so many of these rules are not facts... they are inherited beliefs that have never been examined The difference between a want, a want match, a request, a rule, and a threat The deeply personal story of a recent moment with her son... a…

People in this episode

Host: Leah

Topics covered

  • relationships
  • inherited beliefs
  • silent rules
  • emotional reactions
  • self-awareness

Keywords

  • rules
  • relationships
  • beliefs
  • self-improvement
  • emotional reactions
  • parenting
  • communication

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